Asking Out a Girl Studying with You?

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All that theory was really unnecessary. It's not like I'm a 22-year old guy trying to find his first and only love. I've been in quite a few relationships so you don't need to tell me how attraction works. If I look desperate, it's because when I counted serious relationships that lasted some time and the rest of relationships with girls, I saw that during last 2 years all that happened in my life were short-lived relationships starting I don't know why and ending I don't know why. I don't want this any more. Nor do I want to read any newsletters from any sites labelled "this is going to make you find your love" or "this is going to make you have women do whatever you want". It's all worthless, I prefer following my instinct, no offence. I think men certainly do have one too and it's not like I've just discovered new creatures called women exist. Like I said, the most problematic thing is I don't really have any friends I could go somewhere with where I could talk to girls. And it doesn't look good when you enter alone. Well, I live in a city where a lot of people study but the club scene is really poor. So from your point of view this is probably hard to imagine. This is nothing like London where I'd meet a girl much faster than here and you know what I think? There's big chance she would be Polish.

This is all getting ridiculous. You don't want to read about my whole life, why something went this way and something went that way, how experienced with women I am and why I'm having problems now... Seeking advice about such stuff via internet may be not the best idea.

Maybe it'll be best if I get back to you when I eventually get a diploma, get back to London, and still have problems (if I survive in this third-world country...).

 

[Opanaking]

I feel for you. I really do. Just remember there's plenty of fish in the sea. Right now your trying to get a degree so that you can be something in life. You are doing something very positive.

That needs to be your #1 priority. You need to be happy with your self before you can get into a good relationship IMO. Just be nice to the girls you meet and start off with casual conversation. Go to place like coffee shops or book stores or malls and constantly surround your self with them. Eventually you'll find someone and it will click.

How much longer do you plan on being on klonopin? Consider switching to valium if your going to taper and quit. Your young you got plenty of time in the world to find a girl. I understand how frustrating it can be. But you dont want to get desperate.

Get your priorities straight and they will come. You might just be in a bad area for meeting girls. I know there are some hot polish chicks though, they really are a different breed.

 

[ram21r]

Just tell her whats up

 

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(..) Right now your trying to get a degree so that you can be something in life. You are doing something very positive.

That needs to be your #1 priority. You need to be happy with your self before you can get into a good relationship IMO. (...)

It's hard to be motivated to do anything when you're alone and your day schedule looks like this: morning - go to the school, afternoon - go back home when you've finished all lectures... Today I've skipped all classes, I simply couldn't get up. The other thing is I got some cold yesterday so I felt like crap but in the past I could be taking antibiotics and have pneumonia, but still I wouldn't fail.

My top priority isn't really getting a diploma, this is an indirect goal. My top priority is leaving this country but I don't want to be a physical worker abroad or work in some bakery as a shop assistant because these aren't things I was made for (read this as "both my body and my character aren't good match for such jobs). I had chosen chemistry for a reason, unfortunately later I found out it had been a bad decision future-wise but chemistry related jobs match my character just perfectly. The only problem is I couldn't find any job for a chemist. So eventually I took up computer science at the last moment, else I would be back in London now, even if still alone, a bit more happy and definitely feeling better.

Just tell her whats up

Nothing's up. I didn't know her well so I could just talk about my attraction towards her. Then I came to know her character and personality better and I didn't feel anything... This story is over. A conclusion is she's a decent looking girl but we would never make a good couple.