MonChoixMeurtrier
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Well, does anyone have any advice for a couple going through withdrawals and PAWS from heroin? I tried finding something, anything online.
I didn't expect a ton of peer reviewed studies to be out there, maybe a handful of "self-help" type advice columns... ya, there's NOTHING out in the big wide interwebs about what to expect. Well every person and relationship is different, so I'll give you some back story.
My fiance' and I are kicking dope after using for about a year~ish (a lil more probably, but w/e). My fiance' "f" is going to an In n Out patient therapy for substances and we gotta deal with a court thing, so as far as everyone else knows, I was on it for maybe a month (lie.) and f was the same, just couldn't kick it like me... (another lie). Anyway, the lies are to protect me and my options for the future, but WE KNOW they aren't reality. I was right next to f and just as glad to do it at the time(s). Nowadays f had to quit everything (booze n weed, benzos we were taking to stay normal from the clear, which we took to be more motivated on the black! I know, I know, totally unhealthy and bad, and we know.) I was able to do a slow taper from everything so it WAS interesting (also shitty) to see how each of us was doing each day. Most of the time we were completely opposite. If I am able to sleep, f's wandering around the house restlessly til 7am... It's been about 3 weeks and we had a lil relapse, but are clean and have a better mindset than previously (I'm smokin weed, idc). Also obviously, the physical stuff is really only getting sleep patterns back and soreness and fatigue now. So that leaves the mental/emotional/don't go crazy b/c we are sober part left.
I know I should go talk to someone like a therapist b/c I can't just keep piggy backing f's course.And also, it is really hard to pretend to be 'the support', then come home and actually need f to tell me we can't pick up. Instead, everyone THINKS I'm the "strong" one saying "no". That's an issue for me, issues for f really are emcompassed by what the state dictates in the near future.
So, wasn't sure where to post this, not sure what I'll get for replies.
Like I said everyone is different, and same with couples and their life together. We are just reaching out for... something? on BlueLight now b/c the only articles I found earlier was "I left my p.o.s. husband" or "I feel so free w/o my wife nagging me about my using" == not what I'm looking for. Ok, good luck? Thanks err'one
I didn't expect a ton of peer reviewed studies to be out there, maybe a handful of "self-help" type advice columns... ya, there's NOTHING out in the big wide interwebs about what to expect. Well every person and relationship is different, so I'll give you some back story.
My fiance' and I are kicking dope after using for about a year~ish (a lil more probably, but w/e). My fiance' "f" is going to an In n Out patient therapy for substances and we gotta deal with a court thing, so as far as everyone else knows, I was on it for maybe a month (lie.) and f was the same, just couldn't kick it like me... (another lie). Anyway, the lies are to protect me and my options for the future, but WE KNOW they aren't reality. I was right next to f and just as glad to do it at the time(s). Nowadays f had to quit everything (booze n weed, benzos we were taking to stay normal from the clear, which we took to be more motivated on the black! I know, I know, totally unhealthy and bad, and we know.) I was able to do a slow taper from everything so it WAS interesting (also shitty) to see how each of us was doing each day. Most of the time we were completely opposite. If I am able to sleep, f's wandering around the house restlessly til 7am... It's been about 3 weeks and we had a lil relapse, but are clean and have a better mindset than previously (I'm smokin weed, idc). Also obviously, the physical stuff is really only getting sleep patterns back and soreness and fatigue now. So that leaves the mental/emotional/don't go crazy b/c we are sober part left.
I know I should go talk to someone like a therapist b/c I can't just keep piggy backing f's course.And also, it is really hard to pretend to be 'the support', then come home and actually need f to tell me we can't pick up. Instead, everyone THINKS I'm the "strong" one saying "no". That's an issue for me, issues for f really are emcompassed by what the state dictates in the near future.
So, wasn't sure where to post this, not sure what I'll get for replies.
Like I said everyone is different, and same with couples and their life together. We are just reaching out for... something? on BlueLight now b/c the only articles I found earlier was "I left my p.o.s. husband" or "I feel so free w/o my wife nagging me about my using" == not what I'm looking for. Ok, good luck? Thanks err'one
