Becoming Beautiful Again

[Ninae]

As promised, I will go ahead with this thread for those who'll appreciate it, while those who don't can feel free to stay away.

To begin with, like myself, many here have expressed their concern of their drug use, and just as much accompanying lifestyle, talking its toll on their looks and negatively affecting their lives. Like their attraction for the opposite sex. Admittedly for some maybe it wasn't so good in the first place, and can even be a reason why people get into drugs, but I'm talking more to those who has some potential to work with. And, in fact, even many of you who never had any hope for yourselves, I can promise you there is so much for you can do for your looks than you think, and I would like to help both types improve and make the best of your appearance.

To begin with, I am a trained beauitician/cosmetologist with years of experience in giving aesthetic councelling and performing beautifying treatments on both myself and others. I have also just started writing a book about TRUE beauty care and means to looking our best, as opposed to the garbage we have been brainwashed with just because some corporation or other wants to make their fortune on us and couldn't care less about our health and beauty.

There are so many to blame for this, everything from the mass media, who lies, to the food industry, to the medical industry, to the cosmetic surgery industry, to the cosmetic products industry. You get the idea. They each have something to gain from us choosing what is less good for our health and physical appearance.

Anyway, not wanting to make my posts too long and hard to read, I will end this here and continue to give a description of the plan and outline for my book in the next posts. Then I'll be very happy to receive your input/comments.

 

[Mel22]

There are threads all around Bluelight that this information of yours would fit into, ie. the girly thread in SO for skincare and all that jazz, and multiple exercise and diet threads.

 

[Ninae]

You don't know what I was going to write - it wasn't exactly along the lines of "The new Elizabeth Arden shade 67 lipstick is sooooo hot". Others have expressed interest in a thread like this and you're not even a moderator so I don't know why you're already getting involved.

I'm sure there are plenty of threads with useful beauty tips, but the whole point was to share insights that aren't generally known and you'll be unlikely to find anywhere else on this forum. And, most importantly, unlike most beauty tips actually works, or much more effectively and in a much shorter space of time. Or how many know how to effectively achieve a natural face lift without surgery, for instance? Or get rid of wrinkles in a short space of time without seeing the inside of a cosmetic surgeon's office? I doubt very many, with all that goes into it and how little known it is, otherwise people would be looking a bit different.

Anyway, you just seem to dislike anything I write, so why even waste your time opening my threads? Because of those like you others might miss out on information that might turn out to be valuable and helpful to them. Maybe you're just a general hater and it's nothing to even take personally - in that case I wouldn't even bother as I'm not one of those who take it to heart or can be hurt by it, I just find the interruptions annoying, so maybe find yourself another victim.

 

[Jabberwocky]

i believe that everyone is beautiful regardless of what imperfections they think they have.

i think that it would be good to hear your advice regarding becoming a healthier person - i would enjoy reading it. everyone has their own voice and perhaps your information could be helpful to some others

 

[Ninae]

I think I'll just post an outline of the chapters I plan to include and see what you have to say.

Anyway, in my philosophy health and beauty is the same. When something or anything looks bad there is always some kind of health problem behind it, whether it's genetic or due to lifestyle. There are reasons for things like wrinkles and hair loss that can often be fixed. And I believe most of our problems today are because this is too often ignored or forgotten, or just the plain ignorance of it.

It's easier to stretch for that $10 moisturiser and hope it will solve your problems than dedicating yourself to a program which will actually take care of the damage that has caused you the problem in the first place. Sagging skin, for instance, very unsightly, but completely treatable without surgery or too many expenses. But it does require a significant investment of time and effort as the problem has to be approached from several angles:

The lack of nutrition and exercise and intake of substances harmful to the skin tissue, a variety of skin care treatments of different kinds that will help heal the declining collagen/elastin fibres and weakened muscles, facial exercises, massage, and various new facial technology that will aid in circulation and help heal and regenerate the tissues.

But it will yield results. Come one month and you won't recognise yourself and you can make it permanent. Maybe now you see my point?

Just had to show you this, must be the funniest thing I've ever seen:

http://www.flexmini.com/

Now, I'm a big fan of these new beauty technologies, because many of them really work and can give really speedy results, and I've seen great results from applying electo stimulation to the facial muscles so I've no doubt it's effective. It's just a bit tooo funny.

