^ Honestly, there are good and bad docs everywhere I've been. I found a good doc in London first shot recently... by spending about a week researching different pain docs and reading their online reviews and stuff first. And even then, it was at least 60% luck. (And frickin' expensive.)
Main thing for me, is that with my diagnosis, they can usually feel pretty safe that they won't get in legal trouble for giving me opioids. I take a stack of medical documentation with me to every appointment, including pics of my innards taken during one of my ops. Before diagnosis, I just got a whole lot of 'tough it out', basically because they didn't know enough to realise there was actually something seriously wrong. Mostly 'cos ladies with abdominal pain are just delicate petals who can't take their g-d-given lady pains, amirite? (Sorry, sarcasm.)
Only tips I can give are:
1. If your current docs aren't helping, find new ones. Hang in there and keep looking 'til you get good ones.
2. Emphasise the impact pain's having on your quality of life, e.g. "I'm missing classes because I'm in too much pain to concentrate," or "it takes me hours to get to sleep because I'm in too much pain," or "I'm always grumpy at work 'cause it hurts so much and my co-workers are starting to hate me," or "I'm in too much pain to go for a walk each day like my physio told me to," or whatever the impacts it's having on you. It seems to put it in context for docs more than citing pain scale numbers does, IME.
3. If you have a family member, partner or close friend who can come to appointments with you, take them; then it's not just your word that pain's interfering with your life, since a third party is there willing to vouch for you. My ex-husband had this really angry way of saying, "she even looks like she's in pain when she's asleep," and I'm pretty sure docs sometimes gave me pain meds just so I wouldn't have him yelling at me for making pain-face while I slept!
4. This is just me, but I'm really paranoid about misusing my meds in any way, lest my doctors find out and take them away. So I tend to advise not using them for fun, especially since the more tolerance you build up, the less they'll work when you really need them to. I'm not against fun in general, and my doctors know that I still drink while on bupe patches (usually moderately but not always
) 'cos I enjoy it, but the only time I have fun on my meds is when they finally make really severe pain just melt away and I can get back to having a life again, instead of just curling up in a little ball going 'ow ow ow'. Which is more relief than actual fun, really. (Yes, I am a total square
)
Good luck! (Sad to say, you still need it.)
Main thing for me, is that with my diagnosis, they can usually feel pretty safe that they won't get in legal trouble for giving me opioids. I take a stack of medical documentation with me to every appointment, including pics of my innards taken during one of my ops. Before diagnosis, I just got a whole lot of 'tough it out', basically because they didn't know enough to realise there was actually something seriously wrong. Mostly 'cos ladies with abdominal pain are just delicate petals who can't take their g-d-given lady pains, amirite? (Sorry, sarcasm.)
Only tips I can give are:
1. If your current docs aren't helping, find new ones. Hang in there and keep looking 'til you get good ones.
2. Emphasise the impact pain's having on your quality of life, e.g. "I'm missing classes because I'm in too much pain to concentrate," or "it takes me hours to get to sleep because I'm in too much pain," or "I'm always grumpy at work 'cause it hurts so much and my co-workers are starting to hate me," or "I'm in too much pain to go for a walk each day like my physio told me to," or whatever the impacts it's having on you. It seems to put it in context for docs more than citing pain scale numbers does, IME.
3. If you have a family member, partner or close friend who can come to appointments with you, take them; then it's not just your word that pain's interfering with your life, since a third party is there willing to vouch for you. My ex-husband had this really angry way of saying, "she even looks like she's in pain when she's asleep," and I'm pretty sure docs sometimes gave me pain meds just so I wouldn't have him yelling at me for making pain-face while I slept!

4. This is just me, but I'm really paranoid about misusing my meds in any way, lest my doctors find out and take them away. So I tend to advise not using them for fun, especially since the more tolerance you build up, the less they'll work when you really need them to. I'm not against fun in general, and my doctors know that I still drink while on bupe patches (usually moderately but not always


Good luck! (Sad to say, you still need it.)