theactualstevie
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Hi Bluelighters
This is my first thread on this forum, just joined initially to research about MDMA as it's something I think I want to try after doing mephedrone last year.
I don't really know where to start but here I go. I'm an 18 year old English guy, average looking, dark emo hair, with a severe speech stutter. I feel I've got the point in my life where I how I feel won't change. By this I mean I feel like I'm an adult, I'm cynical, pessimistic, too realistic and generally feel a lot of
hate towards many people, many of which I don't even know.
I'm not saying adults are like that, I mean that it feels like 2 years ago I was just a completely different person, I've not changed physically, but I feel like
I was so naive back then.
I used to not give a fuck about what anyone thought of me. In my teen years of school from 14-16 I was the only "emo" at my boarding school. I just liked the look and thought fuck it, why not, people told me that they loved how confident I was, other people yelled shit at me, told me to cut my wrists and and said I was a girl or whatever the fuck they used to say. I just did not give a shit, I had friends and I loved them!
I left that all behind when I went to 6th form, left my friends as I couldn't get in to the same 6th form since I applied late. My parents always wanted me to go to uni and become a doctor and thought I was intelligent enough to do so. I didn't do hardly any work, I just got home, played xbox, met up with my mates on the weekend. I started to isolate myself at college, just like sit in the bathroom to eat lunch for example.. It was pretty bad on my self esteem. But I really couldn't find a group like I had before. I had a few friends but sometimes it felt so pretend. Like I didn't like them but I just wanted some company(all nice guys). 6th form was a let down.
I did shit in the first year, but hey, I don't think I cared, I just procrastinate and tell myself "next year Ill try" or thinking id retake after the waking up call of getting shit grades.
the summer in between 1st year and 2nd year 6th form was incredible, and to this day I feel it's the last time I was properly happy.
I found a girlfriend who was beautiful(this was my first proper one), I saw my mates from school(one before 6th form) all the time, we smoked weed together, did some mephedrone a couple of times, played xbox, just didnt give a fuck and just lived life. I felt like I had everything I wanted. I was never bored or lonely or anxious. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend and bragged to my mates, just all the things were just right, everything was easy.
Then came the last week of summer. I was still with my girlfriend, I remember the first time I felt it. She asked me to sneak to her house in the night. This would mean leaving mine at 9pm(so my parents wouldn't think I was up to something) then arriving at her station at 12Am for last train, waiting till 2AM and then jumping over her fence and meeting her a in shed.
I did it, and did think anything of it while doing it. We met up for a few hours and I left at 5am to get the train home. When I got home I got into bed. I
started to think. Why did I do all of that?
Do I even love her?
Am I doing this for sex?
Why does she love me?
It seemed like before I was just doing it for sex and if we broke up I wouldn't care like my other gfs but now I didn't know.. What if I loved her.
I felt like I didn't know what I wanted or who I really even was.
I spoke to her everyday, spoke to her dad to get his approval to meet her, only saw her about once a month because her parents hated me, but I still kept it going. I didn't mention to her I was feeling weird about it. I tried SO hard to make it feel right, like it did before. But it wasn't the same, and I don't think it was for her either. It wasn't working but neither of us wanted to accept it.
So there I was at 6th form for the 2nd year, I had done jack shit work just about, started off for about 2 weeks with good intentions but then I fucked it up. I was getting really stressed and anxious about life changing decisions. I would wake up, look at my phone, see the picture of me and her and just want to go back to sleep and never have to deal with anything in my life.
This built up over a long time.
I was getting really clingy on to her and would analyse every word she said, and be paranoid she didn't like me.
She started to mess with me a bit, I was wrapped around her finger, she knew this. From what I knew she was bipolar.
When she was manic or just happy, she would destroy me, never agree with anything I said, make me jealous,
hint things weren't working.
November that year(2010), about 3 months after summer ended, I was not going to any lessons, I was getting very unmotivated, socially isolated, and I guess pretty depressed.
As I said I was under her control. from what I remember she was being completely destrutive to me on MSN, the phone, facebook whatever.
she knew if she acted as if she didn't care about the relationship I would worry.
one night on MSN she talks to me with just short, snide in some way, replies. She was toying with me. I said I felt like shit, I cant remmeber what she said after this, but she didnt ask why. I had cared so much for her, and it was so much effort to do so, as I wasn't even sure I had feelings for her.
I came off MSN. came on the computer an hour later and saw her picture changed from me and her to just her.
