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theredone

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Hello folks!

No long stories today...although the problems are basically the same...

I will keep it short and to the point:
Many gurus around use to advice that one always should keep the lady (aka female in my vocabulary) happy by giving her a good orgasm, and as long as you're "a real-man" and the girl is happy you're golden and the relationships is going to blossom and no more children will be hungry in Africa etc..

Well not! After few minutes I simply want to ejaculate, but she is nowhere ready. actually, she's bored!! I have to slow down many times and to put off the ejaculation and literally it takes her 20 minutes of f-king for her to get really hot and crazy...and another 10 for me to simultaneously caress her boobs with one hand, hold her clit with another and fuck her - all simultaneously for her to be able to have one simple orgasm which is nothing like "she is losing control etc.", but more like mhmmmm and that's it. I consider penis size of 7'' to be sufficient.

Jez is everyone there like that? I am sooo bored. After putting off ejaculation for one or two times, I lose intrest in sex myself and do the rest as a chore, I literaly then can continue f-king her for hours, sometimes even I can't ejaculate...I get bored from putting it off all the time in the beginning.

Who the hell invented "get the female satisfied" concept?? Hope that guy is now burning in HELL. In oldies goldies times it was fuck & go, and the girl didn't have any right to object...and today...

Not to mention that she never woke me up with a blowjob although I told her I would like a few times...in fact she only gives bj's when I argue and pressure her into doing...and then she whines months later...

What a spoiled prick...
 
okay first, you are going about it backwards. you need to do all that foreplay stuff BEFORE you start fucking. you get her all hot and horny and ready to blow then you insert penis.

also try getting some toys that vibrate... use these in her nipples, clit, or any where she is ticklish.


btw i am a girl and i can get there in 3 minutes minimum and 20 minutes maximum. my guy takes 45 minutes. so i get 2 or 3 to his 1... SCORE!
 
theredone said:
Hello folks!

No long stories today...although the problems are basically the same...

I will keep it short and to the point:
Many gurus around use to advice that one always should keep the lady (aka female in my vocabulary) happy by giving her a good orgasm, and as long as you're "a real-man" and the girl is happy you're golden and the relationships is going to blossom and no more children will be hungry in Africa etc..

Well not! After few minutes I simply want to ejaculate, but she is nowhere ready. actually, she's bored!! I have to slow down many times and to put off the ejaculation and literally it takes her 20 minutes of f-king for her to get really hot and crazy...and another 10 for me to simultaneously caress her boobs with one hand, hold her clit with another and fuck her - all simultaneously for her to be able to have one simple orgasm which is nothing like "she is losing control etc.", but more like mhmmmm and that's it. I consider penis size of 7'' to be sufficient.

Jez is everyone there like that? I am sooo bored. After putting off ejaculation for one or two times, I lose intrest in sex myself and do the rest as a chore, I literaly then can continue f-king her for hours, sometimes even I can't ejaculate...I get bored from putting it off all the time in the beginning.

Who the hell invented "get the female satisfied" concept?? Hope that guy is now burning in HELL. In oldies goldies times it was fuck & go, and the girl didn't have any right to object...and today...

Not to mention that she never woke me up with a blowjob although I told her I would like a few times...in fact she only gives bj's when I argue and pressure her into doing...and then she whines months later...

What a spoiled prick...
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Well, I have some good news and some bad news for you.

The good news is that in the equitable scheme of things a woman is responsible for her own orgasm. She shouldn't rely on you to do all the work and for her to rely on only your input (snicker) then she's not doing her part.

The bad news is you sound like an entitled wanker whining because you aren't fucking a porn star.

Win some lose some.
 
yeah man if you just stick to foreplay until shes begging you to fuck her i think thatll solve most of your problems.
 
ech0s85 said:
yeah man if you just stick to foreplay until shes begging you to fuck her i think thatll solve most of your problems.
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Yeah...and it takes her one hour to come there. She just enjoys foreplay and caressing and usually is not in a hurry to go to the next step...

Not to mention that I have to do the 'after sex' cooldown caressing and small-talk. What a bother!

Why the hell females behave in such a different way and have all those stupid time-consuming needs...
 
doris delay said:
Oh, you bet she's bored. You suck in bed, sorry dude!
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Bored? I'm bored too. Did the people hundreds of years ago have the toys etc? And now seems that no female can have an orgasm without ordeal of prerequisites...

Bored, if she is bored with one person than we should switch to poligamy, mock the relationships and faciliate networking with other people instead of being defensive and raising the guard with 'I don't know this person' behaviour...
 
your mentality is all wrong. Honestly I dont think I could even begin to help you. It would probably shock you if I begun to describe how I approach sex given the way you approach sex.

So, I'll just say that I feel sorry for you.
 
Here's the thing - I'm a guy. If I cared only about my own pleasure/orgasm, I wouldn't have much desire for a partner. If that's the goal, there's a lot you can do by yourself. Get a fleshlight, throw in some accessories, watch some porn, etc. I could keep myself pretty content that way.

If you don't enjoy the experience of it all with a partner, then there's no point. Don't worry too much about orgasm - a lot of that is mental on her side of things anyway. Just enjoy the experience.
 
