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Mariposa said:
In no way do I feel I've "relapsed" as 2 beers isn't problematic use. I'm not driving anywhere. I feel like I'm making the excuse that "it's just beer"... but it really IS just beer. This is the first Mardi Gras I haven't been drinking hurricanes the whole day. :|
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I think there's a huge difference between drinking responsibily (1-2 drinks) and getting wasted / drinking more than a reasonable amount.
NA types will disagree, and it is a slippery slope .. Sometimes feels like addictive justification .. But hey, no harm, no foul.
I can't justify complete sobriety; it drives me to the brink, and alcohol is entrenched in my ethnic heritage / family .. And hey, I like beer :D

*sips Fosters with dinner*
 
^^ Next time you can make it past 24 hours :)
And then the next time you can make it even longer than that!
Like me and drinking/sobriety, it's a work in progress...
 
n3ophy7e said:
^^ Next time you can make it past 24 hours :)
And then the next time you can make it even longer than that!
Like me and drinking/sobriety, it's a work in progress...
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:) Definitely a long-term project for me too. Slipping in a few dry days every now and then is getting easier in some regards. My problem is I'm using booze as a band-aid for anxiety so to speak so cutting it out has seemed to worsen other bad habits.... On the positive side of things I'm on day 5 without a sip of alcohol now! Also feeling the sickest I have in ages. Maybe not related?

Hope everyone else is doing well!!! <3
 
That's great belarki!! Keep up the good work mate <3

I have definitely been drinking less lately, if not for any other reason than it gives me a "beer gut" hehe. Even though I don't specifically drink much beer these days at all (despite how much I LURRRVE it!!!) but it wreaks havoc on my stomach lining. Owwie.
 
n3ophy7e said:
^^ Next time you can make it past 24 hours :)
And then the next time you can make it even longer than that!
Like me and drinking/sobriety, it's a work in progress...
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Actually, I ended up only drinking half a beer then dumped it out. So I made it like 36 hours, and that's when bad/scary things started happening, and now the possibility of having to go to rehab (again) is something I'm seriously considering. I do not want what happened to happen again.
 
n3ophy7e said:
...I have definitely been drinking less lately, if not for any other reason than it gives me a "beer gut" hehe. ...
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Haha that's my primary reason for cutting back. Sad isn't it? I switched to only spirits for a while because they have the lowest calories per standard drink but switched back to wine because drinking a bottle of whiskey a night is fuckin' expensive....

By the way, this is my 6th day sober =D

^^^ Nice willpower tipping it out sixpartseven. I've only brought myself to throw out alcohol once; and that was because it was corked....
 
I can't imagine being an alcoholic. The withdrawals would be quite horrific. I'm dependent on benzodiazepines and down to 3.75 mg of Valium a day, and it has been hell and back for me just from 6 mg of Clonazepam a day to 3.75 mg of Valium a day. Both benzodiazepines and ethanol withdrawal are similar, but benzodiazepine withdrawal lasts longer and ethanol withdrawal is shorter yet slightly more horrific. Good luck to you all and be safe :)
 
Mariposa said:
Is it a bad thing that I'm allowing myself to have a couple beers for Mardi Gras (also bf's and my 2nd anniversary)?

I've otherwise been sober. In no way do I feel I've "relapsed" as 2 beers isn't problematic use. I'm not driving anywhere. I feel like I'm making the excuse that "it's just beer"... but it really IS just beer. This is the first Mardi Gras I haven't been drinking hurricanes the whole day. :|

Otherwise, 8 days sane and sober as a judge. :\
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I don't think its bad personally. Seems like you have it under control and are drinking moderately. No reason not to let loose once and awhile as long as you know you won't be totally diving off the deep end.
 
I have a headache (rare), maybe from the yesterday's hangover I'm still trying to dodge.
But hey, its Friday, I got paid, and my hours are getting cut 20% .. Self-obliteration seems appealing.

I wish I had the strength to keep my promises, and swallow a bullet rather than a beer .. But we're all weak and dishonest :-(
 
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i was sober for 8 days, was good all day, went up with my buddy had a few, found out my room mate, who is also my best friend, well his best friend has a brain tumour, 50/50 at living, so we are drunk and drinking more... this is life i guess
 
sorry to hear that, myles

i hav a friend whos sister is going thru chemo for a brain tumour atm too so i kind of know wat ur going thru, tho her prognosis is seeming quite gd so far

maybe one suggestion for how u shud deal with this is to ask urself wat ur friend wud want for u
wud he want u to b drinking urself into oblivion or wud he want u sober and trying ur best to deal with the trauma of wat ur both going thru the healthy way?

