Just wanted to say thanks to the board.

[Bodda]

I posted a few weeks ago as I had broken up with the woman I was set to marry, she was my first real love & for a few months I was so low, my use of smack had gone through the roof, I felt like my whole life was ending & was heart broken.

I posted about if you ever get past the feelings of losing your true love & several people added their views etc, I just wanted to thank the board & Pagey for taking the time to reply to me.
The words & views etc really helped me as I was about as rock bottom in my life than I have ever been, what people said to me & their advice etc really helped me, I just wanted to say a proper, from the soul thanks to everyone that took the time to reply, I wish I could remember you all & say thank you.

I don't post that regular in here as I am not that experienced in sex, romance etc. My special knowledge is in RC's etc but this part of BL really helped me & in a way fixed my broken heart.

Thank you to everyone

 

[Noodle]

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[Bodda]

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Sorry Mod but have I broke some BLUA in this thread?
Feel free to edit, remove or whatever you want to do with it.

I just wanted to show some basic gratitude to this part of BL & to the people that took time to read my self pity fueled rant, I was so low at the time & for months after the break up I was cutting myself, my drug use had got to a point of just pure self destruction, I was planning my own death every day etc & for once reached out to the people on BL for some kind of "help" & got it, I am sure in a way this part actually helped fix my broken soul & heart.

I was such a mess, I wont go to deep with info but the break up hit me so hard, at 32 I had found my real "love" & soulmate, when we split it tore the bottom out of my world & I was on a 1 way trip down & going down really quickly, I just wanted to say thanks to people, I hope in what I've said I aint broken any BLUA.

Feel free to edit, remove etc how you see fit, but please don't get me any "points" if anything is against the rules of this part of BL edit it or delete it.
Several times the BL forum has really helped me at points in my life where I needed help, this relationship break up was just one of them.

At least now I can listen to selected white stripes, radiohead, neil young songs or walk past selected places, see pics on Facebook without breaking into a sobbing ball of tears & feel like my whole "soul" has been ripped into pieces & stamped on.

Peace

 

[Beachcat]

Dude, I am pretty sure Noodle was sending you some love. Relax. Also, glad we could help. I am very glad you are doing better!

 

[Ksa]

Sorry Mod but have I broke some BLUA in this thread?
Feel free to edit, remove or whatever you want to do with it.

I just wanted to show some basic gratitude to this part of BL & to the people that took time to read my self pity fueled rant, I was so low at the time & for months after the break up I was cutting myself, my drug use had got to a point of just pure self destruction, I was planning my own death every day etc & for once reached out to the people on BL for some kind of "help" & got it, I am sure in a way this part actually helped fix my broken soul & heart.

I was such a mess, I wont go to deep with info but the break up hit me so hard, at 32 I had found my real "love" & soulmate, when we split it tore the bottom out of my world & I was on a 1 way trip down & going down really quickly, I just wanted to say thanks to people, I hope in what I've said I aint broken any BLUA.

Feel free to edit, remove etc how you see fit, but please don't get me any "points" if anything is against the rules of this part of BL edit it or delete it.
Several times the BL forum has really helped me at points in my life where I needed help, this relationship break up was just one of them.

At least now I can listen to selected white stripes, radiohead, neil young songs or walk past selected places, see pics on Facebook without breaking into a sobbing ball of tears & feel like my whole "soul" has been ripped into pieces & stamped on.

Peace

Ok let me explain. Mr, Bodda cannot see the heart sign. What he read was "><" which is the symbol for frowning, or discontent. This can be because images are disabled in his browser or because he's using a proxy that doesn't process images.

What did that woman do to you? Please do not become sexually addicted to a single female partner...for your own sake. If you had multiple partners this situation would never have arised in the first place.

Me and Noodle were arguing earlier about relationships and how losing a partner can feel worst then Heroin withdrawal. I assume that Noodle has read your posts and for assurance he has read this post, so he will have no problem in agreeing with me and my views :D

 

[pofacedhoe]

Me and Noodle were arguing earlier about relationships and how losing a partner can feel worst then Heroin withdrawal. I assume that Noodle has read your posts and for assurance he has read this post, so he will have no problem in agreeing with me and my views :D

how can you say that people agree with your views as though you know what they think? you only know what you think and i only know what i think and people are free to speak for themselves

 

[axl blaze]

welcome to BL this place has really helped me out too

 

[Noodle]

less than three OP

 

[stormcharger]

Ok let me explain. Mr, Bodda cannot see the heart sign. What he read was "><" which is the symbol for frowning, or discontent. This can be because images are disabled in his browser or because he's using a proxy that doesn't process images.

What did that woman do to you? Please do not become sexually addicted to a single female partner...for your own sake. If you had multiple partners this situation would never have arised in the first place.

Me and Noodle were arguing earlier about relationships and how losing a partner can feel worst then Heroin withdrawal. I assume that Noodle has read your posts and for assurance he has read this post, so he will have no problem in agreeing with me and my views :D

Telling someone to have multiple partners is kinda terrible advice, means you would have to live a lie and it could come crashing down and you will lose all of them.

 

[FakeFlake]

Thank you Bodda , hopefully my advice helped too.. In any case , good that you feel little better !!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qQXP6TDtW0w

 

[Ksa]

Telling someone to have multiple partners is kinda terrible advice, means you would have to live a lie and it could come crashing down and you will lose all of them.

Brother, if I put my money in 5 banks, 20,000$ in each, do I have more or less chance to lose my money then if I put 100,000$ in one bank? Your statement is completely illogical. I haven't met a single guy who dated several women, who complained he lost them all and can't get sex. What you do is you assume that all women believe in monogamous relationships. It's an assumption. Not part of reality. There are many women who prefer having several partners and they are likely attracted to men who also like having several partners, because they understand their needs better. There's exchange groups and so on. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. I'm saying it exists. It's up to you to decide, if it's right or wrong, for you, but you can't decide for other people.

