• LAVA Moderator: Shinji Ikari

Did you pay for your own education?

ThatDie4: It's not that people are saying they wouldn't accept money from parents to pay for their education (though my parents had more than enough and I still had to pay for mine) but it's the sense of entitlement that those kids used to have that really bugged me. The, 'It's not my fault my parent's are rich' argument is such a cop out. As I said in my post, I would absolutely help pay for my kids education if I could, but it'll be a cold day in hell before I help them with their every day expenses.

I agree with you and Mehm, though. The US college system seems absolutely ridiculous to me. People should NOT be drowned in debt just to get a higher education. I wouldn't go so far as to say socialised education, but there definitely should be some sort of overhaul.
 
Canada's education system is heavily subsidized (about 70%) which has allowed me to get the education I have, as well as give me the opportunity to keep going to school.

I screwed my credit up pretty bad when I was younger. I'd hate to think if I lived in the U.S. and discovered my love for education at 22 with a bad credit rating and no parental support, that I'd be told that I cannot have an education.
 
Buckle up, this will be a long one, kids ;)


I don't know if it's displaced anger, or just jealousy, but I find it obnoxious when people get a free ride. Perhaps because it's just so insidious, that there exists these quantum gaps of privelage that seem so random. I mean do these students appreciate it, or do they really appreciate it? Because I want them to really, really appreciate it.. y'know? Every single penny.

If it was just money, that would be one thing. It's not. This money is tied to something pricess. Direction. You know, parents who encourage those extra-cirriculars, attend your sporting matches and challenge you to be successful. Yep, there's that too. What a package.

Much respect for those who took care of their own tuition, books, living expenses, travel, and entertainment while in school. I give even more respect to those who did so without any parental guidance or shoes to fill. Forging your own path on your own tab.. there's something to be said for that.

Bolded what I consider the key points. Throughout this thread you come off as having a serious chip on your shoulder and it has seeped into your comments (accusations, insinuations) against those of a different life than yours. You had it so hard...they had it so easy....life isn't fair. Okay, life isn't fair. Suck it up. Accept, adjust, adapt, overcome. Because the inequities you cry over are only the ones you see - you mention hardships of those with less money, or less parenting, without crediting what those situations do for the individuals. Yeah, it's a bitch, but it teaches you to be smarter with money because it isn't coming from an endless supply (parents won't always be there, trust funds aren't there, life doesn't pave your path with gold and flower petals); it teaches you to look out for yourself, to do for yourself, and to know the true value of things. The flip side of 'silver spoon' kids not appreciating what they have is that they have less appreciation for what it takes to do for ones self at the end of it. When they get to school, it often is a playground until they figure out 'what they want to be', so they are losing out on actually learning self sufficiency and taking from their coursework all that the more dedicated students are getting. So, in your sense of fairness, should you be so angry at kids with free rides, or pity them? Or how about this one, accept that the world is not fair, life is not fair, and everyone gets from it what they take from it....and often, we take different things from the same situation given our backgrounds, our experiences, and our goals, interests, or direction? I sincerely wish you got off your soap box regarding others not 'appreciating what they have' simply because you didn't have it. There are things you had they didn't, things that are perhaps more valuable and useful in the long run.

Now, I'll back off those comments of mine a bit, as I am not trying to completely turn the table and say how those who support and guide themselves through school should feel smug, or ashamed, or anything really when comparing themselves to full-riders. I'm simply saying that the world is made up of unique individuals - this extends to education as well. Don't judge someone for being different, unless you prefer to waste your time and energy on comparing yourself to them whilst it really does nothing for you or them.

There seems to be a lot of people who got grants and scholarships for post-secondary. Was I the only person who got C's in high school, but discovered a love for education after a few years of figuring out life as an adult?

I was in no way equipped to handle College or University at the age of 18 or 19.. or 20... or 21 lol.

When I went to school, it was a total rediscovery of education for me. I loved it in my first 3 years of a technology degree, and I love it now as a Biology student. I just find it strange that the government and charities are willing to fund promising young students whose parents steered them in the right direction, but completely ignore self-propelled scholars from unlikely backgrounds.

