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Friendships: Possibly The Truest Relationships

Pariahprose

Pariahprose

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So as I was typing a reply to a PM I got to thinking about friendships, what they mean,and how they differ from romantic relationships. I arrived to the conclusion that friendship is actually a more true and pure relationship. I feel this is because in romantic relationships your SO represents an attempt to fulfill and complete your soul,so this means the good and the dark sides of your being that they complete.In a friendship your not looking to complete your soul,just companionship. Think about it,what does a true friend really benefit? How does everyone feel on this subject?
 
Friendship is forever, relationships aren't. Or rather, a wonderful friendship can be forever, that's much harder to come across with a relationship. I think that's the main and most important difference really.
Probably has a lot to do with the responsibility towards the other person that there is in a relationship.
 
Yeah, I have never had a "forever friend". I don't have that type of companionship. Friendships come and go. They're around for a little while (usually a couple years) and then you move on.

I'm not trying to get someone to "complete my soul" in a relationship. I'm me and I don't need anyone to complete me.
That being said - I still love my boyfriend. I've been with him for almost three years, that's just about as long as a friendship lasts for me (if not longer) and we're closer than any friendship.
 
Friendships gain companionship. You can pick certain parts of people in friends. Only hanging out with them in school, at a club, with others. Romantic relationships are the good AND the bad.

I have a childhood friend that I've known since preschool (15+ years) and we're still close. We hang out every couple months or so but we're like sisters so we don't need to hang out with each other all the time. She gains a lot from me being her friend--I bail her out whenever she gets in trouble/needs money/needs a ride. I hook her up with jobs, help her with her resume, life plan, etc. I don't gain anything from being her friend. Whenever we hang out, I'm pretty much scolding her or giving her advice while paying for her meal/drinks/etc. This past time, I was able to confide in her and sob my little brains out regarding my sister's death. It was different than crying to my boyfriend because she was knew my sister all her life. I don't know.

I don't believe friendships are necessarily more pure because you're not with that person all the time. A partner is there for you whenever. It's someone you can ALWAYS count on. If I got in trouble, I probably couldn't count on any of my friends except my boyfriend.
 
Pariahprose said:
So as I was typing a reply to a PM I got to thinking about friendships, what they mean,and how they differ from romantic relationships. I arrived to the conclusion that friendship is actually a more true and pure relationship. I feel this is because in romantic relationships your SO represents an attempt to fulfill and complete your soul,so this means the good and the dark sides of your being that they complete.In a friendship your not looking to complete your soul,just companionship. Think about it,what does a true friend really benefit? How does everyone feel on this subject?
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what does a friendship emotionally represent?

and if friendship is simply companionship; then what are the fundamentals of a romantic relationship?

...kytnism...:|
 
Pagey said:
Friendship is forever, relationships aren't. Or rather, a wonderful friendship can be forever, that's much harder to come across with a relationship.
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Unfortunately, IMO, in today's society and the way this world is heading into, this is not the case anymore. The way I see it, forever doesn't exist, or may I say rarely exist. :( In today's society - 'You can be best friends today, worst enemy tomorrow. An enemy today, bestest of friends tomorrow.' ~Unknown.
 
deldone said:
Unfortunately, IMO, in today's society and the way this world is heading into, this is not the case anymore. The way I see it, forever doesn't exist, or may I say rarely exist. :( In today's society - 'You can be best friends today, worst enemy tomorrow. An enemy today, bestest of friends tomorrow.' ~Unknown.
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Dyou really think that's new though? I dunno, I'd imagine the ability to ruin friendships has been here forever. We're probably just more aware of it today ? (like we are of everything really)
Still though, I stand by my point, much easier to have an everlasting friendship than an everlasting relationship :)
 
also a relationship is not necessary to complete my soul thank you very much. i'm pretty sure if souls exist that i have a whole one lol

a relationship is one part of reproduction that is a luxury extra that not everyone suits all that well. i'd love one but i know i'm moody and want to do everything on my terms and i get around if you get my drift:D
 
All my friendships ended and I have none anymore. Relationships when I was younger ended due to childish reasons like people cliquing up and talking trash behind people's backs.

Later young adult friendships ended because of work and romantic relationships taking up everyone's time. Plus after a certain age people become so broken that they stop wanting to friend people, especially new people. It's the whole, "thanks, I have enough friends", when you try to strike something up with someone.

So I just go to work and come home and day dream about how I can escape the life I'm currently living.
 
thats so sad.

in all honesty you have to work at friendships. i was in a situation that was similar to yours a few years ago. not anymore. sometimes you can be cutting yourself off from others and sometimes your just going through a rough patch of not seeing people.

friendships fade out and new ones come in but that can feel like you have no friends when its not the case. maybe you need to get into education/move into a different place. i've made good friends with people at uni/places i've lived but as a general rule its a case of numbers. get to know 100 people and you have the opportunity to make one or two friends.

also dont hold people to judgemental high standards, everyone is different and as long as they are not robbing you or abusing you sometimes you have to let the small stuff slide.

over the years i've learned it takes time to make friends but also in life you sometimes can live a self fulfilling prophecy so maybe start believing good things about yourself. positive mental attitude
 
My girlfriend is my best friend and if we were to ever break up I know we'd still be best / VERY good friends.. It depends on how you handle a break up.. I still sometimes talk to my ex that I was with 12 years ago (when I was 14).. I've never been one to get bitter after a break up, because of the break up..

What's done is done, just leave it alone, and don't - regret it.

90% of my friends have been my friends for around 10 years.. some slightly longer, some slightly less (by about 2 - 3 years)..
 
Your girlfriend is not your best friend she's your girlfriend.

That's what this whole thread is about. Seperating friendships from romantic relationships.
 
^yeah but sometimes they are not separate and in those instances the best relationships are born. lysis chip in please;)
 
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