Besides, did the problem here arise because the OP cheated on her and she quit him? No. She quit him because there was a risk for her to quit independent of his behavior. Meaning that even if he was a model partner, always cared for her, gave her good sex, provided for her and was model from all points of view, there still was a chance for her to say bye and quit. It's a risk. And the only way to mitigate the risk is to not put all your eggs in one basket. Very logical.

When you let emotions take over logic, you end up like the OP. You go from assumption to assumption, from belief to belief, from lie to lie until you end up alone.

There are exceptions to this. If your partner is bound by religion, there are less chances for her to quit. So if you want to put all your eggs in one basket, make sure that her belief system is wired around staying with the same partner, or else the risk isn't worth it. I can give many examples but I won't derail topic :D

 

[alasdairm]

^ he's not the only one who makes a lot of assumptions.

(imho, of course).

alasdair

 

[Ksa]

^ thinking expands the mind, I make posts that encourage people to do that. As you have noticed I don't circulate a particular belief. I have quoted ideas from:

- Bagwan Rashneesh (OSHO)
- Qur'an
- Bible
- Tora
- Ajurweda, Upanishads
- Karl Marx
- Lincoln
- Rousseau, Voltaire
- Anonymous quotes
- etc.

All these are opposed beliefs, if you believe in the Qur'an, it is forbidden to listen to Bagwan Rashneesh. I listen to everyone and learn from everyone if their teachings make sense. Every time someone has a problem, his problem arises from the fact that he believes in one particular thing, and when that thing fails him, he is...disoriented. The thinking process I encourage enhances orientation by expanding the foundation of the belief system, and this starts by saying that no belief system is right or has an advantage over another belief system.

 

[nooneanymore]

just pay pal me some money.

 

[Bodda]

Ok let me explain. Mr, Bodda cannot see the heart sign. What he read was "><" which is the symbol for frowning, or discontent. This can be because images are disabled in his browser

This.

As to "what did that woman do to you" well she was/is my soulmate, my first true love & everything else. She was someone very special to me & I will never forget her, I guess having a tattoo wont help that case much too.
She was someone very special to me, taught me stuff about myself I was never sure of in terms of my sexuality, we had the best time ever, we just clicked so well but with the good times also came very bad things too which I wont go into.

Lets just say she broke my heart, soul & very damn near cost me my life, I really loved her more than anything or anyone I have ever known, even now as I type this I can feel a strange pain in my stomach, she was a very special woman with an amazing daughter who I also deeply love.

 

[stormcharger]

Brother, if I put my money in 5 banks, 20,000$ in each, do I have more or less chance to lose my money then if I put 100,000$ in one bank? Your statement is completely illogical. I haven't met a single guy who dated several women, who complained he lost them all and can't get sex. What you do is you assume that all women believe in monogamous relationships. It's an assumption. Not part of reality. There are many women who prefer having several partners and they are likely attracted to men who also like having several partners, because they understand their needs better. There's exchange groups and so on. I'm not saying it's right or wrong. I'm saying it exists. It's up to you to decide, if it's right or wrong, for you, but you can't decide for other people.

Besides, did the problem here arise because the OP cheated on her and she quit him? No. She quit him because there was a risk for her to quit independent of his behavior. Meaning that even if he was a model partner, always cared for her, gave her good sex, provided for her and was model from all points of view, there still was a chance for her to say bye and quit. It's a risk. And the only way to mitigate the risk is to not put all your eggs in one basket. Very logical.

When you let emotions take over logic, you end up like the OP. You go from assumption to assumption, from belief to belief, from lie to lie until you end up alone.

There are exceptions to this. If your partner is bound by religion, there are less chances for her to quit. So if you want to put all your eggs in one basket, make sure that her belief system is wired around staying with the same partner, or else the risk isn't worth it. I can give many examples but I won't derail topic :D

No your comparison is illogical, people aren't banks and most people are after monogamous relationships so generally its insensitive advice to tell someone who just lost someone close to them that he should've actually had 6 girlfriends instead of 1.

 

[stormcharger]

And yea There is always a chance for someone to quit but thats life shit happens and you move on and find someone else. Lots of people find someone they spend their time with till their dying days without having 5 back up girlfriends so Ddon't act like its illogical to want to only spend time with one person that you find special.

 

[Droppersneck]

We're here to help so no problem.

 

[Ksa]

And yea There is always a chance for someone to quit but thats life shit happens and you move on and find someone else. Lots of people find someone they spend their time with till their dying days without having 5 back up girlfriends so Ddon't act like its illogical to want to only spend time with one person that you find special.

If she quit it means they weren't really meant for each-other. You don't have an entire lifetime to figure out what's your best match. Weather you fuck or not,t he time of the dick passes. Having multiple girlfriends allows the selection process to speed up. Finding your best match is hard. Who has more chances of successfully finding his soul mate, someone dating one girl at a time or someone dating multiple girls?

Then you argue, it's unfair for the girl. SHE LEFT HIM! HOW IS THAT FAIR FOR HIM?

You want to be the victim in all of this fine. Just letting you know that the reason she left him was because she has multiple boyfriends and she selected someone else. She did something wrong? No. Who acted wrong? Dude with one girl.

 

[stormcharger]

Where do you get the fact that she has multiple boyfriends from? Its not mentioned anywhere at all?
Also if you believe you only have one soulmate its kinda silly, There will probably be millions of people in the world you could click with really well and be fine with for the rest of your life and most people do just fine without having 6 relationships at once.

Also good luck on having money if you have 6 girlfriends that shit would cost far too much.