It made me SO fucking mad, and completely wrecked and heartbroken, there was some obvious wallposts/statuses that were aimed at me too.(remmeber I was paranoid back then, whether they were or not, I do not know)
I text her saying thanks for stabbing in the heart. she didnt reply. I text her making out I was solvent abusing, to get her attention, and she called me
an idiot and I dont think much happened with that. I think I cut myself after she still didnt care.
the day after. in the college bathroom, I text her and break up with her. She ODs on paracetamol and alcohol and goes to hospital.
im the bad guy. to everyone. I contact her in hospital and she asks for me back. I go back.
Nothing happened, we tryed to talk more etc.
I was smoking weed everynight after that, huge rips, I had been to the doctor and got meds around this time. I didn't enjoy the weed. I had some of the worst panic attacks Ive experienced, in which I forgot who I was, or the concept of life and humans. this took my mind of the stress. I barely spoke to her, we had planned to meet on the 22nd december. We did and it was nice. nice in till the point she grabbed my wrist to look at my scars, I brought it away from her, she said fine.. and looked angry/rejected. I just burst out crying. I couldn't try any harder for this one person yet I wasnt good enough. I didnt tell her why, I didnt know why. She was all sweet and caring. I brought her a white gold necklace for xmas and put it on for her. The next day she
starts and arguement with me and I just go skits and tell her to fuck off. I didnt mean to break up and didnt think we had. I was just lying in bed depressed I had done for the past 4 weeks. then I get a reply implying we had broken up. I literally screamed and cryed and punched my matress and the wall. I never want to feel that hurt again. I was in the worst depression for a week. I deleted her and ignored her completely for months and months. I also
became addicted to WoW, lost a lot of weight, started smoking, I didnt leave my room, I went to bed at 4 am and woke up and 4pm.
that was december
It is now 2011 november so 11 months later.
I can't hold relationships with people, Im so paranoid, people say Im deluded. I cant speak to her without randomly going skits. ( I found out she was
cheating on me in december this march)
Im so defensive.
Now when people ask me to explain my depression to them, my dad, the doctor etc, I tear up.
I never thought it would happen to me.
Im unmotivated, and dont enjoy anything I used to.
This is getting better I think though. I've started a new job at an IT ISP company, and I feel like I have purpose!
its not so much its enjoyable, but my mind isnt left to wander anymore.
I still smoke weed about 4/7 days a week and want to try MDMA to break my social anxiety and make some new relationships.
I doubt anyone will read all of this but I cant speak very well, so it helped me making this anyway
Any comments or questions, feel free to post!
Thanks,
Stevie
This is my first thread on this forum, just joined initially to research about MDMA as it's something I think I want to try after doing mephedrone last year.
I don't really know where to start but here I go. I'm an 18 year old English guy, average looking, dark emo hair, with a severe speech stutter. I feel I've got the point in my life where I how I feel won't change. By this I mean I feel like I'm an adult, I'm cynical, pessimistic, too realistic and generally feel a lot of
hate towards many people, many of which I don't even know.
I'm not saying adults are like that, I mean that it feels like 2 years ago I was just a completely different person, I've not changed physically, but I feel like
I was so naive back then.
I used to not give a fuck about what anyone thought of me. In my teen years of school from 14-16 I was the only "emo" at my boarding school. I just liked the look and thought fuck it, why not, people told me that they loved how confident I was, other people yelled shit at me, told me to cut my wrists and and said I was a girl or whatever the fuck they used to say. I just did not give a shit, I had friends and I loved them!
I left that all behind when I went to 6th form, left my friends as I couldn't get in to the same 6th form since I applied late. My parents always wanted me to go to uni and become a doctor and thought I was intelligent enough to do so. I didn't do hardly any work, I just got home, played xbox, met up with my mates on the weekend. I started to isolate myself at college, just like sit in the bathroom to eat lunch for example.. It was pretty bad on my self esteem. But I really couldn't find a group like I had before. I had a few friends but sometimes it felt so pretend. Like I didn't like them but I just wanted some company(all nice guys). 6th form was a let down.
I did shit in the first year, but hey, I don't think I cared, I just procrastinate and tell myself "next year Ill try" or thinking id retake after the waking up call of getting shit grades.
the summer in between 1st year and 2nd year 6th form was incredible, and to this day I feel it's the last time I was properly happy.
I found a girlfriend who was beautiful(this was my first proper one), I saw my mates from school(one before 6th form) all the time, we smoked weed together, did some mephedrone a couple of times, played xbox, just didnt give a fuck and just lived life. I felt like I had everything I wanted. I was never bored or lonely or anxious. I lost my virginity to my girlfriend and bragged to my mates, just all the things were just right, everything was easy.
Then came the last week of summer. I was still with my girlfriend, I remember the first time I felt it. She asked me to sneak to her house in the night. This would mean leaving mine at 9pm(so my parents wouldn't think I was up to something) then arriving at her station at 12Am for last train, waiting till 2AM and then jumping over her fence and meeting her a in shed.