You aren't the only one. Those pushing themselves through generally get an idea ealier on (in my expereince) of *if* they want a college degree and *what degree* to get - and they therefore get a lot more out of the courses than people who are attending 13th and 14th grade. I'll get to my story later, but even amongst my friends, some spent 2-3 yrs of undergrad before the light came on of what they wanted to be, and in the meantime they are eating up scholarships (yeah, earned ones, usually for GPA) or parents money. Those paying their own way are smart enough not to waste the funds and hold off until they are focused and motivated. Just my observation.

The comment of gov't and charities ignoring self propelled scholars is I think very misguided. Maybe I'm missing something, but I believe scholarships and grants are available to someone based on race or ethnic background or whatever criteria every year - whether they take time away to work first and get focused or come straight out of school. Income based funding may actually improve if someone were to work before enrolling, and establish their self sufficiency as opposed to applying under their parents income. I'll go you one further - most grants, scholarships, etc have an application procedure in which you write up some things about yourself, some reasons of why you are deserving....who do you think comes across better in those types of applications? Those with the cookie-cutter after-school activities that mom and dad penciled in on their HS resume, or those individuals that have tasted the real world and can explain what they bring to the classroom, what they intend to get out of it? In a review board's eyes....who presents the better investment?

People probably aren't responding due to your condescending tone more than so-called 'silver spoon' prohibiting them.

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I agree with you about how valuable direction from parents can be. I've taken their direction seriously all my life and feel pretty successful in my various pursuits because of it.


Again, the tone is noticed by all. This is a sharing of opinions, so you are entitled to yours, but as Amor points out your use of words stages the discussion in a tainted, and unfair, light. I recognize you like to post in ways to incite and build a heated discussion, so I can't begrudge you a pursuit of passionate response, just keep in mind that you put people on the defensive from the get go, and appear to not be willing to give any ground from your perspective.

To her second point, agreeing with the value of guiding parents. I can personally attest to the tremendous value of role models or people taking an active interest in your future and education, pushing you towards better opportunities. And while I will work from the probable assumption that people in less fortunate different backgrounds don't have as many mentors or guides, surely their life can't be devoid of them. They don't have to be family, they can be a pastor, a friend, a friend's family, people you meet at work, people you see on TV, wherever.....there are people who can give you (the less fortunate, generic, person) the ideals and understanding of what can be pursued. There are people who can inspire you without being a parent who 'pushes' you. I can't say it is equal to, or close to the strength of background and direction provided by parents (especially if they value a college education), but I cannot believe they are completely void. Hell, if that were the case, how did Kyk ever get to the point of pursing his degree? they can provide not only vision of what can be done, bu tthe supporting voice of how to get there and such...but they don't have to be a parent, and you certainly don't get that kind of support from a bank (trust fund). You get it from people who care about you and your future.

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Being born into a wealthy family isn't necessarily the best thing for people. I believe it has, at times, skewed my sense of personal responsibility and motivations. ...I wouldn't respect myself if I was like that; consequently I've never been able to relate to a lot of other kids who're born into similar circumstances. I thank my family profusely very often for their support and I work hard in school.

Some of us are born in the dump, some the goldmine, and it wasn't my choice. It would be stupid for me not to take advantage of this opportunity, and it is nothing of a financial burden on my family to support my education to the extent that they do. I strive to not let my fortune in this matter get the best of my personality and I eagerly look forward to the day that I'm working hard for myself and am financially secure and independent, and see what my family provides me as a means towards this end.

...Life gives us what it does and we have to take advantage of the opportunities provided to us. As a side note, I have utter respect for people who do work their own way to their goals and earn everything they achieve.

Very well said, and points out that not everyone can fall into this generic free-ride group. Some of us DO develop a sense of appreciation, and sometimes work against the things in our favor, simply to prove to ourselves that we can - and thereby gain some of the 'hard knock' learning that those less (financially) privileged have earned. But those born to wealth ought not be ashamed, which is a lot of what Kyk implies. Nor do they necessarily lack appreciation for what they have (case in point). Again I come back to the statement that the world and life are not fair. In many ways, they are not fair. Understand your own position, what you have going for you and what you need to do to overcome the things you don't have - that's all YOU can do.
 
I don't consider loans or scholarships a free ride, although I would contend that anyone smart and dedicated enough to get a scholarship probably has a pretty healthy family situation to begin with.

Sports scholarships are bullshit though. Why should someone get a free education because they have a good arm? Does that mean I should get to play on the football team if I'm a whiz at physics?

