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Age differences

mrBeefy25 said:
Does age really matters when it comes to relationships or sex
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For the most part no. Most of my partners were around 10 to 20 years my junior and were always more mature than I was. However age is usually a plus when it comes to sex. More time to get good at it and become open minded and all that.
 
severely etarded said:
I think it boils down to intentions in the relationship
I would say so. Women I know my age would try to tell me I'm wrong somehow for thinking that lol
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I don't think a relationship is going anywhere good if one partner sees the other as having to be trained. I realize the original poster said it lightheartedly but I also agree with you guys that there is a terrible double standard at play when a guy tries to say the same thing, lighthearted or not.

As far as age...I've been the much younger and the much older. Let your heart go where it wants IMO. There are complications to every single coupling of humans.
 
Like it or not double standards are the reality and will be for the forseeable future.

14 year old boy has sex with friends 35 year old mom? 'Nice.' 'Lucky kid'. High fives all around, hero of the school, guaranteed popularity. At most, woman is thought to be a little creepy.

14 year old girl has sex with friends 35 year old father? Omg what a horrible crime! That disgusting pervert child molester victimized that poor innocent child. Her life has been ruined and will need mental help her whole life as she's been the victim of a disgusting horrible sex crime. The man should be castrated and tortured to death because even 30 years in prison + lifetime high risk sex offender + cancer isn't nearly sufficient!

Circumstances don't matter either. Wouldn't matter if the woman forced the boy into it with threats of violence, and it wouldn't matter if the girl had D tits and wide hips, said she was 18 (easily passing for it), then walked up to the man and started rubbing his crotch and led him by his cock into bed. Boy is still a hero, girl is still a victim, and man is still a monster pedophile rapist.

Treating teenagers like prepubescent children is an all around disaster and protects no one.
 
When my husband and I swing, we stick with playmates 10 years +/- my age. That usually works out best for us.
 
if you are a young man and an old woman couple people think its odd because back in the day relationships were about making babies, same reason they were not keen on gays, but an old man and a young woman can easily make babies therefore that is seen as normal.

society and its baby obsessions lol
 
decoupling of sex and babies is behind a lot of the less fortunate cultural changes of the past few decades

"sex is fun and needn't involve babies"

evolutionarily, or by Divine design, either way, sex is "fun" for the express purposes of inspiring us to creating babies
 
If both are over 18 and consent IMO age is just a number. It's about chemistry not math.
 
assclass said:
If you weren't born on the same day, in the same year, you should not be having intercourse with that person.
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I did that once.
Same day, same year. Didn't end well but was worth it nonetheless.
 
unless you're dipping into pedo territory, I say it doesn't matter. Maturity and age don't always correlate. but, yeah, don't fuck kids. mmmkay?
 
polymath said:
I've never barely given two shits about younger women, I've always been primarily attracted to women who are older than myself.
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lack of interest for contact with peers.
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It is amazing how much similarity I find between us, but those two statements (and some others from what you said) are very true for me. I also had a crush in high school for one of the teachers, who luckily was not a teacher in my class. She was 10 years older than me, and eventually one thing led to another and we ended up getting together (when I was not 18 ), but I guess our mutual cautiousness prevented anything physical from happening. She aged poorly, and I upset her with my belligerent behaviour later on that I'm not welcome in her life anymore, which is quite sad.

Anyway, I was with a woman 10 years older than me (not the same woman) for many years, and we had a very nice life together. And I always enjoy the company of much older women than me, but for psychological reasons - I just cannot stand my peers, who seem very shallow. I don't mind the old age as much as I mind stupid thoughts and overall behaviour.

For pure statistics, I'm not a very sexual person - I choose very carefully who I have sex with (I've only had 1 real partner - and 1 rape). However, I've communicated erotically/whatever with women as much as 30 years older than me. And my "sweetspot" so to speak is around 10-15 years older than me. There really is no prejudice against older women, and I've held hands with 60 year old homeless women. So yeah, the age difference is apparent.

It really pisses me off to see threads on internet forums where "concerned parents" tell that their 20-something son is dating a 10 years older woman and ask for advice on "how to prevent their son from ruining his life with that kind of an unnatural relationship"
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When I was with my 10-years-older lady, my 60-something father was concerned about what I was doing. He thought that I was acting up or something due to heavy problems with my mother who is schizophrenic (yeah, like a 20-something person will act up like a child for years... sigh). Anyway, he thought that I never had a mother (in reality, I never had a father either, I feel like I never had any sort of family at all), which was why I was looking for older women. Quite moronic if you ask me.
 
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I went out with a 19 year old when i was 28 (i think) and the age gap really wasn't a factor. Well besides some basic shit such as differences in taste in music and films and what not which is very minor and the awesome sex more then outweighed that. Maturity levels do matter though in my experience and on the whole i prefer women my age or abit older. I'm 34 now and would have no problem dating a woman in her early to mid 40's.
 
I think it really just depends on the age. When I was 16, I was dating a 23 year old & at the time "Age is just a number! We love eachother!"

Now that I'm 22 & look back on that... that's sick.
However, I can definitely see myself being with someone who is <22 but <35 & it's not alarming to me.
 
michelle1030 said:
I'm still a little young to be a true, "Cougar" - but I'm on the practice squad, LOL. There's something about younger men. They're much more fun to be around and they are still train-able. Men date and marry younger 75% of THE TIME. I think woman are going to start doing this more in the near future. Men are aging terribly. Look at the Gen X'ers already invested in pills to give them a hard-on. C'mon. Younger guys are ready to go - usually a few times! Can't hate on that...
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you can 'train' me any day, any time
 
OTOH, I'm well into my 30's and need a chemical assist (what I call TnT, testosterone 'n' tadalafil), probably largely due to years of substance abuse, Bluelight might not be an ideal population.
 
Well there is a 3 year differences between my age and my wife's.
But my gf is 17 years younger &#55357;&#56861;..
(I am 45, not a pedophile)
 
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