I find this kind of interesting. I wouldn't consider it gay to fuck a ftm. It's still pussy.
I don't think I could convince myself I'm being gay while I'm balls deep in vagina ya know.
Seems like you're a bit caught up in how you associate your penis with masculinity, instead of understanding that gender is something that you experience rather than what's between your legs.
There are plenty of men who agree with you, however there are many more who aren't that upright about measuring their manhood by virtue of a phallus, and don't see anything less than gay about having sex with me considering especially that I look like a cisgender man, with the minute exclusion of my junk. If you met me in person you would immediately gender me as male automatically, so I daresay you would find some level of cognitive dissonance regarding looking at me as a cis passing male, then saying sex with me is not gay.
The men who book me are gay, and many men to hook up with me on Grindr are also gay, including the neverending list of those who message me saying 'ive never hooked up with a trans guy before but I want to and I'm keen to try' who then come over, enjoy themselves a lot, and leave still firmly identifying as gay.
I wrote about this in another thread, explaining that some cisgender people find trans people flipping the genitals = masculinity/femininity on its head so threatening that they feel the need to try to misgender us in any way they can, but I assure you, your manhood is not in any way threatened by me not having a penis. You are a man, regardless of your genitals because genitals do not make someone's gender. You, surely, also feel like a man when you consider yourself as a person beyond just having a dick and balls. There is so much more to masculinity than having a phallic shaped body part dangling between your legs and if you can't understand that, you're really missing out man. Don't limit yourself like that.
So, did you have an actual question to ask which would contribute value to the thread, or did you just come in here to make a snide remark about how it isn't really gay to fuck a trans man and subtly misgender me in the process of doing so? Because it seems like your comment wasn't actually necessary at all, and just serves to be a thinly veiled insult towards me based on your own insecurities about your masculinity.
If you don't think it's gay to fuck me then that's totally fine. I am absolutely not going to fuck you, for that specific reason. I don't disrespect myself like that. Nor, actually, would any other trans man. Shockingly, we don't actually want to fuck men who view sex with us as straight. You're unappealing to our group as a whole. Someone would need to be the pinnacle of self loathing in order to subject themselves to that type of misery. In fact on my Grindr profile I literally have it written 'i do not hook up with men who consider themselves straight' interestingly, I had to write that after endless self proclaimed straight men wanted to hook up with me. No thanks.
So fear not my friend, you never have to worry about whether fucking a trans man will be straight or gay, because if you think it's straight and you tell them that, they will run in the opposite direction and you won't even need to spare a thought questioning whether you would need to be 'balls deep in man pussy' and consider yourself gay. It just won't ever happen. Not from me, not from another trans man. We prefer fucking men who respect our gender identities and are confident enough in their masculinity that that don't make their penis the sole defining trait of their manhood that they carry with them. I wouldn't waste more time considering this point my man, it's purely hypothetical for you and will forever remain so.
Tl;dr, low hanging fruit. Try again next time with a more original slight. This is the most average of attempted transphobia that I've come across recently, I would rate it a firm 0/10.
I mean bro, the fact that I actually had you questioning whether or not it *would* make you gay sort of means I win on default really, hey?
The sheer audacity from the cis thinking that trans people actually want to fuck them is stunning. Understand this, we are not desperate. We don't want to fuck all cis people, we certainly don't want to fuck you (and I wouldn't even if you paid me). I cannot believe someone would actually write 'i don't view sex with an ftm as gay' and then make the assumption they would ever in their lifetime be in a situation where they would be fucking an ftm lol. Like bro, you aren't doing us a favour by fucking us, none of us are grateful for your attention, we have plenty of sex with who we want, when we want. Why do cis people always think that trans people would automatically agree to have sex with them. It boggles the mind. I would sooner never have sex again than be in a situation where I fucked a man who considered sex with me straight, that's how unappealing it is to me. I'd rather just jerk myself of forever as an alternative. I can't believe you actually thought your comment was necessary or valuable. Oh, thank god you contributed a comment about how you view sex with ftm' people as straight because you can't seperate genitals from gender. In a thread titled ask me anything. This thread absolutely needed your important contribution to the discussion at hand, and now can progress smoothly since we've established that at least one person is vain enough to think he can insult trans men, then imagine himself hypothetically fucking one because trans people are just so lonely and miserable that we would agree to have sex with someone who refuses to acknowledge our identified gender just because. Pull the other one bro. Give me a break lol.
Go find another cis person to fuck and leave trans people out of your sexual thoughts, we don't even deserve to be thought about in that way. Stay in your exclusive penis only club, ill happily take the rest of the guys who have no such qualms about genitalia and don't expect me to fuck them just because they provided me with some attention. It's trite.