Bondage and Domination fixes relationships!!

[Dizmal]

It's cool that you and your partner found a new way to have fun sexually, but it's a little self-indulgent to propose right in the title of this thread that suddenly it "fixes relationships."

I spent some time sharing a lot of fantasies with a girl who was really into being submissive and me taking control, and it was a blast. It sure as hell didn't fix anything, though, as our main problems were still present and continued to get worse until it was completely insurmountable. The sexual aspect was great. It didn't make things worse, nor did it solve anything.

In terms of full-blown bondage stuff, I can imagine that in a comfortable and strong relationship, role playing can have a lot of benefits and it can be very exciting. What's most important, though, is that both people feel safe and comfortable with the other person. There were certain fantasies this one girl clearly had in mind that I've just never been aroused by, though. The most important thing about sex, to me, is that the girl is enjoying herself just as much as I am.

I agree. Me and my ex used to experiment with BDSM and all sorts of role plays, she really loved being dominated and I loved doing the dominating, we switched roles a few times and it was exciting, but we both agreed that we prefered me in charge.

I admit it allways made us more open about our emotions and views on pleasuring each other, and it improved our power exchange and sexual communication, but once it becomes the "norm" you still have to realise other parts of the relationship are just as important, like trust, communication and discussing the future, making clear what you both want. I dont really wanna jump on the user bashing bandwagon, but I think some people (including the OP) should be a bit more carefull/respectfull.

 

[modern buddha]

What was it then? Serious business like Non-consensual? Sexual assault+forcible confinement +aggravated assault?

Perhaps you meant to kill the person? Self Defense?

I dunno about you, but I can tell the difference between a playful strike for sake of bdsm (one where I do not intend to cause death or major injury that would require a Dr) and one that is intended to be a serious blow with the goal of incapacitating the person. Very different things.

There are spaces in between, don't forget.

 

[rangrz]

There are spaces in between, don't forget.

Yes, how could I forget about such wonders as water boarding or conducted energy weapons.

*TAAAAZE!* Thank you Miss. *TAAAAZE!* thank you Miss!. ...

 

[Noodle]

That seems more sadistic than anything else. Might you be thinking of S&M?

When does your perverse ( because really it is ) enjoyment become criminal?