PM me if u want to talk about it further - even if u just want to talk about ur friend and not the alcohol side of things! *hugs*

paul is home now and doing the outpatient side of his program
im relieved and so is he
it was the wrong rehab for an anxious guy like him - lots of fights and youngsters using around him and things
most of the ppl there were court-ordered
he is still determined not to touch another drop of alcohol tho - and as long as were together i plan to stay off it too
 
^ Really good to hear that Paul still is determined to quit after that experience. I've heard that some rehab programs can be actually worse for some people (mostly i think the free ones - which is all i can go to too). There are often people in there who don't care about getting better so it can be hard to focus on your own recovery. I know if i was living with 15 other people who were disruptive and negative it would just create a bad vibe and keeping focused would be near impossible.

How is he going with outpatient? Is he able to detox at home with a nurse coming to visit every day? Or is he past the worst of it? Hope it's the latter, either way i wish paul, and you to miss d-w all the strength to overcome this. I think being a good influence is one of if not the the best thing you can do for your partner when they suffering addiction. I know that seeing j battle opiate addiction gives me more inspiration to get my own addiction under control. I don't have a problem with opiates and he doesn't drink, which is probably a blessing. But it will be nice once we're both on the other side.

I stayed sober for 2 days last week. I wish i could have gone for longer but i was feeling really shit, so i caved. I'm not going to do residential detox anymore, going to do it at home - not sure if that's the best but i'd rather try it first. My doctor won't prescribe me valium so my mum or housemate will have to get it. Will start that when i feel i'm really ready, which i feel will be sooner than later.

I wanted to thank Redleader for your pm to me to, it really means a lot hearing your stories and knowing that there are people out there willing to share with me. You gave me a lot of hope and thank you :) I can't pm back as my thing is full but i will once it's cleared. or if you ever want to chat on msn to my email is [email protected]

It's funny i quit smoking cigarettes a week and a half ago, but alcohol is surprisingly harder.
 
Someone slap me in the head with a fish....

5 8% beers and 5mg Lorazepam. Those benzo blackouts really creep up on ya, don't they. I was absoltely fine one second, carrying on conversations on MSN and watching a television program on the History Channel. I was drunk, but just like any ordinary night.

I have no memory after 2am. Looking at my logs on the computer, and through my text messages, ya I need slapped with a fish. I was writing the most random thoughts to people. I kept calling a friend of mine "sweetie" when I never would do that normally (and she's just my buddy, I have no crush on her). Apparently I went to bed sometime around 4:30am.

I don't even want to know what I might have done in that 2.5hours. Or what some people are thinking of me now.

Everyone, don't mix alcohol and beznos....seriously. I am a fool, but not all of you need to be as well!
 
Damn RL, that sucks :(
We live and learn hey?
I hope you clear things up with the people you apparently spoke to whilst blacked out. Can you ask the people you think you spoke to what you were saying etc?

myles p said:
i was sober for 8 days, was good all day, went up with my buddy had a few, found out my room mate, who is also my best friend, well his best friend has a brain tumour, 50/50 at living, so we are drunk and drinking more... this is life i guess
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myles, 8 days of sobriety is definitely something to be proud of. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend, I sincerely hope they get the best prognosis possible.

SilverFeniks said:
But hey, its Friday, I got paid, and my hours are getting cut 20% .. Self-obliteration seems appealing.
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SF, be careful about drinking more when you know you'll be getting paid less! I know it's tempting to drown your sorrows at times like this but you'll regret wasting the money later.
 
n3ophy7e said:
Damn RL, that sucks
We live and learn hey?
I hope you clear things up with the people you apparently spoke to whilst blacked out. Can you ask the people you think you spoke to what you were saying etc?
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This happened again last night. The area between comfortable benzo/alcohol fun and blackout is soooo thin and unpredictable. Much more thin than alcohol/more alcohol blackout, or other mixes of drugs. My memory was perfectly clear to a point, and then it just ends - like a god-damned UFO abduction or something....

Apparently I was trying to tell my straight-edge sister how amazing raving is.
I was telling an old friend from Brisbane, well, a bunch of PLUR stuff about our friendship and missing her to the waaay creepy level.
I wrote (I'm not joking) 400+ words to a friend about the beef jerky I was eating, describing it rather well through the English Language.
Showered and cooked myself Mac 'n Cheese. Apparently ate it too.
I would have taken several photos of myself, correctly used imageshak and such, and then put them in the nudie thread.
I fed my cats and took out my garbage.

Again, absoltely no memory of any of this. Usually I'm a rather reserved person. I just wonder like, when I wasn't conscious, ya know I had to be.....I don't like this benzo blackstuff on a psychological level.

I guess I'm lucky in that I never go for more benzos during the blackouts. I read about people doing that on here.

No more benzos. I gave the rest of them away today. Yes, live and learn.

Tonight I'm cooking a nice dinner for my sister and her friends, so I will be serving champaigne (hence I will be drinking). The alcoholic part of that is I am not really sure if any of them even drink.
 
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