Chazra said:
okay first, you are going about it backwards. you need to do all that foreplay stuff BEFORE you start fucking. you get her all hot and horny and ready to blow then you insert penis.

also try getting some toys that vibrate... use these in her nipples, clit, or any where she is ticklish.


btw i am a girl and i can get there in 3 minutes minimum and 20 minutes maximum. my guy takes 45 minutes. so i get 2 or 3 to his 1... SCORE!
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I agree. It sounds like the OP needs to learn about how to get his woman ready before he even starts vaginal penetration. I can only speak for the women that I have been intimate with, but foreplay, with all of them, was their favorite part. Most women are unable to reach orgasm through vaginal intercourse.

How about performing oral sex on her so she orgasms before you guys start having actual vaginal sex? How about caressing her, kissing her, massaging her back? Ask her what she likes and explore. In my experience, intimacy for women is much more about feeling wanted, feeling close to her partner, than just getting off. Besides, once a woman is properly warmed up the sex is much better for both parties.

theredone said:
Who the hell invented "get the female satisfied" concept?? Hope that guy is now burning in HELL. In oldies goldies times it was fuck & go, and the girl didn't have any right to object...and today...
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How do you know that, in the past, it was "fuck and go"? On what are you basing this? How can you even know? Also, how do you feel justified in believing that your partner has no right to receive pleasure from sexual intimacy? How would you feel if she felt that way about you?

Not to mention that she never woke me up with a blowjob although I told her I would like a few times...in fact she only gives bj's when I argue and pressure her into doing...and then she whines months later...
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You don't think it's wrong to pressure your partner into doing something that she does not want to do or is not comfortable doing? You are not entitled to get something in bed simply because you want it. What you are describing sounds like rape if you are nagging and pressuring her into performing oral sex on you when she does not want to. She has every right to whine about it and if she were to leave you because of it I wouldn't blame her.

Perhaps having a long, serious talk about what the both of you need and expect from your relationship would do the both of you a world of good. Maybe the two of you are simply not sexually compatible.

Real sex and intimacy is, surprisingly, not usually like anything that you see in porn. Porn is intended to be a fantasy for men. Fantasy is not reality.
 
foreplay first fool. thats what gets it heated up. let your fingers and tongue do the work and give your dick a break

lick her up n play with those titties like crazy and slowly move into sex

its not about the size of the hammer. its how you hit the nail. try thrusting with your hips instead of your whole body. get her hips above yours if youre hitting it from the front/you on top. start slow and build faster motions. switch positions a few times. find if she likes kinky stuff like pulling her hair or slapping her ass. just random words of advice.
 
It just doesn't sound to me like you enjoy making love.

That sucks, man. Good luck.

(I've heard Fleshlights are actually pretty great, and totally boredom and hassle free.)
 
You gotta find out what makes your girl tick, what turns her on. If she is really turned on, she can cum a lot quicker. 20 minutes of plowing away is not going to do it for any girl.

Sex is more of a mental thing for women, while it's more physical for guys. Foreplay can begin days before you actually have sex: an exchange of some dirty talk over the phone, playful touching and hinting, etc. Women can't just "jump" right into sex most times, they have to be turned on mentally and physically.

Maybe this means calling her a dirty slut while you are doing her, maybe this means saying "i love you so much baby", maybe she is into some slapping and biting.

If she is not engaged mentally, it's going to take forever for her to come.

I would suggest talking to her about what turns her on... see if she is into any kinkiness, slapping, dirty talk, or something similar. Maybe she likes role playing and dressing up, who knows. Knowing what turns her on will make life a lot easier for you.
 
I can see where this guy is coming from. Sometimes you want a quickie without doing a lot of work. If you have a good relationship you can agree that once in a while she'll get ready on her own with BOB or something and then have a quickie, as long as she gets attention paid to her most of the time.

Still, it seems like his biggest problem is he's just not that into her, otherwise he'd probably enjoy the journey as much as the destination.

Anyone else think maybe this thread is the guy's girlfriend? http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?p=9259289
 
Instead of whinging about it on the internet and then keeping on doing something you hate like a chump, why don't you fix the situation? Why do you even stay with this girl? You don't sound like someone who values the other aspects of a relationship such as loving and respecting another person, otherwise you'd be getting off on doing something that makes her happy, even though it doesn't give you direct pleasure. And then you complain she doesn't give you blowjobs - for many girls giving a blowjob is similar to the situation you've described - it's a lot of work for little direct pleasure for her - but she'll get off on it and love it because she knows how good it's making you feel - that's what happens when you actually give a shit about someone other than yourself. Your solution is dumping the girl and getting off with a pro.
 
once again this loser opens another thread

op hint hint ; your probably very lousy in bed . gosh i feel so bad for your girlfriend
you must be such a horrible lay . seems like your girlfriend is the best you can do thats why you stick around


LOSER !
 
^^ Why are you empathizing with his girlfriend, you don't even know her, she could be a very bad person for all you know.

Sure he has a messed up point of view, no need to attack him personally. geez... everyone else had something productive to say except you...
 
I never even put the 7 in until my tongue has made her cum more than once......

You are going about it the wrong or she just is one that really has a hard time reaching climax....
 
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