Dude, you are so looking through the microscope at the cell and missing the entire animal, much less the population at large. Anyone smart enough and dedicated enough to get a scholarship has a good family? Oh, wait, I see...we're throwing out all those 'equal opportunity' type scholarships that I missed out on by being a white male from a middle class family. I couldn't get the native american scholarship, the grant for kids with one leg and a sneezing allergy, the money allocated for degrees that were not in my field of study. There is an absolute fuckton of money handed out every year, and a lot of it IS NOT based on being 'smart and dedicated'....but I understand all those people fully appreciate the free ride they get simply based on being 'different' 8) Let's focus back to your comment, because I'm confident I just ran off on a useless tangent. The comment was, they 'probably' have a good family. I would say it is 'possible' but not necessarily probable. Maybe we're (I am?) quibbling at semantics here, but I have seen too many kids earn scholarships based on performance and ability who were not in a Beaver Cleaver family to let that fly. Yes, there are a lot who exist, but there are a LOT who aren't in that situation but still earn the free-ride. I'm calling bullshit on that one.

To look at sports for just a moment, let's take a bigger perspective than this one student. If it is a major sport, the University gains a lot from having this athlete attend - both in terms of sports awards recognition AND increased media awareness. Surely you heard about the outrage of football players unable to be paid whilst the school rakes in millions in tv contracts and memorabilia sales (jersey anyone?)? So, in one sense, the scholarship is the only way of paying back these kids for what they provide the school - call it whoring or whatever you want, but giving these scholarships is minuscule to what the school gains in return for having these athletes attend. It then falls to the athlete to seize the opportunity and actually learn something from his courses, as opposed to making the attendance record and focusing on trying to play in the pros. But let us not forget, there are a LOT of less popular sports played, and those student-athletes are also given scholarships without bringing much, if any, money or recognition back to the school. So, those ought to be tossed out as well? I beg to differ. You (Kyk) decry that money is given to kids because they swim fast or play tennis well, and that money is better spent on kids who have broken families or low income? Who are you to decide that besides being a non-sport playing, broken family, non-income have not? Fuck you and your lack of athletic ability.

For some of those student athletes, if it weren't for the sports scholarship, they wouldn't be able to attend college and earn a degree. You sound as if you assume they all come from full homes and adequate income. An assumption, which you cannot backup. Several of them know damn well that this 'sport' *is* their job and they can't fuck it up because it is *how* they are paying for college. Just like you, they have to earn their way through school, and I assure you they appreciate similar to the way you do. But if you screw up a class and have to retake it, you simply are in for another semester doing make up courses and spending a little more out of your pocket, perhaps working overtime at your job. Them? They lost the scholarship, they are out...to bad, so sad, solly cholly, gtfo. There is no overtime to work at a job, their overtime is busting their ass in the library to ensure their grades stay up to snuff WHILE working their sport well enough to remain on the team.

I never played a college sport. But I really think you are missing A LOT of the big picture on those who have. You don't have their background or perspective, don't assume it's easier or better than yours. Don't do that, unless you want to debase your entire argument as just that - your argument, your opinion without much concern for anything beyond what you personally see and feel. And we both know that isn't a discussion, that's a bitch, a whinge, a waste of our time.

I understand the jealousy. In Australia we're lucky in that we have a program called HECS. This basically means that we don't have to pay anything upfront, however once we're in the workforce and earning over a certain amount of money, our wages will be garnished. I think this is a fantastic system and one I'm eternally grateful for.

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I also knew a lot of 'trust fund kids' whose parents gave them money while they were studying, whereas I had to work. At the end of the day though, who's going to have had a better life experience?

Okay, enough Kyk bashing on my part...let's move towards the real discussion here. UAN presents a very interesting solution, one I'd be happy to see in place as well - but it kind if is already, in the way of student loans. I've no qualms about people who are unable to pay for an education going through to earn the degree and either work during school to allay the costs or taking on student loans or similar debt programs as outlined above. I think all of us would agree this is acceptable, I'm just pleased to see how Aus handles it.

The last bit, one more echo of my earlier point - who is really better off at the end of it all?

...I do feel like it was handed to me, and I don't feel like I completely earned it. That said, I wrote all of the papers, took all of the tests, and now have a degree with no debt. For that I am very thankful.

It is what it is Kyk. I'm no less of a person for being born into a rich family.

