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Addicted: Help for someone whom is not me!?

XanaxAndBud

XanaxAndBud

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my friend whom is an extreme addict all together. If he can get his hands on any drugs he would do them. No joke. DXM Diphenydramine. dramamine, ketamine, anything. Last time I was at his house he was litterally tripping on Dramamine Ketamine and nitrous at the same time and he just seems so lifeless now. I can't confront him because I am an addict too. I smoke cocaine (freebase) smoke weed and do dxm. So what should i do?
 
Maybe you should start to plan days or periods of time to be sober. and stick to it. wake up in the morning prepared to tell yourself no. if there are any lingering negative thoughts of failure, or you dont stick to it, then youll just be a drug addict for who knows how long..and be sober when you confront your friend and try to best explain your persepective on his behavioral problems. i.e. frequency of use, habits, whatever
 
Hi X&B, in my opinion just because you're an addict as well doesn't mean you can't confront your friend about his drug use. If you're worried about him, I think you should still tell him your concerns. Obviously you should consider doing something about your addiction as well, if you're ready to of course. Perhaps you could make a pact to each other that you'll both cut down your drug use? That would hopefully help to keep you both motivated to control your usage a bit more. What do you think?
 
You can talk to your friend, but you can't make him stop. He has to do it on his own, and he's probably going to get himself into a lot of trouble before he even starts to think that what he is doing might be a problem. It may take even longer before he knows that it is a problem, and it may take even longer still before he knows that he has to stop that problem. Even then, it's probably going to be a bit longer after that before he even wants to do what it takes to stop and manages to do it.

You might go through the same stuff, too. I did, and a lot of other addicts I have met did. It's part of the addiction cycle: http://www.drug-addiction-support.org/cycle-of-addiction.html

Your friend may not want to pay attention to your concerns and he may call you a hypocrite. Even though you can't stop yourself right now, that doesn't mean that you don't realize you should and that he's heading down the same road you are. It doesn't mean that you don't care. A lot of the most important lessons in life are are taught to us by those who haven't been able to do it for themselves; the alcoholic knows he shouldn't drink, and he tells you that you shouldn't drink. He's just hoping that you learn what he couldn't, or that you can put the lesson into practice when he can't. He knows better than to do what he does; he just can't do it and he's trying to save you from making the same mistake he did.

It's all going to be up to your friend, though, in the end.
 
XanaxAndBud said:
my friend whom is an extreme addict all together. If he can get his hands on any drugs he would do them. No joke. DXM Diphenydramine. dramamine, ketamine, anything. Last time I was at his house he was litterally tripping on Dramamine Ketamine and nitrous at the same time and he just seems so lifeless now. I can't confront him because I am an addict too. I smoke cocaine (freebase) smoke weed and do dxm. So what should i do?
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Why don't you help yourself first.. You're smoking crack. Whats worse...DXM...or crack.

It seems selfish but I mean your problem is probably as bad if not worse than his..

You haev to think about yourself..sometimes being selfish is a good thing.
 
If you guys are good enough friends I'm sure you have vicarious conversations...

I have a friend and we once upon a time both had mutual problems.

Perhaps turn the vicarious conversation towards the possibility of finding a new way of life?

(I went to rehab with this friend)
 
yeah. dude. i didnt realize you were smoking crack. for the love of god, mary and/or satan. Make a serious, conscious effort to stop smoking crack. Spend all your money on weed and DXM but dont do any more crack. You will die earlier than you would intend if you don't stop.
 
It's easy to get hooked into the habit of just trying new things. They call certain drugs gateway drugs, but in reality sometimes its just you are chasing a feeling or a mood, and end up trying everything.

By all means try things, but not all in one go, and space it out. Perhaps just weekends. There are good and bad drugs out there - one mans euphoria is another mans poison - and it's easy to get hooked to matter how many times you tell yourself "i can stop if i want to".

It's things like habituation, and duration that get u in the end. Have sober days/weeks. Don't overdo it. And if u do end up with something that grabs u, watch out for the whole tolerance/addiction cycle. Space it out man. Don't go 24/7. Sounds to me like you / your friend is just constantly chasing that "high".

Play games, watch movies, read books, get out, do something else. Theres a lot more to life than drugs. Get a hobby (Everyone has an obsession, even if they haven't found it yet). Drugs will get u if u overdo it. But if u plan it right, and like I say try to space out the usage, you'll be ok.
 
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