By the way, where is the one for breasts? My breasts really firmed up after losing all that water weight. They were like two large saggy water balloons for a while, but now they mostly consist of normal tissue they have really firmed up. I just want to firm them up completely. Guess I'll just start using a smaller microcurrent device, like NuFace.

These kind of suction cups are also meant to be good for firming up breasts, as well as cellulite, but I haven't researched those yet.

 

[Mel22]

You don't know what I was going to write - it wasn't exactly along the lines of "The new Elizabeth Arden shade 67 lipstick is sooooo hot". Others have expressed interest in a thread like this and you're not even a moderator so I don't know why you're already getting involved.

I'm sure there are plenty of threads with useful beauty tips, but the whole point was to share insights that aren't generally known and you'll be unlikely to find anywhere else on this forum. And, most importantly, unlike most beauty tips actually works, or much more effectively and in a much shorter space of time. Or how many know how to effectively achieve a natural face lift without surgery, for instance? Or get rid of wrinkles in a short space of time without seeing the inside of a cosmetic surgeon's office? I doubt very many, with all that goes into it and how little known it is, otherwise people would be looking a bit different.

Anyway, you just seem to dislike anything I write, so why even waste your time opening my threads? Because of those like you others might miss out on information that might turn out to be valuable and helpful to them. Maybe you're just a general hater and it's nothing to even take personally - in that case I wouldn't even bother as I'm not one of those who take it to heart or can be hurt by it, I just find the interruptions annoying, so maybe find yourself another victim.

Oh, wow. Calm down Ninae, I was only trying to help

Have I even seen you around BL before? Your username is not familiar. I don't know what warranted this lengthy and detailed attack when I was just making a friendly suggestion?

Good luck with your book and your thread, maybe you should consider a few chapters on being beautiful on the inside, too.

P.S. I reported you for being a big, fat meanie who is ugly on the inside

 

[RobotRipping]

'Cause inside you're ugly
You're ugly like me
I can see through you
See to the real you

 

[Busty St Clare]

There are two areas you have to consider when assessing how beautiful you are; how you see yourself and how others see you. From a personal point of view it is less about what you see in the mirror and more about how you see yourself inside. I am a cosmetic dental surgeon who also offers botox and dermal fillers. From a professional point of view you come across as some one I would probably refuse to treat as you are too focused on extreme details than reality. Without sounding too harsh, by focussing on aesthetics to "attract a mate" you are neglecting a large portion of attraction (especially for men), is form having a beautiful personality and a love of life. Now admittedly I am only concluding this from many of your posts here on Bluelight but you do come across as someone who is obsessed with media interpretation of beauty, getting a man and your own perceived imperfections. Not once have I read of what you love about yourself. I see too many patients who look in the mirror and hate what they see. Unfortunately they will never see their own beauty no matter how flawless their skin is or how firm their bum is.

From a strictly aesthetic principle most classic beauty comes from symmetry and golden proportions/fibonacci. The ration of 1 to 0.68 is a common naturally occurring theme in nature and science and whenever possible I will try and design a face to fall within these mathematical confines. You may argue that a lot of our perceived beauty is media contrived, but much of the natural world as well as architecture and art almost always fall into this domain. Human brains also love symmetry, which is unfortunately rare. If you have a slight bump on your nose or one ear is slightly higher than the other, the human eye will been drawn to this.

For minimal surgical approach I would advocate botox and dermal fillers with dermal abrasions and laser skin therapy when suited. By all means try the electro stimulation or suction cups but they are only trying to replicate the tried and tested. As anything there is a difference between scratching your bum and tearing yourself a new arsehole. Bad cosmetic cases you are aware they have been treated, the good ones are those people who you comment about their "natural beauty". You have to go into any cosmetic makeover asking whether you are wanting to impress yourself or your mate. Personally I try and avoid doing lips unless they suffer from very thin architecture. What some women want is many times ridiculed by the male population. I would also advocate botox at an early age to prevent the formation of static lines in the future. Now I'm not suggesting you blast your face flat but rather target specific lines that over your lifetime will create creases within the skin that are harder to erase as you age. It is a fine line between too little and too much. Unfortunately too often it is the paying customer who runs the procedure when it is often better to allow an outside pair of eyes to make the final decision.

If this seems too extreme for your needs then you can always go back to the first principles of healthy diet, regular exercise and adequate sleep. These three basics are probably the most difficult to achieve if you have a drug problem. The other two areas where you may have no control over are great genetics and a healthy self esteem. Some of the most beautiful people in the world do not fall within the classic realms of beauty. They may be slightly overweight, have a crocked front tooth or a nose that is to large for their face. But when they walk in the room they demand attention, they stroll in with a confidence that attracts people to them like a moth to a flame. They have a love for life and a certain aura that radiates a beauty that no camera could capture or photo shop could ever replicate .