This, I think, is another key part that's being stepped over - how you get to college is one thing. What you do there is another one entirely, and it falls to the individual to actually gain from their college experience. They become master beer pong champion, or they learn how to run a business and provide for their family. It's on them where they end up when they come out of college, and in that instance I'd lean towards those who paid their own way as having a head start on the others in most cases.

That's sort of the point. You are more of a person in a certain way

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I think it's important for people to come to terms with, and be vocal about the inequities of life. That doesn't mean bitching and whining that the guy next to you has more, but asking relevant questions that shed light on individual situations, and asking ourselves as a society what we can do to fix them.

I find people getting sorry and defensive about having their College paid for as disingenuous. I have yet to see one person come in this thread and say, "Yeah, I got a full ride. I'd like to see education reform" or "I'd like to see more scholarships for people in unique situations."

No, it's just "Yeah, I got a full ride. I got lucky. Get off my nuts."

If you are the future philanthropists, then I'm a little worried about socioeconomic disparity in the coming years.


Get off our nuts. Yes, you could have done better at avoiding the obstacles you laid in your path if you were better coached along the way, sorry - life ain't fair. I'm not going to apologize or feel bad for my lot in life - I didn't pick it, I made the best of it I could. Likewise, I'm not going to lament the areas where I got shafted and had to overcome things other people didn't. Am I going to complain about how I keep myself in continual debt because I never learned the value of money or how to juggle multiple responsibilities like working full time, going to school (full?) time, and pehaps having a family at the same time? No. Everyone's life is different - better in some ways, worse in some ways, but different. I'm not going to judge them and say they should be ashamed, or should change their ways. Like Mehm said - it is what it is.

BUT, But, but.....Kyk wants us to look at society and change they way it is. Okay, let's take a step back and try to evaluate that. Most of what's presented here is based on family and income. But is that where we should draw the line? Why? Because Kyk said so, and provided his life as an example to support it? What about kids that don't learn as well, have reading or comprehension issues, do we need to dumb down college courses so everyone has the same shot at learning the material? What about those who come here and English isn't a first language, do we need to diversify and have our courses taught in 25 different languages? How about access? Should we ban cars, since not everyone can afford them and the associate parking dues? Should we only allow bikes in that case? Surely everyone can afford a bicycle and that would be fair and equal to those less fortunate.....or can not everyone afford a bike?

NO, No, no, TLB - he was trying to address the inequality of access to college based on financial status (and to an extent, family support). Okay, so we'll try to fix society by working on 1-2 of the dozen or so pillars that will carry the status quo....gotcha. Pardon me while I piss in the wind over here, as I think it will be more productive. At least here I can whistle a tune whilst I do it, rather than listen to that incessant whine I hear coming from Kanada :| Because that is what I see this thread as - less of a 'here is a problem, how can we fix it' and more of a 'Kyk got the short stick in life and wants people to feel bad they got a better deal'. Sorry, I'm not buying that one.
 
Full disclosure

So, who the hell am I to come in telling people to fold and not put my own cards on the table? Here ya go:


White male from a full famly (both parents and a younger sister). Dad went thru college (paid by his parents), got a Masters, and in a related note has gone on to a career in teaching college. Mom got an undergrad degree, worked during our 'famly' years, then went back to school part time when much older to earn a Masters. Sister and I both had extra-curricular activities, supported by our parents but never pushed or even suggested - it was completely the decision of the kids to explore their interests (and yeah, I played sports with a lot of kids from broken, or low income homes, and even went on to college with them).

My sister's college (and partying living expenses) was paid for by family (father, his father - mother was more of the 'earn it' school), along with minimal 'earned' (GPA) scholarships. She spent 8-9 yrs to earn masters and has gone on to work in teaching grade school. She and I both agree she didn't learn the value of money until she was married and (almost) completely off the family tab...about age 27 :\

