Sex + Drugs Benzos and ejaculating

[axe battler]

I have a wonderful girlfriend who says she understands I simply can't come due to tapering benzos.
At first I thought pregabs were to blame, but I haven't taken any in weeks now, I recently went from 70 to 80mg methadone, which could be contributing, but as I reduce benzos will this subside, or will I have to wait until I'm off them?
I'm sure as my dose lowers it'll happen, but I feel like shit cause even though she's beautiful and very good in bed, 50mg diazepam, sometimes 3-4mg etizolam is making it impossible for me. I fear it might be making her self conscious.
I still get erections no problem, but bless her she really wants me to come. This is also now getting into my head, and I worry I'm broken or because I'm approaching 40, testosterone could be an issue. I did manage to successfully masturbate when thinking of one of our recent sex sessions, but I had to really go for it and almost gave up. Ugh embarrassing.
I want off ASAP.
Can anyone give me reassurance this has happened to them?
Could mushrooms or acid affect this too? They're the only drugs we do recreationally other than a bit of drinking.

Thanks for reading.

 

[Spaced]

I have no experience with methadone personally but been on several opioids and been in your exact shoes with tapering benzos while having a mate

But for me it was temporary it's mainly just due to the sedatives and the fact that you're not in homeostasis because you're going thru withdrawals so it should go away with time as you get off the meds and get more used to your methadone dosage but no matter what the methadone is always going to make it a little harder because your body is getting more dopamine from that than you would get from having an orgasm

Not to mention since you already know it's likely to happen and you're thinking about that instead of relaxing and enjoying yourself half of it is probably mental as well

But if it's any consolation I was addicted to like 400 mg of Xanax a day and eventually I still went back to normal

 

[foodcrisis]

i have no experience with psychedelics dulling sex drive..

even when i was a teen i couldn't ejaculate or get into sex while on kilonipin. when i stop i'm usually pretty horny the day after (i have no experience with using for more than weeks at a time), but i notice my semen isn't as thick the day after even if i only use for a day or two..