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Looking for "the answer" - MERGED

Here are some of the most common ways in which humans give their lives meaning to avoid pondering the dreaded possibility that life may be essentially meaningless and just keeps on going and going and going an going because it can.

Find a partner, and maybe have some children.

Find a religion to follow, or create your own belief system which reassures you that everything happens for a reason.

Find some sort of non religious culture to be a part of, anything that gives you that sense of being part of a tribe.

Dedicate a large part of your life to some form or work, a career, etc.

Travel round the world meeting as many people as possible having as many experiences as possible.

Numb your brain with excess tv, sex/wanking, drugs, food, whatever, so long as it takes your mind off thoughts like these.

DO. NOT. GIVE. A. FUCK. And walk the path of self destruction (AKA Rock 'n' Roll, baby)

There are of course many more, but these are among the most popular. Either take your pick from one or more of the above, or create your own path. Good luck.
 
hey man wutever is lost is usually most likely found so u gotta do some more searching and try to stay posotive. One thing about me that helps me try 2 b a happy person is i always try to find the good in the bad.
 
if you feel like this the only thing that keeps your head high is that your thinking you're the only one who feels SO lost and SO alone blabla... so you have some kind of excuse for failing.
in fact, the others feel the same but they are stronger and don't think so much about themselves.

no offemce. i'm the same.
I believe I'm the only person in the world who will never run a proper relationship to a human beeing. thaha.
 
TriggerHappy said:
hey Jake--

I think you would benefit a lot from studying buddhism. i got into that stuff last year while trying to kick H. it's all about finding happiness within yourself, instead of from external sources, like drugs.
meditation is also very helpful when fighting cravings.

i live in Los Angeles, and there's a group here called "Dharma Punx." they blend 12 step recovery with buddhism and punk rock. here are some links to some online mp3s. listen to the ones about addiction and "12 steps."

http://www.dharmapunx.com/htm/mp3.htm

good luck

there is an answer... it's just that the truth is different for everyone and you gotta keep looking <3
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Hey I am so thankful I read this....I will be using this often. I have been hoping to plug into my spirituality, I like the idea of the power of NOW...THANK YOU SO MUCH. I like it when things make my wheels spin, this happens to fit the bill at this moment. I love my life today...
 
izzy66 said:
jake, drugs or no drugs you just cannot control the future and stop anything bad from happening. you know that, i know you do. yeah, that fear is a wicked weight to carry. everyone has to figure a way to carry that fear and get on w/ things or you get stuck and paralyzed, just waiting for something that may or may not happen. and then you ain't even living anymore, you're just existing cuz fear has all the power over life.
you can't stop things from going wrong but you can minimize habits and stuff that can contribute to things going wrong... like wearing your seat belt and getting/staying clean ;)
hang in, jake. you will get through. like pip said, "have faith in your self before anything else"
-izzy
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God, Grant me the serenity to except the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can ,and the wisdom to know the difference...I know it is the na/ aa prayer but I try to use it in my everyday thinking, it helps it has, substance.
 
Who doesn't feel lost. Find a friend. A good friend. Someone who doesn't use drugs. Drug friends are the best/worse friends out there.
 
Jake, What up? I see yesterday was your last post I hope everything is cool hope to see your thoughts here real soon..I will be looking to see how you are holding up..I am hoping that you are o.k. Peace..<3
 
It gets better if you stick at it.

I,m 44.

I think that youth has to be a bit craop as t is leading to the complete person. Still youth has some big plus points.

Find somewhere to pay for sex cheap and you will have something to look forward to in life....
 
Divine Moments said:
I don't know who I am or what I want to do with my life. Best of luck to you.
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Well stick around , see what is working for others, try to keep your mind open. I am new here and I am so happy that bluelight is here for me..Ya learn allot from others,while you are finding out about yourself. I know for me it takes someone to say something that makes complete sense, and it clicks. And then I am like wtf why didn't I think of that...follow the positive ...it is the best thing to do, things do get easier..trust me. Good luck..:)
 
Hey B, I think your post speaks volumes about the way a fair amount of people either currently feel or have felt in relation to their lives at various points in time. I know that after reading your post I almost felt as though I had written it myself at an earlier period in my life and, in fact, I might have:).
I am not too much older than you and have seen meteoric highs and devastating lows while struggle with bipolar, addiction, social anxiety, ect. For the better part of a decade, I had terrible dietary habits, rarely exercised (after being a standout athlete no less), was socially reclusive, and struggled terribly with poly-substance addictions. Despite suffering through several unrealized dreams, broken relationships, and having no identity relative to my peers, I just decided that I had to make changes so that I would not feel so lost in this world.
A big part of the process was developing a routine, getting healthier, trying to be constructive and creative with my time rather than wasting it in the fashion I was. Eventually, I began to rediscover things that I previously had passion for and new endeavors that I never thought I would embark on.
Ultimately, the social isolation has subsided, I have redeveloped a spiritual sense of well being, and I no longer abuse substances in the manner that I once did. Most notably, however, is that the fear is gone; that fear that used to grip my stomach and mind on a daily basis because I felt like I had no place in this world and had no real vision of where I belonged exactly. My best advice is to have a dream of what you really believe would make you happy and work toward that dream on a daily basis, little by little.
It's an ongoing process, believe me, but over time you will see yourself progressing toward what was once just a dream and that in and of itself will give you the confidence and support to feel as though you do have a meaningful place amongst those around you. It requires that you ask a lot of hard questions of yourself, take an honest assessment, and put the work necessary to ensure that you achieve a sense of personal happiness and overall well being. Hang in there and know that you are not alone in how you feel. I think the responses you have seen in this thread thus far are testament to that. Hope this helps some. Thanks.
 
WOW Thanks everyone . GReat replies!!!!!!!!!!!! I think my biggest fear is that i cant get clean off suboxone and i will end up ruinging my life to opiates again
 
OH and my other biggest fear is that I will never have a sucsesfull career, be healthy, have a good girl etc..............and that my mother will never get better............
 
From what I have read of your replies it sounds as though a lot of the things you are afraid of you actually have some control over, so that is a good thing. For instance, you said that your greatest fears include not getting clean, not finding a good girl, or having a successful career; which are all aspects of your life that you can determine the outcome of so you should focus your energies on shoring up those aspects of your life to the best of your abilities and eventually the ingrained fears should subside. In regards to your mom, you probably have little to no control with what is going on with her so all you can do is have faith and be there to support her while she is with you. Hope this helps and good luck to you!
 
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jake, you know how when you lose something and are so concentrated on finding it, you never seem to... and then at some point later it just shows up (car keys, bills, your id, etc)? i don't know the "answers" to life or this particular problem, as I have them as well... but I think that perhaps if you stop looking and start LIVING, I know easier said than done, you may not feel so lost. what is there to find in the recesses of your own mind/our minds? I know you've charted it many times over...
 
Yes Jake acceptance, a shit load of self awareness is always a good habit also. Did you click the link dude left the other day about that buddha meditation? Shit was good it is all so simple. I have been known to take the steep hills on my jouney I think I am gonna walk the level one at this point...I work to hard the other way...more abuse is all it is in a sense...I didn't know how to be in peace. I had lost that ability before I even knew what it was..:( peace out... stay up..see ya soon.
 
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