My college (and some living expenses) were paid for by family (father's father, not my dad or mom). I was eligible for scholarships (GPA) but was to lazy...yes, lazy, to take advantage of it until that window of opportunity had closed. I also worked part-time through school to support myself, but made it a point to never get help unless I had to. I knew it was there, but knew I had to handle myself or I'd eventually fail. 2.5 years of community college, 3.5 yrs of university study at two different schools. By the way, I knew what I was going to be since age 13 - by my choice (interest and natural talent), not because someone guided me. For those of you keeping score at home - that's 6 yrs for a 4 yr degree by someone with family support available (money and wisdom) AND a known reason for being in school. So, by about 17 I'm supporting myself (partially, with a family safety net if needed), learning how to manage my life, finances, and education. Later, after working a few years, I went back to school for my Masters. Working full time, had my employer willing to pay for the advanced degree - so 3 yrs for a 2 yr degree. Here I will also note that even in grad school there was a noticeable difference between people straight from undergrad (never worked) and those who had worked a bit - both in terms of content they could provide to class discussions on theory vs application, but more importantly on being focused and getting as much as they can from the courses and professors. Ftr, undergard in engineering 3.4/4.0 GPA, grad in engineering mgt 3.2/4.0 GPA, so I wasn't stupid or screwing around (okay, stupid is still open for debate).


Two last take-aways from what I just shared as it reflects back to the topic.
1 - Even those in the 'fortunate' position Kyk thinks doesn't appreciate things....I was one of those who did, and looking at my peers I wasn't the only one, not even in the minority (after the first 2 yrs....which is when most people did drop out or realize what they wanted and why they were there). Community college, again you've got a minority just attending 13th and 14th grade, but the majority are working people trying to better themselves - the strong majority - who DO appreciate what they are getting, and are for the most part paying their own way. But, being 'fortunate' I missed out on scholarships because I took that for granted, and never applied....that sense of 'I will be in college with or without this' made me miss out on it - shame on me for not using it. But, my not using it, and relying on family and my own work...may just mean that someone without family support, without financial means, WAS able to attend. Consider that, before you dismiss those who are full-ride, that it frees up money for others.

2 - As much discussion as there is on people who work, to pay their way through school...and the 'acceptance' of those full-riders who are on 'earned' scholarships, don't forget the power of an employer vested in your future. My grad degree, and the undergrad degrees for A LOT of people are either supplemented or paid for entirely by employers who realize that helping you obtain this degree helps you, but also helps them. So, how do you want to categorize them? Working and paying their own way, or getting a free hand-out? Hmmm?
 
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ThatDie4: It's not that people are saying they wouldn't accept money from parents to pay for their education (though my parents had more than enough and I still had to pay for mine) but it's the sense of entitlement that those kids used to have that really bugged me. The, 'It's not my fault my parent's are rich' argument is such a cop out. As I said in my post, I would absolutely help pay for my kids education if I could, but it'll be a cold day in hell before I help them with their every day expenses.

I agree with you and Mehm, though. The US college system seems absolutely ridiculous to me. People should NOT be drowned in debt just to get a higher education. I wouldn't go so far as to say socialised education, but there definitely should be some sort of overhaul.

That's very true ^ The sense of entitlement thing is annoying. I'd like to think that I'm not that way, I certainly try not to be. I know from living with my mom, who is a single parent, that money doesn't grow on trees. There are definently people who expect the world to be handed to them on a silver platter.. its not going to be a good thing when those people have to get out in the world and make their own living. I think, for me personally, the work ethic I have in school will carry over into my career, because I do try hard and maintain A's and B's... but the ones with the "C's get degrees" attitude I worry for them.

I do understand why parents don't give their kids spending money.. I will admit that because I don't pay for my own expenses, I have a hard time budgeting money and that's going to be something I need to work on. However, I still accept it ( I don't ask for it or expect it, but I am still given it) because I know having a job would negatively affect my grade. I'm pretty busy between school and a community service organization I'm involved with, so I'm grateful that I can focus my attention on those things rather than working.
 
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Coming back to read what I wrote, I'd like to use it for a moment of education (no irony intended) if I may. Some my recognize my style of megaposting to beat someone over the head when I think they are full of shit - it's something I've worked on over the years. What I also have worked on, but failed at here, is reading every post and forming an unbaised opinion. Reading through, I got fired up at some of the wording used and proceeded to read for points to quote for my case rather than actually learning the evolution of the discussion and the current positions of hte players. Add in a little personal offline drama stressing me out, and you find someone (me) going way overboard and responding out of proportion to the thread content with a fairly emotional response that is largely misplaced (should have been kept in the real world). There's a few other wrinkles into the how and why I went off like I did, but at this point....