 

[Ninae]

Oh, wow. Calm down Ninae, I was only trying to help

Have I even seen you around BL before? Your username is not familiar. I don't know what warranted this lengthy and detailed attack when I was just making a friendly suggestion?

Good luck with your book and your thread, maybe you should consider a few chapters on being beautiful on the inside, too.

P.S. I reported you for being a big, fat meanie who is ugly on the inside

Wow, now I'm speechless. Coming from someone who has been bullying me non-stop for two days for no reason. I'd just finally had enough and felt justified in speaking up. And I'm the one being reported, okay.

Come to think of it I didn't even report that black man for trying to rape me when I was picked up from him by the police. I don't know why, really. Just saw no benefit in it for me and it might just cause him serious problems like being thrown out of the country which I still didn't want. Think that shows I have a little bit more tolerance than you, my friend.

I only even spoke up because I don't think that is a good way of treating people or that you should continue like that - where do you find the inner beauty in that, I wonder?

There are two areas you have to consider when assessing how beautiful you are; how you see yourself and how others see you. From a personal point of view it is less about what you see in the mirror and more about how you see yourself inside. I am a cosmetic dental surgeon who also offers botox and dermal fillers. From a professional point of view you come across as some one I would probably refuse to treat as you are too focused on extreme details than reality. Without sounding too harsh, by focussing on aesthetics to "attract a mate" you are neglecting a large portion of attraction (especially for men), is form having a beautiful personality and a love of life. Now admittedly I am only concluding this from many of your posts here on Bluelight but you do come across as someone who is obsessed with media interpretation of beauty, getting a man and your own perceived imperfections. Not once have I read of what you love about yourself. I see too many patients who look in the mirror and hate what they see. Unfortunately they will never see their own beauty no matter how flawless their skin is or how firm their bum is.

I don't understand what that was all about at all. Everyone on this board just seems to misunderstand whatever I write. I always get compliments for what you might call "my inner beauty" and have all my life. I also am mostly happy with myself as a human being, like my capacity for love, for instance. I've mentioned several times that my ability for unconditional love is what I love most about myself as it brings me the most happiness and I think it's the most beautiful quality someone can have.

I also said I feel I have spent so much time on intellectual and spiritual and personal development I don't feel as much immediate need for it as doing something to improve my looks which I've been neglecting for the last 6 months in every way possible. This reasoning only seems natural to me and if you find such a strong need to object and criticise you come across somewhat irrational.

I have also said I have been happy with my looks for most of my life and consider myself a 7-8 (out of ten) on average, without make-up. Occasionally a 9, looking my best with make-up, etc. Occasionally a 6 looking my worst. However, last week when I met the first male that's interested me in ages I looked some of the worst I ever have in my life, more like a 5, looking really rough after the lifestyle I've been living with no effort made with my appearance after an 8 hour long busride with no sleep. Must be some of the worst I have looked in my life and combined with meeting a potential romantic interest the experience was pretty traumatic.

Hadn't even realised how bad things had become until then so I decided enough was enough and it's time to do something to improve my health and appearance (as it's mostly to do with neglecting my health). Can't see anything strange about this and why it wouldn't just be a positive thing. The obsessive nature of my posts might have to do with the fact that I am a trained beautician or professional in the field, with probably a wider range of knowledge than you, and I'm just going to use all I've got to receive the best results in the shortest time. Again, anything wrong with that?

And when I mentioned what I did like about myself in the other thread, like that my figure isn't too bad, everyone just demanded pictures and slammed me for being conceided. So I can't really win, can I, even just wanting to share some of my knowledge with others who might need it is somehow turned into a negative.

Anyway, what do you think of this dress?

LOVE IT. Just love lacy, white dresses for some reason. If I could I would wear them every other day. That is the dress I want to wear when I feel happy with my appearance again. With beautiful waves/curls.

 

[CHiLD-0F-THE-BEAT]

This thread would be better served being posted in a Blog. Not only is it not appropriate for Healthy Living (as discussed, there are several threads devoted to beauty tips and tricks - one being the Girlie Thread in Second Opinion), you have failed to provide any topic for discussion.

Please take this topic to your blog. Thank-you.