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Why do people find cheating sex "hot"

When my ex husband went to jail for domestic abuse, he knew no phone numbers because they were all stored in his phone, which had been stored with the rest of his belongings. He couldn’t reach anyone to bail him out so there he sat for months.

I took his precious car and used it to do things, like driving in the snow. He’d been in jail a few months when the company who financed his car, started calling me on my iPhone.

I knew the repo man was going to pay us a visit soon so I put a note in the windshield saying that they didn’t have to do all that hooking and booking, they could call me and I’d bring them the keys. A few weeks later I got a phone call in the middle of the night. The repomen wanted to hear the story behind my offering the keys. When I told them, they laughed and said that I made their day. But weeks prior to the car’s repossession, I took his expensive suits and through them in the back of his car. The repomen said he had 30 days to get his belongings left in the car, or the belongings would be confiscated. I never told him what I did.
 
tubgirl.jpg said:
I lack the disposition to be a cheater. I personally can't see what's hot about betraying trust, but I had a friend who was a notorious cheater. It was fascinating in lack of better words, to hear him justify himself.
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I've had some sort of fuckery in a couple of my relationships. I'm not abusive but I'm kind of a POS in other ways. I hate the fact that I did what I did so easily. I just didn't care about anything or anyone and I followed my base impulses around, getting high and self destructing. I've lost pretty much all respect I had for myself at this point. I pretty much single handedly destroyed a beautiful relationship that should've lasted forever.
 
deficiT said:
I've had some sort of fuckery in a couple of my relationships. I'm not abusive but I'm kind of a POS in other ways. I hate the fact that I did what I did so easily. I just didn't care about anything or anyone and I followed my base impulses around, getting high and self destructing. I've lost pretty much all respect I had for myself at this point. I pretty much single handedly destroyed a beautiful relationship that should've lasted forever.
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Everybody messes up, makes bad decisions dude: a behavior and incidents are, at least in my book, very different beasts. :) I hope you don't beat yourself up to much.

I've done plenty of other bad shit, I'm not one to judge anyone. If it came out that way, my apologises. :)
 
Fiori di Bella said:
I should add that my ex had to get it up with penile injections. Cialas, Levitra and Viagra did not work. I cannot believe he had to resort to self injections to solve the issues with his withered cock.
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Now that’s sad.. Probably the reason he felt he had to compensate in so many other ways. Did the injections work? Lol.

Im taking the proactive approach and eating healthy/exercising daily to keep my cock working. So far so good…

-GC
 
G_Chem said:
Now that’s sad.. Probably the reason he felt he had to compensate in so many other ways. Did the injections work? Lol.

Im taking the proactive approach and eating healthy/exercising daily to keep my cock working. So far so good…

-GC
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The injections were fairly well tolerated and produced results predictably. But I understand that this method should not appeal to most men.
 
Fiori di Bella said:
My ex husband was a narcissist and a sexual addict. He also behaved as though he was one of the wealthiest men who lived in my large metropolis.

He would take my daughter and I to the most expensive restaurants and ask to see the chef. He always ordered appetizers and after dinner charcuterie, and during each course of the meal he’d ask to see the sommelier for wine pairing recommendations. He drank Grand Marnier or Courvoisier after the charcuterie platter. The bill for the meal was usually $150 but the bar bill was usually not less than $250. I’m definitely more diner girl than fancy restaurant girl.

We ate at a really expensive restaurant at Disney World’s Grand Floridian for just under $800. It was called the Victoria and Albert, I think.

But my narcissistic husband didn’t only act rich at restaurants. On my birthday, I was having dinner with a friend and he was supposed to be working 300 miles away. Instead he called me and told me to look outside. There he was in a silver Mercedes convertible. He never said Happy Birthday, and actually said, “Don’t I look great in the new car”. It wasn’t a question and was spoken as a statement.

He also wore $500 Italian shoes and expensive suits. He dyed his hair and his chest hair. He would even ask if his butt looked to big.

He had a ritual song he sang every morning when he got up and looked at the mirror; “Oh I’m a handsome man, handsome is as handsome does as handsome can”. I think it was supposed to be a way of reassuring himself that he still had it going on. His cosmetics were also very expensive.

