i won't lie, cross cultural relations are really hard. there's way more adjustment required on both sides to find a stable basis for the familial unit to build from. language is one hurdle, but moreso than this are cultural presumptions. you can't take things for granted like you can with someone who shares the same culture.
cross "racial" relations can be way easier. i could have married an aussie born to chinese parents, and it's the same as marrying a blonde hair blue eyes aussie, in terms of culture. the required adjustment are very minimal if you were both raised in the same country, irrespective of ethnicity or physical traits.
what is "white", really? go back a few generations and you wouldn't recognise it. go forward, it will be something else. nothing is forever. nothing is doomed. what is most important is if you have kids, how they will grow up. what the next generation values will determine the quality of their lives, as well as the quality of services which will look after us in our old age.
i chose to marry a chinese woman, born and raised in china. a real chinese woman, not just an aussie with an asian body. with this decision i made life more difficult for myself in many ways. i have benefitted in many ways too. i think there is value in genetic diversity for my children. i also think there is value in cultural diversity for them too. i have one child, a 3 year old son, so far. he understands three languages and is growing big, strong and very intelligent. when i talk to him, i think i have made a right decision for him.
cross "racial" relations can be way easier. i could have married an aussie born to chinese parents, and it's the same as marrying a blonde hair blue eyes aussie, in terms of culture. the required adjustment are very minimal if you were both raised in the same country, irrespective of ethnicity or physical traits.
what is "white", really? go back a few generations and you wouldn't recognise it. go forward, it will be something else. nothing is forever. nothing is doomed. what is most important is if you have kids, how they will grow up. what the next generation values will determine the quality of their lives, as well as the quality of services which will look after us in our old age.
i chose to marry a chinese woman, born and raised in china. a real chinese woman, not just an aussie with an asian body. with this decision i made life more difficult for myself in many ways. i have benefitted in many ways too. i think there is value in genetic diversity for my children. i also think there is value in cultural diversity for them too. i have one child, a 3 year old son, so far. he understands three languages and is growing big, strong and very intelligent. when i talk to him, i think i have made a right decision for him.