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Mental Health Anxiety Ruining My Life

beccadoll

beccadoll

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I've had anxiety all of my life. I can honestly say that I don't know what it feels like not to have it because it's always there. I was recently prescribed klonopin by my doctor about a month ago. They help some, but not enough.

I have been in a relationship for three years. He's great, but doesn't get my issues. When I have a panic attack which happens quite frequently, he leaves the room or tells me I belong in a hospital or that I'm doing it for attention. I just wish he understood me a little better and could actually be there for me.

I feel so alone. I'm in a relationship but my anxiety is causing such a distance between us and it's only getting worse.

Sorry.. I just needed to vent because I have no one else to talk to. Thanks for listening.
 
Welcome to BL :)
Have you tried explaining to him that anxiety is a real issue that you cannot control? People often think mental disorders are nothing serious. They don't know that you cannot stop your anxiety whenever you want to, just like you cannot stop an infection.
 
It seems cold hearted for someone to tell you that you should be in a hospital. When people don't understand, it makes dealing with this so much harder. It's a good thing you started on some medication for panic attacks. Have you ever tried cognitive behavioral therapy? Maybe your doctor has some suggestions for therapy to help with the anxiety because meds most times aren't enough.
 
flyhighk said:
Welcome to BL :)
Have you tried explaining to him that anxiety is a real issue that you cannot control? People often think mental disorders are nothing serious. They don't know that you cannot stop your anxiety whenever you want to, just like you cannot stop an infection.
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Thank you.

He claims that he "completely understands" me and my issues and that he knows what I am feeling at all times, which is a bunch of shit. He's wrong 99 percent of the time. He belittles me, he makes me feel like all the problems in our relationship are my fault because of my mental problems. He too claims to suffer from "severe anxiety," but if he did, I think he'd be a little more understanding, rather than a complete ass to me.

If I had the ability to control my anxiety, I would in a heartbeat. This is no way to live. It takes control over my entire life and I can't stand it.
 
T. Calderone said:
It seems cold hearted for someone to tell you that you should be in a hospital. When people don't understand, it makes dealing with this so much harder. It's a good thing you started on some medication for panic attacks. Have you ever tried cognitive behavioral therapy? Maybe your doctor has some suggestions for therapy to help with the anxiety because meds most times aren't enough.
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I have never tried cognitive behavioral therapy, but it is something that I would definitely consider. Medication definitely does not seem to be enough. We used to attend counseling together because I wanted him to understand me a little better, along with the severity of my issues. He would tell the therapist that he didn't know how to handle my anxiety and he'd basically ignore all of her suggestions, so that was pointless. :|
 
Perhaps that guy is not right for you... I mean, IF he's making you feel worse, why are you still with him?
Have you tried other medication? Be careful some can be extremely addictive.
Long term :
MAOIs
TCAs
Hydroxyzine
And for the short term :
Etifoxine(can be actually more effective than some benzos, binds to the GABAa receptor like benzos but not at the same site.)
Buspirone
Agree with T.cal, you should definitely seek some therapy.
 
Hi, if you haven't tried cognitive behavioral therapy I would definitely look into it right away. There are lots of good books just go search on Amazon. I wouldn't recommend using benzos though as they are addictive and don't work long term. If your boyfriend doesn't understand your problem then maybe you could point him to some information on the internet or give him a leaflet or book to read. Good luck!
 
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