Horrible ex I'm in love with and how it went to shit THIS time

MrsGamp

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It started with:
A. me asking ex, "Dick Winner", for a drink of port.
(well, why indeed should Winner give me port? I'd given him free drugs, and paid for his smokes and groceries. But then again Winner had already given me the gift of telling me how much he'd like to give me. And it is the thought that counts.)

B. My disgraceful demand for a drink of port led to an impromptu performance of "Telling it How it Is", a dramatic monologue written by Dick.Winner, directed by Dick Winner and starring Dick Winner.

"Telling it How It Is" is a brave piece by Dick Winner about a good man whose life has been broken by insane women and too much political correctness.

In the first act, the un-named protagonist (brilliantly portrayed
but Dick Winner) proves he is unusually perceptive, objective, truthful, by saying he is unusually perceptive, objective, and truthful.

In Act 2, a post modern surprise is in store: despite his no-bullshit position, the more bullshit Winner talks, the better he seems to think he is! Should we recoil from the hypocrisy?

No. The message is that truth, fairness and MENTAL EFFORT are outrageous bourgeois-feminist impositions.

We sigh with relief, too. FINALLY men's rights activists have discovered post modernism!

The glorious dressing down ... The insults .. The pointing, gestures, the sneers.. The radical readiness to scream and not let the other person talk at all .. The ingenious use of relentless insults, sleep deprivation, the Stalinist triumph of making the woman apologise for not just asking for a drink of port ... But for making him bash her up, making him throw her across the room so her shoulder got fractured...

As Winner said, "If you bite the Tiger, it's going to scratch...."

Chastened I left the theatre, convinced that his delirium wad so beautiful ... Like the theory of relativity...except in the sphere of drug-addled bullying, stinginess, and bad bad sex. Most people can't get away with this. But he can. It's all relative.

An inspired burning whirlwind of a man, with a steaming head full of self pity and narcissism and cheap rip-off tactics can be...

SO BEAUTIFUL.

Some people ARE just totally fucking worth it and should be allowed to do whatever they want because they're just so good.

There should be some organization and agitation for these rare and excellent individuals.
 
but in no way is this a pot shot at Shady...
and when you say "Shady will always win" with satire ...
I must ask: what was the question?
when did I intimate that it was time for me to have a "satire battle" with shady?
if we are having a satire battle, his sole contribution thus far is "what the fuck". Which doesn't exactly knock
my motherfucking socks off.
 
Yeah, I like your writing style too. A little bit self-debasing but yeah, tis the dark side.
 
but in no way is this a pot shot at Shady...
and when you say "Shady will always win" with satire ...
I must ask: what was the question?
when did I intimate that it was time for me to have a "satire battle" with shady?
if we are having a satire battle, his sole contribution thus far is "what the fuck". Which doesn't exactly knock
my motherfucking socks off.
I love your writing mate.

Ignore shady; he is unhelpful
hey thanks for complimenting my writing!!
It's cheered me up so much I have a written the start of a parody Tim Winton novel and posted it in here in "words". I suspect that it wouldn't be very funny unless you were Australian and had been forced to to read a lot of Tim Winton books at school...
Anyway whether you like it or not, you've spurred me into creativity ... A gift beyond price.
THANKS!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
 
Hi OP, a fellow Aussie here; I enjoyed your writing. It has very funny moments despite the situation you're in.

Imo, he is a malignant narcissist. They are exceptionally difficult to live with, and even harder to clip them cleanly out of your life. All the best with your relationship and your craft. :)
 
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And lmfao! Tim Winton was aggravated boredom.
tis disgusting that my daughter, who is in year 12, has to read Winton's toilet paper instead of something decent....glad you enjoyed!
 
Thanks for praise of my writing.. It's cheered me up heaps and prompted me to post a parody Tim Winton novelette in the "Words" forum!
Anything that makes me want to do something creative is absolute gold.
Lately you and other bluelighters have done more to motivate me to get straight (or at least less crooked) than any one of the psychs/counsellors I've seen over he last ten years. No shit.
Thanks ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yeah, I like your writing style too. A little bit self-debasing but yeah, tis the dark side.
ks
 
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tis disgusting that my daughter, who is in year 12, has to read Winton's toilet paper instead of something decent....glad you enjoyed!

