Re: Re: Re: Beg to differ...
Regardless, the answer is the same. Whether you have to use a drug due to severe physical illness or you are compelled to use it due to addiction, both conditions will affect your ability to parent. Besides, the example of having to use morphine was inextricably linked to one's having cancer; can you think of another condition besides debilitating physical illness that would require one to regularly take a powerful pain killer like morphine? Have you ever seen someone who was prescribed morphine in these circumstances? I have- two. One was in the last stages of breast cancer. The other was in the later stages of chronic lung failure combined with a broken hip.
I know that people can be recreational users; at least this is what I'm told on BL. I've met very few of them in person. Regardless, even if you have never had a problem with addiction, there are still so many other inherent risks.
The father of my child has been using coke for 10 years. Whether or not he has ever been addicted, I can't say. He thought he was being incredibly safe and responsible about his use. He lived with his girlfriend and her two other children, both in the elementary school ages. They also have a 2-year old child together. He never used drugs around the kids and made sure it didn't interfere with his ability to be a parent. His girlfriend, who never did any drugs, one day became curious and decided to steal drugs from him. She quickly became addicted and their home situation deteriorated. Eventually, there was an incident and the cops were called. Both ended up ratting the other out and the children were removed from the home and put into foster care. This person will have no contact with my child due to his inability to leave the drugs and excessive drinking behind in his youth and grow the fuck up. It's sad, but I am not willing to risk a child's life on someone else's need to self-indulge.
This is just an example of how things can spiral out of control and get very nasty when drugs are involved. I have seen so many more stories, including my own. Maybe YOU can control your use better than this- good for you. But is it really worth the risk when you are responsible for the lives of other people? Of course there are all sorts of risks involved in living- but some are more preventable than others. I think as a parent your number one priority becomes your children, not yourself. You have to grow up sooner or later. At least take this as a word of caution from someone who has seen the other side of drug use- just because you may not have experienced anything negative, doesn't mean you never will.
Ninevah said:
Regardless, the answer is the same. Whether you have to use a drug due to severe physical illness or you are compelled to use it due to addiction, both conditions will affect your ability to parent. Besides, the example of having to use morphine was inextricably linked to one's having cancer; can you think of another condition besides debilitating physical illness that would require one to regularly take a powerful pain killer like morphine? Have you ever seen someone who was prescribed morphine in these circumstances? I have- two. One was in the last stages of breast cancer. The other was in the later stages of chronic lung failure combined with a broken hip.
I know that people can be recreational users; at least this is what I'm told on BL. I've met very few of them in person. Regardless, even if you have never had a problem with addiction, there are still so many other inherent risks.
The father of my child has been using coke for 10 years. Whether or not he has ever been addicted, I can't say. He thought he was being incredibly safe and responsible about his use. He lived with his girlfriend and her two other children, both in the elementary school ages. They also have a 2-year old child together. He never used drugs around the kids and made sure it didn't interfere with his ability to be a parent. His girlfriend, who never did any drugs, one day became curious and decided to steal drugs from him. She quickly became addicted and their home situation deteriorated. Eventually, there was an incident and the cops were called. Both ended up ratting the other out and the children were removed from the home and put into foster care. This person will have no contact with my child due to his inability to leave the drugs and excessive drinking behind in his youth and grow the fuck up. It's sad, but I am not willing to risk a child's life on someone else's need to self-indulge.
This is just an example of how things can spiral out of control and get very nasty when drugs are involved. I have seen so many more stories, including my own. Maybe YOU can control your use better than this- good for you. But is it really worth the risk when you are responsible for the lives of other people? Of course there are all sorts of risks involved in living- but some are more preventable than others. I think as a parent your number one priority becomes your children, not yourself. You have to grow up sooner or later. At least take this as a word of caution from someone who has seen the other side of drug use- just because you may not have experienced anything negative, doesn't mean you never will.
![:\](https://bluelight.org/xf/BL_Images/Orig_Emoji/wrygrin.gif "wry grin :\")
All i know about parenting is what i saw. In my situation i don't think drugs is the problem(not totally) it is them. 
