A Sad and Confused Mom! Please Help Me Understand!

[Princess724]

My childrens father is very addicted to pcp. He always seems agitated angry and annoyed. He seems to forget everything he says. I come from a family that sheltered me from the realities of the world. So I had no idea he had this problem until someone so casually mentioned it to me.i feel beyond dumb how could I not recognize this over 8 yrs. We have 2 very young kids. I need to understand the affects of this drug. I really love him but I love my kids way more. I am no longer around him but I miss him so much. I am so sad everyday I have become very depressed and hopeless. I want to no should I try to help him or stop crying and move on and take care of my children alone until he gets better? Will he ever get better?

 

[Captain.Heroin]

I'm sorry to hear what's going on.

Has he talked to you about why he uses?

 

[RobotRipping]

well if he's worth helping then try to help, some people don't want any help and would rather be fucked up for the rest of their lives. PCP is an interesting case though and i think most people use it to escape if they use it every day, so they are probably looking for some help or a way out or a better way to deal with things. Not many people can go through life like that.

if he wants help then help if not then you have to move on. IMO he'll probably get better i dont think i've heard of any long term (like 20-30 year) PCP addicts, i think most people just get stuck in that hole of dissociation and it takes a while for them to come out of it and clear their head.

 

[mrflowers00]

see if he wants help if he doesn't then there really isn't a way for you to help him he needs to want it for himself

 

[Foreigner]

You should do some basic research on PCP to get some information. Here is a link to some basics:
http://www.erowid.org/chemicals/pcp/pcp_effects.shtml

PCP is a euphoric psychedelic that not only makes you feel powerful and strong but also dissociated (separated/detached) from your environment. At least, that was my experience of it (and I only did it twice). It was not my cup of tea because I found the high much too grating and jagged, but some people love it. I also tore a door off of the hinges when I tried to open it the wrong way and got frustrated that it wasn't working.

Honestly, if your children's father is so into PCP, but there is something about himself or life that he is seriously avoiding. One day he will have to stop because PCP is fairly damaging to the body. It can even induce psychotic breaks if used too often.

I'm sorry that this is happening to you but until something clues him in that he has to return to planet Earth there is not much you can do.

 

[Jabberwocky]

i'm sorry that this is happening to you. seeing someone go through the loops of addiction must be terrifying and shocking - i know i have been the one causing the problems in the past but i've never witnessed it.

all i know is that if the man is worth fighting for and hanging on to - you should. it will be difficult and taxing, but in the end of the day rewarding to get your husband back from the depths of his addiction/.

 

[Druidus]

All you can do is ask him why he uses, and try to help him deal with it in other ways. If he doesn't want help, there's nothing you can do except care for your children as the foremost concern.

I was addicted to hydromorphone for four years, and my ex-girlfriend stuck with me until I'd quit before we decided to go our separate ways. But I was trying to quit. If he tries, then stand by him, it could be what makes the difference and helps him quit. But if he basically spits on your offers to help him, then you need to look out for YOU and your children over your husband.