In year 12 wtf? What about the greats, (and more relevant), like Orwell?Thankfully I was able to choose books in year 12, Tim Winton was the most dull author I was forced to read in class.
 
Hi OP, a fellow Aussie here; I enjoyed your writing. It has very funny moments despite the situation you're in.

Imo, he is a malignant narcissist. They are exceptionally difficult to live with, and even harder to clip them cleanly out of your life. All the best with your relationship and your craft. :)
Re malignant narcissism - yes since the latest bullshit stunt (as described in OP) have been reading a lot about narcissists and it does sound like him. But so too does "sociopath". Mind you, I score as a n
In year 12 wtf? What about the greats, (and more relevant), like Orwell?Thankfully I was able to choose books in year 12, Tim Winton was the most dull author I was forced to read in class.
Orwell - yeah! Right on! One of my faves ever. Never tire of 1984. And think how brilliantly that book would tie in as a "text of prescience" concerning our own "day & age" .... The telescreens,"newspeak", the "doubleplusungood" elimination of information and reliable journalism...

Instead the Year 12s are stuck with these authentically phoney arsehole characters with names like Whacko and Loony, who surf and are so profound that they can't be described, so Winton says they're too profound to be described. Just take it on good faith.

My daughter felt that the "erotic asphyxiation" theme of Breath was entirely gratuitous. As she put it, "(Winton) starts that book with a lethal wanking incident yet still manages to take no risks or be remotely interesting".

She's a smart cookie!
 
You left him? That takes strength after so many years together, respect.
Well thanks ....I had a moment of clarity yesterday to the effect that I could just forget the whole fucking thing, like REALLY forget it.
As in, just stop remembering him, stop talking about him, stop reading books with names like "Why Does He Do That?" and "Psychopath Free". Stop hanging around Quora. Above all stop contacting him. JUST STOP.
Where's it written that to get over an abusive relationship you need years of grief and therapy? Just be a totally shallow person and FUGHEDDABOUTIT.
It felt good yesterday but didn't last. Today on lame pre-text I cancelled appointment with criminal compo lawyer to discuss considerable $$$$ I could get because of injuries caused by "Dick Winner". Because once I start that ball rolling I'll have burned the boats for permanent.
 
Rating narcissistic traits is common, but narcissistic personality disorder is usually co-morbid with anti-social personality disorder. Such people can be very dangerous.

You must be a proud mama! :)
 
Rating narcissistic traits is common, but narcissistic personality disorder is usually co-morbid with anti-social personality disorder. Such people can be very dangerous.

You must be a proud mama! :)
Thanks, I sure am a proud Mamma!
My daughter is not only very bright but sensible, which is very important. In fact being designated as "bright" but having no caution or common sense is more lethal than being a bit dim, IMO.

eg, other day my daughter was reading my teenage diaries, which are mostly about my underage smoking/boozing/sexual exploits. She said she felt her life as a teen was "boring" by comparison.

I shrieked NO! DONT CHANGE!!!!

She's studying hard, saving money, and waiting to meet someone she really likes as before she has sex. In other words: setting herself up for happy healthy years in her 20s.

I don't know where she gets it from: I'm an impulsive train wreck person, and her Dad is a pompous infantile freak who used to pull five cones before breakfast and drink a bottle of whiskey a dany...
 
Be yourself, that's all I can say. This ''meet someone that you love to bla bla, etc etc'' just nah, a big nah. It's life man, if you don't take pleasures you will have no pleasures. There's no afterlife, there's only this life -- have no regrets, fuck everything and everyone. Leave your ego behind, pop that damn balloon if you wanna go further in life. I see immature people playing in the playground, for what? Incel? Tsss.. you will not get anywhere. Her environments it's not unique, we all grew in fucked up homes and if not life fucked us then, there's the same writting on our stories. Don't think too much, be natural. Relationships should be about common trust, to find love you have to love yourself first after that you have to be the version of yourself, don't be too calculated, be natural. Don't be a energetic vampire.
 
My advice, go the compo route and burn them bridges. Fuck that guy, he’s dangerous and not worth your time.
 
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