Just been diagnosed (or re-diagnosed? from ptsd and gad) with BPD. Don't know what to think really. I believe I am empathetic but I am definitely prone to intense emotional shifts which can be hard to stop/change. I have learned to take myself away from situations and identify when someone is pushing my buttons cause they know they will get a reaction but sometimes situations hurt/irritate/scare/anger etc me so much I do go a bit crazy and it takes a while to calm down. Got better over the years at lashing out i.e. not been in any physical altercations for over 2years ago. I think a lot of it with me is frustration that sometimes people don't understand what I'm trying to say/or that I'm not shouting at them etc, as I can get a little too passionate and emotional about certain things which I feel along with anxiety makes it hard to communicate yourself the way you intend. And often in very strong emotional states of mind I'll barely be able to remember it, like I'll just forget about it automatically it seems and then can't remember details of what happened during the time of the argument or whatever it was. I dunno I'm just going off the top of my head here and am not very articulate.
On the keeping kids away from their dads thing - I'd like to think not all woman tagged as Borderline would try to keep their kids away from their dads and it's a shame that this is the view of us as a group and not as individuals...surely this decision is down to plain empathy and trust? It's also a big shame a lot of woman do indeed feel like they have the right to play God but they may not necessary have a Borderline Personality Disorder diagnoses. Would be interesting to see figures though. Trust is a hard one for me, but I find empathy is easier. Unless he was a bad person who couldn't be trusted around children why wouldn't I let them see their Dad? That would be wrong for everyone involved.
I think someone also mentioned their need to "skip the small talk" when they meet new people and can find themselves being either too honest or open about personal shit/or stuff that most people may find slightly less appealing to dive in to sharing from the get go. (note: much different than say, keeping a secret, I like to pride myself in being a trustworthy friend)
Anyway, that's all I really have to contribute for now (personal exp.)... Going to be starting an intense group "schema" therapy soon. Anyone tried/heard anything about it? Not sure about the group aspect of it.
P.s. I feel guilty/ ashamed a lot of the time which is really the driving force for my self-isolating/self-destructive behaviour as well as the additional shame from impulsive acts.
On the keeping kids away from their dads thing - I'd like to think not all woman tagged as Borderline would try to keep their kids away from their dads and it's a shame that this is the view of us as a group and not as individuals...surely this decision is down to plain empathy and trust? It's also a big shame a lot of woman do indeed feel like they have the right to play God but they may not necessary have a Borderline Personality Disorder diagnoses. Would be interesting to see figures though. Trust is a hard one for me, but I find empathy is easier. Unless he was a bad person who couldn't be trusted around children why wouldn't I let them see their Dad? That would be wrong for everyone involved.
I think someone also mentioned their need to "skip the small talk" when they meet new people and can find themselves being either too honest or open about personal shit/or stuff that most people may find slightly less appealing to dive in to sharing from the get go. (note: much different than say, keeping a secret, I like to pride myself in being a trustworthy friend)
Anyway, that's all I really have to contribute for now (personal exp.)... Going to be starting an intense group "schema" therapy soon. Anyone tried/heard anything about it? Not sure about the group aspect of it.
P.s. I feel guilty/ ashamed a lot of the time which is really the driving force for my self-isolating/self-destructive behaviour as well as the additional shame from impulsive acts.
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