its not a popular thing to admit but my sex drive is pretty low compared to most guys...i could go without sex for days and not even care...i workout and stay in good shape..im in my 30s and do have a druggy past so maybe that has something to do with it?but just curious, how many guys on here will admit to have a low sex drive and how it has affected their relationships?
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Any Guys here with Low Sex drive??
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traybuck
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Yep right here man :/
traybuck
Bluelighter
My sex drive is shit aswell..I think most of mine comes from my drug use tho tbh..its wrecked havoc on my relationship but she is starting to understand but also makes me put in an effort to do things healthier to try and help out.
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Screaming_Skull
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Right here, but the people that want to have sex with me I'm not really attracted to. My sex drive is lowered probly due to being on Suboxone, but nowhere near as it was when I was actively using other opiates(anyone who's been there knows your next opiate fix is all thats on your mind). Really, right now the people I wanna have sex with are either straight, in a relationship, or a friend, and I'm not doing the friend with benefits thing again...someone always deveolops feelings. Its been a year or about a year for me...now thats a hard thing to admit to other guys,lol.
itsonlyme123
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Yep! I can't get interested now without drugs. Shit innit?
itsonlyme123
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My sex drive rocketed when I got off gear 12 years ago. I think maybe that was due to the fact my teens were just about my addiction and subconsciously trying to catch up on what I'd missed out on.
i never have either even prior to drugs..i didnt get it as i was in good shape and my buddies were couch dwelling drunks who would jump through hoops of fire to get sex..ive never been like that..i just wonder what the difference is as my testosterone levels are normal..now i blame the drug use but even before that, still never that crazy about it..i listen to my buddies say if they dont get it at least every other day they start getting agitated of some sort, im like wtf..i look at my lack of sex drive as both a blessing and a curse..
yeah the friends with benefits thing never worked out for me either..something always gets tilted out of whack and things get weird between the two of you...feelings and such..yeah, opiates of any kid killed my libido even worse..
"Sex drive/Libido" is quite wishy washy as it is. Just because you're not going mental because you haven't had sex in the past 72 hours doesn't mean you have a low drive. Someone could go mental after 72 hours and still have a low T, they're just obsessed/possessed by the idea of sex..
I feel sorry for people who are that obsessed and haven't learned how to transmute it towards greater things.
Seattle_Stranger
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Drug use absolutely interferes with sex drive. Men crave sex because of the rewarding feelings we get from it, and drugs effectively replace that reward. My sex drive was never through the roof, but I do notice it comes and goes. Some weeks I can't stop popping boners all day at work in anticipation of when I get home to my lady, and other times it just sounds like a chore. I feel like sex shouldn't be a routine thing. It was for me a few years ago and it robs it of all novelty. It feels good to suddenly realize "Hmm, we haven't had sex in like 2 weeks" and then have a mind-blowing experience. When people claim to "need it at least once a day" I call BS, that would get boring, and the only people who say this are most likely people who don't get much at all in the first place. Of course when you aren't getting any, daily sex sounds like heaven.
true and someone with high T levels could still have a low sex drive..what i meant by low sex drive is being almost completely apathetic to it..literally having a girl naked in front of you and you not even budging...its not a gay thing either...im talking about going weeks or longer without even thinking about it..
HeScoresHeShoots
Bluelighter
Yeah, 29 & I think about sex maybe twice a week. It's honestly hurting my relationship and I don't know what to do about it. I used to be a horn dog but opiates seemed to be the turning point in my life. I've been off them for years but my sex drive never recovered.
Snake_Eyes
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I'm almost 40 and have pretty much no sex drive. It hasn't affected any relationships though because I haven't been in one in years.
treezy z
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when i'm being lazy with my lifting routing my sex drive lowers, i would even go so far as to call it "low."
i workout hard pretty much every day and even then it doesnt do much for actual sex drive..
Snake Eyes-yeah without a strong sex drive i find i lack the urge to get into a relationship in the first place..i know there is more to a relationship than sex but its usually the first big step to starting one up..sexual attraction/drive..
dopemaster
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I suppose drugs well medication in my case now supress it a bit.
I don't get erections all the time but as soon as I get intimate with a woman things work just fine.
I don't really maturbate much so I could go a long time without sex or masturbation but I choose not to.
I just really like sex and I seek it out despite not being horny because I know as soon as something happens I will enjoy it.
So I suppose my pain medication keeps me from being as horny but doesn't really stop me from seeking out sex as much as possible. I suppose it depends on the person.
I do remember not really caring about sex at all when I was strung out in the past. Buy all in all my nature is still the same despite being on opiate pain medication.
I don't get erections all the time but as soon as I get intimate with a woman things work just fine.
I don't really maturbate much so I could go a long time without sex or masturbation but I choose not to.
I just really like sex and I seek it out despite not being horny because I know as soon as something happens I will enjoy it.
So I suppose my pain medication keeps me from being as horny but doesn't really stop me from seeking out sex as much as possible. I suppose it depends on the person.
I do remember not really caring about sex at all when I was strung out in the past. Buy all in all my nature is still the same despite being on opiate pain medication.
nygiants1313
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Nope sex drive too high
hunter1
Bluelighter
I really wondered about this for years... thought all the drug use had almost made me A sexual.
Had a girlfriend for 5 years until a few years ago and i was always struggling with sex. She was very pretty and a lovely girl but...
Ended up getting back together with my ex from before that girl 6 months ago. Yes, taking a bonus round and recycling a bit far. As it turned out i'm picky and have to be really really attracted to the girl. my girl is smoking hot and attraction level is a 9.9. She overrides whatever shit is in my system. it doesn't matter. we take our Serequel's and go to bed and fuck ourselves stupid most nights.
I was accepting that all that was over for me. being depression free also helps.
Had a girlfriend for 5 years until a few years ago and i was always struggling with sex. She was very pretty and a lovely girl but...
Ended up getting back together with my ex from before that girl 6 months ago. Yes, taking a bonus round and recycling a bit far. As it turned out i'm picky and have to be really really attracted to the girl. my girl is smoking hot and attraction level is a 9.9. She overrides whatever shit is in my system. it doesn't matter. we take our Serequel's and go to bed and fuck ourselves stupid most nights.
I was accepting that all that was over for me. being depression free also helps.