Advice please. My husband is upset that I'm going start an AA program

[Americanfloosie]

I've been sober for a while but my cravings are coming back. I now know I need to try meetings to see if it could help me through the process of staying sober. My husband who is most definitely an alchoholic is treating me like dirt since I shared with him my desire to join an AA group. I honestly don't know how to respond to him when he mocks me about it. I think he's afraid our relationship will change and of course I know it will but I want it to be for the better. I'm feeling lonely in my own home now. Has anyone ever dealt with this sort of situation before? How can I deal with someone being so negative about something that should be so positive? Any advice would be lovely

 

[NathansPen]

I think going to AA is a good decision. I'm sure you'll come up with a great source of support in AA.
Your husband might not understand it now, stay positive if you keep on worrying it will not going to help you.
Today, my friend is admitted in Drug Rehab Center. I told him that he must not give up even I know the process will be hard.
Recovery is one day at time. I hope you'll get well soon and finally be sober forever.

 

[neversickanymore]

Im sorry he is reacting is this way. Being an alcoholic, he and his drinking probably feel threatened by you choice to do this.


I would sit down and have a talk with him and let him know that your doing what you feel is the best course to try and deal with your addiction and that his condescending behavior towards your decision is crappy and your not going to accept being treated in this fashion. Let him know that your intention is to actively treat yourself and that if wishes to continue to drink thats fine, but let him know that your going to pursue what you feel is best for you and are all set with his shenanigans.

 

[Americanfloosie]

A big thanks to both of you!
NSA I had the same idea about sitting down with him and talking. Tried to last night but he didn't want hear it. I'm going to keep trying and trying. I figured he feels threatened and I know it will be that way for a while. I'm definitely not to the point of wanting to leave him or anything but I do need to show him things can still be fun and fulfilling without a drink.
And Nathanspen, I hope as well to stay sober forever. I had a friend try and tell me that I just need to "find my balance" with alchohol. I then told her that doesn't exist in my brain. I love the support here. I'm already feeling better and a bit more prepared to deal with my husband. I just hope he can get well too. It's hard watching someone destroy their body right in front of you. Now I know how my family felt about me.

 

[GenericName12]

Lol at your friend telling you to 'find balance'!! She is clearly not an addict haha! That is not a concept we know.

Your husband sounds threatened. In my active addiction I wanted everyone around me to be as drunk as me so I wouldn't feel like such a loser and I could tell myself it was normal and thaf i wasnt an addict. He probably feels the same way.

Focus on yourself. He will come around. And if he doesn't? Too bad for him because you are allowed to do whatever you like.