I did it, and did think anything of it while doing it. We met up for a few hours and I left at 5am to get the train home. When I got home I got into bed. I
started to think. Why did I do all of that?
Do I even love her?
Am I doing this for sex?
Why does she love me?
It seemed like before I was just doing it for sex and if we broke up I wouldn't care like my other gfs but now I didn't know.. What if I loved her.
I felt like I didn't know what I wanted or who I really even was.
I spoke to her everyday, spoke to her dad to get his approval to meet her, only saw her about once a month because her parents hated me, but I still kept it going. I didn't mention to her I was feeling weird about it. I tried SO hard to make it feel right, like it did before. But it wasn't the same, and I don't think it was for her either. It wasn't working but neither of us wanted to accept it.
So there I was at 6th form for the 2nd year, I had done jack shit work just about, started off for about 2 weeks with good intentions but then I fucked it up. I was getting really stressed and anxious about life changing decisions. I would wake up, look at my phone, see the picture of me and her and just want to go back to sleep and never have to deal with anything in my life.
This built up over a long time.
I was getting really clingy on to her and would analyse every word she said, and be paranoid she didn't like me.
She started to mess with me a bit, I was wrapped around her finger, she knew this. From what I knew she was bipolar.
When she was manic or just happy, she would destroy me, never agree with anything I said, make me jealous,
hint things weren't working.
November that year(2010), about 3 months after summer ended, I was not going to any lessons, I was getting very unmotivated, socially isolated, and I guess pretty depressed.
As I said I was under her control. from what I remember she was being completely destrutive to me on MSN, the phone, facebook whatever.
she knew if she acted as if she didn't care about the relationship I would worry.
one night on MSN she talks to me with just short, snide in some way, replies. She was toying with me. I said I felt like shit, I cant remmeber what she said after this, but she didnt ask why. I had cared so much for her, and it was so much effort to do so, as I wasn't even sure I had feelings for her.
I came off MSN. came on the computer an hour later and saw her picture changed from me and her to just her.
It made me SO fucking mad, and completely wrecked and heartbroken, there was some obvious wallposts/statuses that were aimed at me too.(remmeber I was paranoid back then, whether they were or not, I do not know)
I text her saying thanks for stabbing in the heart. she didnt reply. I text her making out I was solvent abusing, to get her attention, and she called me
an idiot and I dont think much happened with that. I think I cut myself after she still didnt care.
the day after. in the college bathroom, I text her and break up with her. She ODs on paracetamol and alcohol and goes to hospital.
im the bad guy. to everyone. I contact her in hospital and she asks for me back. I go back.
Nothing happened, we tryed to talk more etc.
I was smoking weed everynight after that, huge rips, I had been to the doctor and got meds around this time. I didn't enjoy the weed. I had some of the worst panic attacks Ive experienced, in which I forgot who I was, or the concept of life and humans. this took my mind of the stress. I barely spoke to her, we had planned to meet on the 22nd december. We did and it was nice. nice in till the point she grabbed my wrist to look at my scars, I brought it away from her, she said fine.. and looked angry/rejected. I just burst out crying. I couldn't try any harder for this one person yet I wasnt good enough. I didnt tell her why, I didnt know why. She was all sweet and caring. I brought her a white gold necklace for xmas and put it on for her. The next day she
starts and arguement with me and I just go skits and tell her to fuck off. I didnt mean to break up and didnt think we had. I was just lying in bed depressed I had done for the past 4 weeks. then I get a reply implying we had broken up. I literally screamed and cryed and punched my matress and the wall. I never want to feel that hurt again. I was in the worst depression for a week. I deleted her and ignored her completely for months and months. I also
became addicted to WoW, lost a lot of weight, started smoking, I didnt leave my room, I went to bed at 4 am and woke up and 4pm.
that was december
It is now 2011 november so 11 months later.
I can't hold relationships with people, Im so paranoid, people say Im deluded. I cant speak to her without randomly going skits. ( I found out she was
cheating on me in december this march)
Im so defensive.
Now when people ask me to explain my depression to them, my dad, the doctor etc, I tear up.
I never thought it would happen to me.
Im unmotivated, and dont enjoy anything I used to.
This is getting better I think though. I've started a new job at an IT ISP company, and I feel like I have purpose!
its not so much its enjoyable, but my mind isnt left to wander anymore.
I still smoke weed about 4/7 days a week and want to try MDMA to break my social anxiety and make some new relationships.
I doubt anyone will read all of this but I cant speak very well, so it helped me making this anyway
Any comments or questions, feel free to post!
Thanks,
Stevie