birdup.snaildown
Greenlighter
When I was 19 years old my girlfriend bought me some pot (which was highly unusual) and drove me out to a suburban park. When we got there, she told me chop up a mix. I knew something was up, but free weed was on the table so I didn't overthink it. After I had a cone, she told me she was pregnant.
My head still buzzing from the bong, this was not at all what I wanted to hear. I guess she figured weed would calm me down but that's not how it works. Thoughts raced through my head. I started getting super paranoid, but I fought through it. This wasn't a serious relationship (for me, anyway) so I said - as delicately as I could - that we should get an abortion.
She didn't argue with me. Pretty sure she would've kept it if I'd had a different reaction. Not too long afterwards, we broke up.
If I didn't say I wanted to kill this life inside her, I would have an son or daughter graduating high school. Over the years, I've often thought about this person. What they might look like. What they might have accomplished in life. It always made me feel sad, but I pushed it away.
About five years later - after consuming a truckload of drugs - I was struggling to conceive a child with my wife. I had a sperm analysis test and it came back as a very low count. They told me it was basically impossible for us to conceive naturally. It hit me like a tonne of bricks. I killed my only child out of convenience. There was no way we could afford IVF.
They didn't tell me (they probably didn't know at the time) that chronic marijuana use temporarily reduces sperm count.
Twelve years later - at the age of 36 - I took a three month break from weed and conceived a child with my second wife on my first attempt. We have a healthy baby girl. She's the light of my life.
Now I look back at that abortion when I was a teenager and think about the person I killed because I didn't want to bother raising a child. I can't help but look at my daughter and imagine her not existing because of selfishness.
This is a sensitive topic. People get really upset about anything even slightly pro-life, but it's complicated isn't it?
One one hand, women have a right to make decisions. I understand that. You can't force someone to carry a child they don't want. Then there are the extreme examples (rape / incest) which I totally get.
I opted for an abortion because I was raised thinking that was the right thing to do. It has gone beyond normalisation now. These days abortion has been embraced as a fundamental right. People at women's rallies joyfully exclaim their right to kill their children. There is no inkling of remorse. There appears to be no understanding that this is a life.
I know women who make little to no effort to prevent conception because they know they can just kill it. It doesn't appear to be uncommon for one woman to have half a dozen abortions. This seems crazy to me. One is understandable. But three? Four? Six?
I'm not saying abortion should be illegal (that's complicated) but hasn't it gone too far? The Western world is now completely detached from the reality of the procedure.
I said in another thread the left wants the freedom to kill babies and @Zephyn replied something like, you mean the left wants bodily autonomy for women. Bodily autonomy. This phrase is chillingly removed from the reality of the situation. Why don't we just call it what it is?
My head still buzzing from the bong, this was not at all what I wanted to hear. I guess she figured weed would calm me down but that's not how it works. Thoughts raced through my head. I started getting super paranoid, but I fought through it. This wasn't a serious relationship (for me, anyway) so I said - as delicately as I could - that we should get an abortion.
She didn't argue with me. Pretty sure she would've kept it if I'd had a different reaction. Not too long afterwards, we broke up.
If I didn't say I wanted to kill this life inside her, I would have an son or daughter graduating high school. Over the years, I've often thought about this person. What they might look like. What they might have accomplished in life. It always made me feel sad, but I pushed it away.
About five years later - after consuming a truckload of drugs - I was struggling to conceive a child with my wife. I had a sperm analysis test and it came back as a very low count. They told me it was basically impossible for us to conceive naturally. It hit me like a tonne of bricks. I killed my only child out of convenience. There was no way we could afford IVF.
They didn't tell me (they probably didn't know at the time) that chronic marijuana use temporarily reduces sperm count.
Twelve years later - at the age of 36 - I took a three month break from weed and conceived a child with my second wife on my first attempt. We have a healthy baby girl. She's the light of my life.
Now I look back at that abortion when I was a teenager and think about the person I killed because I didn't want to bother raising a child. I can't help but look at my daughter and imagine her not existing because of selfishness.
This is a sensitive topic. People get really upset about anything even slightly pro-life, but it's complicated isn't it?
One one hand, women have a right to make decisions. I understand that. You can't force someone to carry a child they don't want. Then there are the extreme examples (rape / incest) which I totally get.
I opted for an abortion because I was raised thinking that was the right thing to do. It has gone beyond normalisation now. These days abortion has been embraced as a fundamental right. People at women's rallies joyfully exclaim their right to kill their children. There is no inkling of remorse. There appears to be no understanding that this is a life.
I know women who make little to no effort to prevent conception because they know they can just kill it. It doesn't appear to be uncommon for one woman to have half a dozen abortions. This seems crazy to me. One is understandable. But three? Four? Six?
I'm not saying abortion should be illegal (that's complicated) but hasn't it gone too far? The Western world is now completely detached from the reality of the procedure.
I said in another thread the left wants the freedom to kill babies and @Zephyn replied something like, you mean the left wants bodily autonomy for women. Bodily autonomy. This phrase is chillingly removed from the reality of the situation. Why don't we just call it what it is?