He was diagnosed with narcissism (and probably a psychopath, according to our couples counselor who gave me that little gem of news when I showed up alone). He missed the majority of the couples therapy.
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Wow. I'm sincerely feeling bad after reading that. I can't imagine dealing with someone like that. I hope and trust you've moved on. Good luck to you! 🙂
 
Fiori di Bella said:
The injections were fairly well tolerated and produced results predictably. But I understand that this method should not appeal to most men.
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Well, to be fair, I can't imagine it would appeal to any man. Impotence is often physical and treatable. But honestly, if it came down to injecting my dick and not having sex at all, well, get the needle out. If a guy can't get an erection it's kinda cruel to use it against him. OTOH sometimes a guy can't because he just isn't attracted to a person. Just saying.
 
As a urology nurse I can tell you, most men get hard in the am. If they’ve not gotten erect with those 3 drugs, his impotence is almost always labeled “Psychogenic Impotence”. That means they’re physically able to get erect, but their mind gets in the way. However, some diabetes drugs also present impotence.
My ex-husband was the only impotent man I was ever with.
 
Pickledlemons said:
Sorry no offense but this does not sound like a good person... somebody who would not only potentially traumatize her partner in exchange for a rush but then do it again and again even after seeing the consequences on the other party. I get everybody makes mistakes, but when you do something like this multiple times without talking to your patner first, well in my book, you are a shit person.
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Fiori di Bella said:
My ex husband was a narcissist and a sexual addict. He also behaved as though he was one of the wealthiest men who lived in my large metropolis.

He would take my daughter and I to the most expensive restaurants and ask to see the chef. He always ordered appetizers and after dinner charcuterie, and during each course of the meal he’d ask to see the sommelier for wine pairing recommendations. He drank Grand Marnier or Courvoisier after the charcuterie platter. The bill for the meal was usually $150 but the bar bill was usually not less than $250. I’m definitely more diner girl than fancy restaurant girl.

We ate at a really expensive restaurant at Disney World’s Grand Floridian for just under $800. It was called the Victoria and Albert, I think.

But my narcissistic husband didn’t only act rich at restaurants. On my birthday, I was having dinner with a friend and he was supposed to be working 300 miles away. Instead he called me and told me to look outside. There he was in a silver Mercedes convertible. He never said Happy Birthday, and actually said, “Don’t I look great in the new car”. It wasn’t a question and was spoken as a statement.

He also wore $500 Italian shoes and expensive suits. He dyed his hair and his chest hair. He would even ask if his butt looked to big.

He had a ritual song he sang every morning when he got up and looked at the mirror; “Oh I’m a handsome man, handsome is as handsome does as handsome can”. I think it was supposed to be a way of reassuring himself that he still had it going on. His cos,,metics were also very expensive.

He was diagnosed with narcissism (and probably a psychopath, according to our couples counselor who gave me that little gem of news when I showed up alone). He missed the majority of the couples therapy.
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I agree wholeheartedly...You're. probably a fuckin sociopath on some level...Bi polar women? stay rthe fuck away
 
I've never cheated before. I honestly don't think if I could (in a normal state of mind). I'm too conscientious. It would feel too wrong.

But I've certainly been the one cheated on. Le sigh 😔.
 
I’ve been cheated on numerous times. I’m low key and would never think of doing surveillance on my boyfriends. I’m deffo not a bitch to boyfriends.

Basically, you want to be with me or don’t. If you choose to cheat, ffs, I’m out the door (or you’re kicked out), and we’re completely done at that point.
 
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Fiori di Bella said:
I should add that my ex had to get it up with penile injections. Cialas, Levitra and Viagra did not work. I cannot believe he had to resort to self injections to solve the issues with his withered cock
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Oh my God that’s brutal. Is this the guy who was the chronic masturbator on the pc all day you told me about. He was a scuzzy fuck.
 
I’ve been in a situation. I knew he was cheating. So I did. We found out. We came to a resolution on open relationship. I’ve been in nothing but open since and if it isn’t going that way it’s not working in one instance. I would absolutely commit to monogamy if that’s the deal but we need to agree on it. These kinds of things should be discussed from the beginning and always. Usually honesty is really what goes the mile here and makes a cheating situation either a breakup or an acceptance and maybe group fun.

I’m from a different world maybe. A lot of people believe in it truly, but people cheat because they crave variety and relationships do sour temporarily or forever. This is blunt but it’s pretty normal although extremely disrespectful and hurtful. I’m a little ashamed for what I did, except he matched my to 2 to about 25 people so fuck it. I was upset then by the sheer number but not surprised. We worked it out. Still talk occasionally.
 
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