TippyCup4Life
Bluelighter
n3o, my dad used to do the same thing. I would have to sneak a drink of anything non-alcoholic after 5pm or he'd jostle me in his Serbian english, "Misa!. Vy drink zat cheap shit you asshole?". It's real easy to give in when you may want some wine anyway, when a parent feels threatened by your refusal, and you can tell yourself that your should obey your parents- nevermind that you may feel everything else they tell you is a load of crap!
I used to fake a drink, or dilute, just to avoid the hassles, but usually found it very easy to give in.
It's a perfect way to excuse yourself from listening to yourself.
Have you ever talked to your dad about your struggles?
I never did, just too much history and pain to go there in a meaningful way.
I completely understand the twisted dynamics going on there.
Try the fake drink trick, or take the offered glass and dump it, or switch it.
I must admit that during my struggles I found I spent LOTS of time with my father during an age where the opposite would usually occur!
I used to fake a drink, or dilute, just to avoid the hassles, but usually found it very easy to give in.
It's a perfect way to excuse yourself from listening to yourself.
Have you ever talked to your dad about your struggles?
I never did, just too much history and pain to go there in a meaningful way.
I completely understand the twisted dynamics going on there.
Try the fake drink trick, or take the offered glass and dump it, or switch it.
I must admit that during my struggles I found I spent LOTS of time with my father during an age where the opposite would usually occur!
hahaha
It really made me feel better knowing that my dad wasn't the only alcoholic who has done this. 
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