I'm not going to edit or delete my words since I believe once it's out there, it's out there. I get to sit back and enjoy the rewards of my work - even if that means sitting around looking like a fool (sometimes, that's the case). So, the lesson - here's how not to respond to someone when you come into the situation with emotional baggage and you allow the start of the conversation to set you off so you misread the remainder of the thread. As an added bonus, one should always own up to what they did wrong, IMO - so here I am to offer a public apology to Kyk. I turned his subject into a much more personal attack, and for that I am sorry. I am confident I still had valid points in my rant...somewhere....but to try and weed them out from my emotional barrage, eh...not worth it.

I'm sorry to Kyk for taking, and making, this personal. And, I apologize to the readers - this isn't how we prefer 'conversations' to be carried out :\ Bad example, by an admin no less. Perhaps I can come back later with a better 'argument' of the points of discussion, but for now, I've got to go deal with that offline crap that had me fired up before I got here. L8r.
 
I agree!

There seems to be a lot of people who got grants and scholarships for post-secondary. Was I the only person who got C's in high school, but discovered a love for education after a few years of figuring out life as an adult?

I was in no way equipped to handle College or University at the age of 18 or 19.. or 20... or 21 lol.

When I went to school, it was a total rediscovery of education for me. I loved it in my first 3 years of a technology degree, and I love it now as a Biology student. I just find it strange that the government and charities are willing to fund promising young students whose parents steered them in the right direction, but completely ignore self-propelled scholars from unlikely backgrounds.

Sounds like we are cut from the same cloth! There are too many non-traditional students falling through the cracks. I can not tell you how many times I have seen undeserving freebies get a free ride and then do NOTHING but piss away their opportunity while at school! They get lazy and many times decide to quit anyway or get kicked out! A waste of money!
 
Sounds like we are cut from the same cloth! There are too many non-traditional students falling through the cracks. I can not tell you how many times I have seen undeserving freebies get a free ride and then do NOTHING but piss away their opportunity while at school! They get lazy and many times decide to quit anyway or get kicked out! A waste of money!

I actually got my first infraction in 10 years on this site for saying as much.


Thank you for getting it.
 
I would put myself in the middle of the extremes. My parents pay for my tuition/living expenses but I pay for everything else. I work part time to pay for my lifestyle. Given all of this, I know I'm very fortunate in the situation I'm given so I don't slack around at school at all.
 
My situation has not yet been mentioned.

I paid for college myself -- and finished my AA but my BA. I had a 25 hour per week internship (at a shelter for runaway teens) my freshman year. I hated my first year of college. I was away from home and totally miserable. I drank maybe 5 times that year and smoked pot just a few. I had not done any "hard" drugs at all.

I'll qualify this by saying that I received a decent-sized inheritance from my mother. Had she lived, she would not have been able or willing to pay my tuition. I spent 75% of my money or so on school/rent and the other 25% on a car/rent/travel.

I got a few grand in Pell grants and took out about $3K in loans to build my credit, which I promptly screwed up for other reasons.

I transferred to a smaller school after my first year because I did not adjust well to college life at all. I started working (and I worked from ages 15-18 in high school selling cell phones) for lawyers and got totally "addicted" to working to the point where I said "fuck it, I'm not going to be able to do my best with school AND work" so I decided to come out to California to work for the family business (real estate) as somewhat of a geographical cure for an unhealthy relationship with one of my former coworkers (not a superior).

I went back into the same field (working for lawyers) and tripled my entry level rate in less than 5 years. I don't do that right now except when very choice contracts come my way. I plan to return to college the sooner the better, but I screwed up by making too much money to qualify for anything except loans. I am literally forced to stay as broke as I can on paper so I can even qualify for those.

I paid for my education MANY times over in tears and pain in addition to the money. If I had a do-over pass I would have taken a much less demanding part-time job, sucked it up, and finished as quickly as possible. My social life never revolved around college life, although about half of my friends had the "typical" 4 year college experience.

So no, I'm not entirely self-made, but I also didn't get handouts and I don't now. I look forward to furthering my education more formally because goodness knows I have had enough of what I was doing before. The question is: what the hell am I going to do now? Time will tell. The economy sucks but my skills don't, I have a killer work ethic and a strong stomach (I am very much a type A) and I don't think that what I will ultimately "do" in life to make my mark on the world will be what I go to school to do. I'm going back to school for me and me only.
 
