JessFR said:
are homeless men proportionally attacked by strangers at a higher rate than homeless women? Cause that's the specific example I was talking about.
Women are disproportionately sexually assaulted and men are disproportionately murdered. I'd rather be sexually assaulted than murdered, but that's besides the point. You can't say that white men have advantages over women unless you also acknowledge that white women have advantages over men. I think we've gotten to a point that it's pretty much equal. Your comment about how it
must be so hard to be a white man doesn't make sense to me, for this reason. You can't prove that it's harder to be a white woman than a white man. If you're going to argue that being white is a privilege (I disagree) you shouldn't split the gender. You should realize that you're just as "privileged" as the rest of your race, regardless of gender.
JessFR said:
My original point, is you're disadvantaged by being born say aboriginal woman vs white man.
The problem with this is you're talking about statistics, not individuals... and it hurts people (who are white men born into hell) when people make these type of comments. It's also offensive (I imagine) to some Aboriginal people who are raised in a loving supportive environment with everything they need. There are lots of people with Aboriginal ancestry and they don't all think alike.
Individuals aren't statistics. If you're born white, that isn't necessarily an advantage over non-white (Maori / Aboriginal / African American) people.
JessFR said:
As for why aboriginals are disadvantaged, I'm sure we could debate it all day, but it doesn't really matter for my original point.
It does matter. Whether or not Aboriginal people are disadvantaged because of systemic racism is significant. If not, why downplay the problems that white kids have?
Men kill themselves a lot. Statements like yours about
how hard it must be to be male don't help. It can be hard to be a man, just like it can be hard to be a woman. It can be hard to be white man. Doesn't matter if it's harder to be something else.
JessFR said:
It must be so hard being a white man who's a member of no minority groups.
Your comment was a response to nothing. Nobody said it was harder to be white than it is to be Aboriginal or African American. For seemingly no reason whatsoever you just mocked the struggles of a particular demographic.
I'll let you know something. It
is hard being me, despite the fact that I'm white and male. My dad had a lot of money too, but I've suffered (for whatever reason) from mental illness and addiction my entire life. I've been through a lot of pain. I've struggled more than a lot of Maori kids I know. Maybe I don't have an excuse, but that doesn't make it easier. If anything, it makes it more difficult... because people make comments like that and I feel even more depressed and like more of a loser. I already hate myself enough, I don't need to be told that life isn't hard for me because of my genitals and my skin pigment.
You don't know what it's like to be a white man.
I don't know what it's like to be a woman.
I would
never say, "it must be
so hard to be a white woman."
Your comment doesn't help me.