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... boredom.

what does boredom mean to me? i'm sober.

honestly though, i get bored when i know i have nothing to occupy my time with. for example, this morning when i woke up i thought to myself "what the hell am i going to do with myself today..?" and nothing appealing came to mind. immediately after i couldn't think of something to do i felt a rush of anxiety and discomfort. my thoughts became negative and frustrated.

i think most people need to feel like they are accomplishing something, or working towards some sort of goal. if you do not have any goals it is easy for life to feel very pointless and unrewarding. if i start my days with no goals, i get bored extremely easily.
 
belfort said:
^^hehe opiates eliminated boredom to me as well..i mean, as soon as i found opiates i seemed like i found the cure to boredom...as long as the supply is there..

my biggest problem is boredom and i can bored cutting brick, painting walls, mowing the yard, anything...i call patches of 'life boredom'....others call it anhedonia and ill be honest i dont know what to do to get rid of it..obviously drugs help and exercise does as well but you cant do that at work or in front of other people so.
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But when I wasn't on opiates I was more bored than ever..

in one way it helped with Boredom, in another way it created more..

but luckily these days I don't get bored anymore.. boredom is a very very serious problem, it would actually drive me crazy.. sometimes I would get so bored I didn't know what to do.
Boredom was actually what got me more into opiates. And graduating from university, and cutting down your work doesn't help much either..
 
boredom, tough cuz everthing n i mean EVERYTHING is different without heroin, but it still feels like hell not that refreshed version yet. So right now, fuck everything does feel boring..
 
I hate how I feel like there's absolutely nothing that interests me in this world besides drugs. I'm not even depressed anymore. I can easily stay off drugs. But then there isn't anything I feel like doing. And I tried for a long time, but it was always the same, not finding any pleasure in it, and now I don't even start anything. So I sit around and feel sorry for myself all day. It's like drugs gave me a purpose or goal, something to strive for, and my life revolved around that-getting high, buying drugs, talking and thinking about them... And now I don't have anything to live for. I just don't know how much longer I can live like that...
 
^Sometimes it is the expectations we put on ourselves that prevent us from connecting with things. I don't know how old you are but I think especially for those that have grown up with such an overload of media hype connecting with meaningful activity is more difficult. Everything from drinking a coke to decorating your house to hanging out with friends is supposed to make you wildly happy to the point that music starts playing in the background! Sometimes the most basic things are the answer--getting outside of yourself, not expecting anything to become a definition of you or an image. Simple things can deepen over time. Art saves me until it starts to get too serious, then it fails me. I'm most excited by experimenting with stuff and most serene and not bored when I am observing, when the focus is off of me.
 
herbavore said:
^Sometimes it is the expectations we put on ourselves that prevent us from connecting with things. I don't know how old you are but I think especially for those that have grown up with such an overload of media hype connecting with meaningful activity is more difficult. Everything from drinking a coke to decorating your house to hanging out with friends is supposed to make you wildly happy to the point that music starts playing in the background! Sometimes the most basic things are the answer--getting outside of yourself, not expecting anything to become a definition of you or an image. Simple things can deepen over time. Art saves me until it starts to get too serious, then it fails me. I'm most excited by experimenting with stuff and most serene and not bored when I am observing, when the focus is off of me.
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very beautifully told many many times I am bored specially if I dont have anything to do the best thing its just to do something and if music and weed doesnt help just do something around the house I am sure there is something to clean I dont know at leat I feel alot better when I do something anyway when I was a kid psychiatrist told me boredom is sign of depression hell I said we are living in a depressed world
 
come to think of it.... escaping boredom has always been easy; from early on it never was hard to go places & do things, all within the space inside my head. but I always caught heat for being a daydreamer, and finishing things before everyone else. always seemed to have a surfeit of time.... and time enough to think too much.
 
Yeah, I'm with you, IX. I don't get bored. I love empty time. No it even goes further than that--I need empty time. I never agitate in traffic, I never agitate in long lines--I always feel like I have just been given the gift of some time to daydream. I love to space out and I get crazy when my life is too full for it even if it is full with things I like to do. IDK, I guess maybe it comes from being older and realizing how fast time is going!
 
I have always kind of felt like "Bored is as bored does..." kind of like Forrest Gump's "Stupid is as stupid does" - as in, I feel that if I'm bored, I must be a boring person. I don't want to be a boring person, and I am not. I *always* have something I could be doing. Weather it be painting a new picture, editing some old photography photos, playing cards, learning a new language, hanging with friends...I could go on - but I never find myself without SOMETHING to do. If you're bored, maybe you could try doing something constructive...volunteer for an hour at a shelter. Go to the old folks home and talk with an old person for awhile. You'd probably tickle them pink for a week, just from your 10 minute conversation. You'd be surprised how good it makes you feel inside to do something for someone else.
 
I tend to refer to it as "not rightness" as in it feels like something is not right. It is definately a familiar feeling, something I used to feel as a kid.

Best cure for 'boredom' - take a risk. Do something you wouldn't normally do - I find this helps. Getting slightly out of my comfort zone in one way or another - seems to promote growth in some form. Life is becoming all right and less boring - just gotta put the action in!
 
I am bored as hell stuck in is bed unable to do anything entertaining because of stupid pain relapses and winter. Roll on tomorrow when I might actually get a different meds regime and a little relief!!!! It's gonna be a long, long night.
 
theartofwar said:
boredom, tough cuz everthing n i mean EVERYTHING is different without heroin, but it still feels like hell not that refreshed version yet. So right now, fuck everything does feel boring..
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I Know what u mean

My biggest issue is weight gain i have a problem with boredom eating
 
I read somewhere that "boring" actually means that you have something important to do that you're putting off or you don't want to do. I came to realize that this is true almost every time and I do mean every time. Think about it the next time you get bored, isn't there actually something that you are supposed to be doing and you don't want to? If you go and do it, then when you have nothing to do you won't get bored, but you'll find something you do like doing with the spare time.
A great example is someone who said they would get awfully bored when they were out of a job, they should have been looking for a job (well, you can't do this at night, of course), but that's probably why they'd feel so bored at night time, they knew there was something they where supposed to be doing.
Think about it next time you're bored!
 
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