Jess, there are lots of different Australians, as there are many different types of Americans.
Frankly, it sounds like you encounter a lot of dickheads - the sort of people i actively avoid and only come in contact with when i have no choice.
I'm sorry to hear you don't feel respected here - but frankly, you should see what it's like being an Australian (or part Australian) in the US! It's pretty crazy.
A lot of aussies i know deliberately change their accents when they're in America so they can be simply understood by the locals (it's fucking weird to go order lunch at a cafe and have the person taking your order just stare at you blankly and go "
say what?" when they hear your accent).
Someone close to me has an american-adapted accent that reverts to her original Australian accent when she comes here to visit - because she can be properly understood here - but when i talk to her on the phone from the states, she still sounds a bit american. It's weird. But she's a dual citizen too - and she'll never be treated like an american either. She's lived there for about 20 years.
So it cuts both ways...
When American waiters can't understand me, it's pretty bizarre. We are both speaking English, but it seems that often Americans have very little exposure to people from other English-speaking countries (or their accents, at least) - so they can't understand a word i say. And i don't have an ' ocker' Aussie accent.
So you might feel like Australians don't accept you - but that experience is pretty common for anyone who travels, or lives in different places, isn't it?
I dunno, i've lived in Australia for most of my life - but people quite often ask me where i'm from (Australians assuming i'm not Australian).
Cultural identity is weird. I try not to take it too seriously.
American mass media is so pervasive that it saturates the US market - creating a cultural insularity but is also exported to almost the whole world.
That's part of the reason aussies are aware of - and interested in - American cutlure, politics and perspectives.
Also, the Australian government is a fucking US govt lapdog - so the US Presidential elections can decide the direction our country takes as well. There are good reasons for Australians to keep an eye on what is going on in US politics - it affects this country, and potentially
all other countries - as well.
I don't want to argue with you about your experience as a dual (?) citizen, because as i say - i'm sorry to hear that's the way you feel.
But it kinda goes with the territory. Yes,
some Australians are incredibly racist. Australia's history is one of institutionalised racism.
Just like the USA - and a hell of a lot of other places.
But there are lots of reasons Australians are opinionated about American issues, it's nothing personal