unodelacosa
Bluelighter
Perhaps but easier said than done and I imagine this might be one of those things wherein it’s easy see from the outside, but from the inside it‘s different. Distancing myself in that manner feels disingenuous, emotionless, lifeless, and vaguely sociopathic, and I’m just not wired that way, though I wish I were.unodelacosa,
I am not malevolently criticizing. I am giving what is intended to be helpful feedback.
As to why you are getting it and no-one else is, in this moment... It is because I respect you enough to believe you have the capacity to hear what I am saying, eg. you are worth the time of pointing at what I see as an unnecessary behavior pattern.
I 100% understand the frustration you must feel receiving not only criticism and feedback here, but presumptive and harsh accusations, given all of the time, energy, and information you have shared in this thread. I would feel the same way, I am sorry that you're going through it here, and it is for that reason that I shared what I did. I truly believe you could avoid 99% of the vitriol you receive in this thread if you tempered the tone of your responses, and took a more distanced perspective on the personal attacks and disrespect that you do receive.
That was kindly stated and I’m grateful you understand what this feels like to me. I don’t feel as lonely, thank you.