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Am I Gay?

I thik gay is a choice. You choose who you sleep with. I know people think it's genetic but I don't buy it. You can sleep with guys or girls. Your choice. I've sen sexy transexuals that I thought were hot but wouldn't sleep with them because they are men. I choose not to be gay.
 
being that you asked for opinions on the matter and you were consensual to getting your brown busted - then what other definition of gay is there .
 
Sexual exploration is natural and has been seen through centuries. I know of a few guys who have done something similar, but it just curiosity and they continue to be sexually attracted to women.

Don't worry about putting a name on anything, just be yourself.
 
I'm going to agree with burntsekrits and cloudy here. It's how you feel. You can't determine what you "are" based on one sexual experience. Being homosexual, bisexual or heterosexual are about other things than just sexual intercourse.
 
lozgod said:
I thik gay is a choice. You choose who you sleep with. I know people think it's genetic but I don't buy it. You can sleep with guys or girls. Your choice. I've sen sexy transexuals that I thought were hot but wouldn't sleep with them because they are men. I choose not to be gay.
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Oh lordy. I'm just gonna sit back and watch the fun begin with this one.
 
u should wait until you have had adequate experiences with both sexes and see if 1 reall attracts you more and 1 holds no interest for you, or you could like both equally. there's no way to tell yet.
 
Unbreakable said:
what where you on? and what did you do?
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Ambien, K2 (synthetic weed), and various inhalents. I fucked him every position possible for 4+ hours. At first I was thinking nah I shouldn't... but right after huffing I was like fuck it lets do it.

Drugs are bad
 
Are you sexually attracted to men at all, and to women too?

I don't think that the fact that you were high and fucked up matters. Did you enjoy having sex with him and trying lots of positions for 4+ hours?
 
Tromps said:
Ambien, K2 (synthetic weed), and various inhalents. I fucked him every position possible for 4+ hours. At first I was thinking nah I shouldn't... but right after huffing I was like fuck it lets do it.

Drugs are bad
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that sound like a crazy combo. im surprised you a) remembered everything, b) didnt fall asleep in the middle of it, c) got it up. and btw what inhalants were you on b/c they can vary tremendously depending on which 1's u did. u could be talking about poppers, no2, aerosol, etc.
 
Tromps said:
The thing is I find myself more attracted to females, but I've never really done anything with a girl. Does this mean I'm gay now?
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if you were straight, the word more wouldn't be in that sentence...

4+ hours of sex with a man; in all those positions is not something a straight man will do.....
so i would say your BI.... be proud.... or deny it =D its up to you
 
sounds like you're slightly bi :P that's fine, don't worry about judgement too much, I don't really know anyone who judges any sort of homosexuality (then again, I live in san francisco).

on a more important note... don't abuse inhalants! they're super super bad!
 
Tromps said:
I fucked him every position possible for 4+ hours.
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You know, that's quite a respectable and fun-sounding way to lose one of your 2 V-cards. You've posted a serious question and I'm not making light of it, I'm being sincere.

For men and women, losing one's virginity, to men or women, is rarely a simple, uncomplicated experience. To answer your question directly, No, you are not gay. You have had a sexual experience (and one that sounds quite fulfilling from a physical standpoint).

Your future sexual experiences and relationships, and the thinking you do after you've had them, will help define whether you (a) want to be labeled at all, or (b) want to be labeled as gay, bi, or straight. It's natural to think about categories right now, but it's too early. As burntserkits said, It just makes you a sexual being…a human. Beautifully put and concise.

Be safe, have fun and explore.

edit/add-on: I just re-read your last post. There's a thread on BL of people' stories about losing their virginity. When you have some time, you might want to check it out. I know that your situation is a bit complicated right now because you had sex with a guy and you're attracted to both sexes. But losing your virginity is a lot to deal with on its own. Most of us play it off like it's nothing.

I lost my virginity long ago. But it was not terribly pleasant. And not terribly awful either. The act was not uncomfortable, but the circumstances and the partner were a cause of shame and discomfort for years (if I chose to think about it). It certainly didn't ruin my sex life and I played it off and moved on quickly.

But I got a lot out of reading the BL thread and I just read it this year. A lot of people do not have a wonderful time the first time they have sex regardless of their sexual orientation. I knew this well, but I still got a lot out of reading the thread.
 
Based on what you wrote about yourself it sounds that you're bisexual.

The fact that you don't want romance or a relationship with a guy doesn't really matter. I don't want a relationship with a woman but it doesn't stop me from being sexually attracted to some.

I hope you had fun and were safe. Did you meet this guy online or in club/bar or something? Had you ever done anything sexual with anyone before? What sort of sex fantasies do you have? These are all things to think about.
 
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