Kyk said:
That's sort of the point. You are more of a person in a certain way. I'm not just talking about the fact that your parents are millionaires (grats, by the way) but all of the good stuff that comes with it. You probably knew at a very early age that you were destined for University. That decision was made for you and more importantly, it's the right one! It took me a long time to figure that out, and when I did, there were obstacles in the way.

I think it's important for people to come to terms with, and be vocal about the inequities of life. That doesn't mean bitching and whining that the guy next to you has more, but asking relevant questions that shed light on individual situations, and asking ourselves as a society what we can do to fix them.

I find people getting sorry and defensive about having their College paid for as disingenuous. I have yet to see one person come in this thread and say, "Yeah, I got a full ride. I'd like to see education reform" or "I'd like to see more scholarships for people in unique situations."

ebola said:
Undergrad: partial scholarship + familial 'dole'.
Grad: loans + teaching + research fellowships from the state of california.

It's very much unfair, but I probably would have done a great deal worse if my parents didn't provide for me during undergrad. I'm going to try to repay the 'karmic debt' if I ever get out of school.

Ahem.
I thought that noting an unfair arrangement implies that it should be changed if possible.
I think that it is possible in this case.

ebola
 
I got fairly horrendous loans for school, well canadian bad not american bad, since i wanted to live on campus and have the whole experience. it was worth it. and i paid them off, after consolidating them into a credit line. it took me four years of throwing money at the debt, but they are all paid off, and they don't haunt me anymore.
 
The state paid for my *education* i.e. tuition fees cos my parents were broke

I got maximum loan (LOAN, not grant) because my parents were broke

My loan just about covered my rent with nothing to spare. I got part time jobs to pay for partying, general fun stuff, and I always took 9-5 temp jobs in the holidays to afford everything else.

I resent people who had their way paid for them! However, I'll openly admit that this is jealousy in my case. University is a bit of a halfway house before the real world -- and I think learning to look after yourself, feed yourself, etc are much more important than "the value of money".

What pisses me off HUGELY is this:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/p...n-parents.html

66% of the 18-25 year olds they surveyed regarded themselves as financially independent, while still accepting money from their parents. HUUH!!

Similarly, an ex of mine would often boast about how he worked in uni holidays and paid off his student loan straight away when he graduated. On further poking, his parents paid his tuition fees, his rent, and bought his course books. So he basically paid his beer and food bill. Whoopee fucking doo.
 
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my parents have paid for this year's tuition, and i live with my mom and she feeds me and I'm 22 and I don't give a fuck.

i think all of the degrees will become useless probably, sometime in the near future. but we'll see.
 
What pisses me off HUGELY is this:
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/finance/p...n-parents.html

66% of the 18-25 year olds they surveyed regarded themselves as financially independent, while still accepting money from their parents. HUUH!!

Similarly, an ex of mine would often boast about how he worked in uni holidays and paid off his student loan straight away when he graduated. On further poking, his parents paid his tuition fees, his rent, and bought his course books. So he basically paid his beer and food bill. Whoopee fucking doo.

Haha - the old joint credit card account with your parent(s), with only your name on the physical card, and the account "being yours" in the dating world :) Gotta love that one.

But ya, I mean maybe some of those 66% answered that way because of things like birthday gifts, taking them out for meals, etc. If you do everything you can to be financially independent, but then dad sends you $1000 for Christmas, do you really just say no? I don't think all 66% are pulling the credit card trick!
 
I took loans for living costs, as well as working 20 hours a week. The tuition fees were partly paid by loans, and partly from the rent money made from the house my brothers and I inherited from our dad.

I've got an almost £30k debt to pay back though :( But at least i got a good final mark.
 
Not sure on exact figures but my family paid for my freshman year and I paid for the rest with some help on my rent each month from my family. Loans are going to be paid off by a grant program soon. I probably paid 50% out of pocket through working while going to school.

I have no issues with people as long as they finish it up. Some people have issues making it through their education and I can respect that. It's not always easy. Making it through and completing your Bachelors is awesome though no matter how its done. Masters and further is even more awesome.
 
Sounds like we are cut from the same cloth! There are too many non-traditional students falling through the cracks. I can not tell you how many times I have seen undeserving freebies get a free ride and then do NOTHING but piss away their opportunity while at school! They get lazy and many times decide to quit anyway or get kicked out! A waste of money!

There's going to be people who have great opportunity and squander it in ANYTHING. Get over it!
 
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