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Simply_Live said:
Poly = more than one.
Amorous = sharing love.

Whether it's sex or having multiply relationships, I consider it the same thing.
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Yes yes I speak a smattering of Greek & my French/Italian/Spanish is better - so I don't need you telling me what either of those words mean. Since you're such a pedant, I thought I would give you a taste of your own medicine, and therefore I urge you to look up what the words "polygamy" and "polyamory" actually mean.

This isn't marriage or love - it's sex.

Also you only "consider it the same thing", because you're incorrect on this occasion & are trying to save face. It's OK though - I made the same mistake 3 weeks ago with usage of this word(polygamy), which is why I know the true definitions of both.

Excuse me for derailing, OP.
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
Yes yes I speak a smattering of Greek & my French/Italian/Spanish is better - so I don't need you telling me what either of those words mean. Since you're such a pedant, I thought I would give you a taste of your own medicine, and therefore I urge you to look up what the words "polygamy" and "polyamory" actually mean.

This isn't marriage or love - it's sex.

Also you only "consider it the same thing", because you're incorrect on this occasion & are trying to save face. It's OK though - I made the same mistake 3 weeks ago with usage of this word(polygamy), which is why I know the true definitions of both.

Excuse me for derailing, OP.
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Being "incorrect" is only a matter of speaking. If I consider it the same thing today, I could very easily change my mind and say it's not the same thing tomorrow, making me correct. What I say I believe and what I do are two different things.

Who knows, I could have just been trying to toot your "roar" whistle. :P
 
deep down inside, i think all women are bi, most are just in denial. culture is a poison :-/
 
rm-rf said:
deep down inside, i think all women are bi, most are just in denial. culture is a poison :-/
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Actually this is not true. Most women and most people are straight/heterosexual.

Straight/hetero women are not bisexual at all.

I know lesbian women some who have even been married to men or had boyfriends when they were closeted or younger and didn't want to be lesbian and they're not bisexual even though they've had sex with men.

It's like this with gay men too I'm gay and I've never had sex with a woman but I have some gay male friends who like the lesbians I wrote about did have sex with women or even wound up marrying women when they were closeted or not wanting to be gay and they're still gay.

You might as well be claiming that most Italian/Mediterranian men, Arabic men, and Latino men are somehow bisexual even though it's all a bad stereotype based on those cultures. Yes there are a lot of bisexual men too but this doesn't mean that every single man or woman is somehow bisexual and is in denial or just doesn't know that they're somehow bisexual.
 
Sepher said:
Tomdpimp, I've come back to this a few times meaning to post, but finding it hard to put my thoughts together. Reading it again it's maybe because I can't see where your 'bisexual' angle comes in? Reading all your posts together in context it doesn't sound like it's all about you exploring your 'bisexuality' at all? I'm using 'quote marks' cos I'm not convinced that's the whole thing, or even the main part of it? Just sounds like you want to swing with the missus involved and explore a wider world of sexual experiences, which may include bisexual ones, but not necessarily? You acknowledge yourself in your first post that you're not physically / sexually attracted to men thus far ((( whereas I am ))) so it sounds more like the 'bisexual' ((( or perhaps more accurately bicurious? ))) thing is just part of a curiosity for scenarios beyond what would be considered the norm for heterosexual couples?

If I'm wrong there I apologise of course, but I think you need to have your desires very clear in your head before you can even hope to communicate them to your partner. You have to be aware that she might not only not share them, she may be actually repulsed by them. You need to be on a pretty firm footing yourself to deal with that. Standard advice on swinging sites when people ask how to introduce their partner is break it slowly, introduce ideas into your fantasy / sexual life in a non-threatening way, see if that enables her to share fantasies she may have had but has felt unable to express up to now, see what happens. It's baiting a hook and seeing if she bites to some extent. That doesn't mean she's gonna bite or that you're gonna get what you want out of it though. If she backs off or doesn't acknowledge the suggestion it ain't gonna work.

Don't push. I've seen couples fall apart where one half tried to accomodate their partners desires and just couldn't do it. The bond between you has to be one of total trust to even think about swinging. Inviting someone else into your bed has to be a shared experience, each of you taking pleasure in the other's pleasure and revelling in it. If you ain't got that it's doomed.
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I would not be so quick to say that this guy is somehow not bisexual.

I don't know any straight guy or gay guy who wants to have sex with both a man and a woman at the same time or explore their bodies.

Bi-curious is just another term for being bisexual. If someone's straight, or if they're gay like me they're only going to be sexually attracted to one gender and not going to fantasize about other genders or want sex with them.

I do agree that the OP should talk to his female partner and see if she's OK with all of this or if she wants to get another bisexual man and they can have sex with each other at the same time like people who are into 3 ways do.
 
While on certiAn stimulants everyone can have a bi thought don't dwell on it or act on it . You will have nothing but regret. Don't share your girl study karmasutr or something. Remember you can get your wife off , study the female body and never let another man touch your girl, manhood is gone if you do this, in every Spect of life
 
just being a guy in my 20's, I would say that for women in my age group, it is more than accepted to be bisexual. I literally have noticed this trend emerging in the last 6 to 8 years or so...but the flip side is that for my age group, it's almost taboo for guys to be bi. It's like guys have to choose one way or the other, end of discussion...I think it has to do with how the majority of women find it hard to imagine that their boyfriend used to have sex with another man...while vice versa women can always sweep their past sexual history under the rug. Has anyone else noticed this?

...however, I am not saying that more and more guys are not also experimenting with bisexuality, like girls in their 20's...BUT, if a guy experiments, trust me, he ain't going to be telling his homies about the bi experience...
 
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^ I find it the opposite to you. It's very common and acceptable for guys in their early-twenties to experiment with bisexuality and by their mid-twenties they're comfortable enough to openly come out (I say this as a 25yo bi guy). Obviously your global location would have an effect on how often you see this due to the public opinion.
 
^ The South (that might qualify as outside the tesseract). I was generalizing somewhat, but yeah, I am just speaking from my own experience from what I've seen.
 
My dad told me he never knew any bisexuals that were happy in their relatuionshps, or just life? i was bummed when I heard that, but don't believe it has to be the truth, of course.

I had a few non-starter gay experience that put me off the idea; but both were in denial and others Im not attracted to. I think it's time to let myself get fucked and blow a guy that is actually gay (and masculine). Though I would end up poss breaking his heart since I prefer being with women..

OP I hope everyones dreams get fulfilled ; )
 
omnipresenthuman said:
^ The South (that might qualify as outside the tesseract). I was generalizing somewhat, but yeah, I am just speaking from my own experience from what I've seen.
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Yeah, people are a lot more open minded about sexuality in Australia than where you are.

modern buddha said:
Poly = more than one.
Amorous = sharing love.

Whether it's sex or having multiply relationships, I consider it the same thing.
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It's not. Polyamory is pretty specifically not just about the sexual relationship at all.

People who identify as polyamorous typically reject the view that sexual and relational exclusivity are necessary for deep, committed, long-term loving relationships. Those who are open to, or emotionally suited for, polyamory may embark on a polyamorous relationship when single or already in a monogamous or open relationship. Sex is not necessarily a primary focus in polyamorous relationships, which commonly consist of people seeking to build long-term relationships with more than one person on mutually agreeable grounds, with sex as only one aspect of their relationships.
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modern buddha said:
Deep down inside, I think all humans try to label themselves things to keep up with the ebb and flow of culture. I think we are all just us.

... culture is pretty poisonous though, I do agree.
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How did I overlook this?


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