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Get2Think

Get2Think

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To all those guys out there like myself that get turned down by girls on a weekly basis but brush it off and keep swinging, this is our thread! So last week I left a girl a note in the library asking her out in hopes that it would avoid akwardness (it was the library). Anyways I get a text back later saying that she really liked the note but she has a boyfriend. If I had a dollar for everytime a girl has told me she has a boyfriend id be richer than bill gates!

And today, sat next to a super hot volleyball chick, she was tall, tan, and had the most amazing ass I'd ever seen in my life. I introduced myself and we chatted a bit, afterwards i braved the question, asking her to hang out. She says okay, maybe we can study together, "do you want me number?" I say, hell yeah. So I text her and tell her I'm not interested in studying but id like to buy her a drink. She then tells me she was flattered and that she is currently talking to someone. So I say okay, good luck. And I move the fuck on.

Life has told me I have 2 options. The first, moan and beat myself up because things didn't go my way. Or two, realize that at least i tried, and she missed out on a great guy. I welcome rejection now, because it meant that I at least tried.

So yeah, I don't care how many no's i get, past experience has taught me that eventually one will say yes and it will be awesome. Any other guys out there not approaching ANY beautiful women? There is no such thing as "out of my league."

Discuss.
 
Way to go :). Keep trying and don't let rejection get you down. You'll never get anywhere if you don't try, right! :)
 
LOL. I never was bothered by rejection...not unless it was someone I knew and really liked. (*ahem*...back in the day before Ms.G and I where together...it would fucking HURT when she rejected me.)

I rejected people on a regular basis (cause I'm taken...but even when I was not, I rejected like 80% of advances made on me) Sometimes I admit, I'm a little overly harsh on them. But I usually try to just explain it like "Well, it's not personal, it's just that I'm engaged." or "Hey, nothing against you as such, but I don't think we'd have anything in common, with me being in the armed forces and studying science, and with you being in a hippy drum circle and studying hindu mysticism"
 
Thanks for the encouragement guys. I think I come across as a boring nice guy. Perfect for a friend but not so much a fuck. I've had probley over 50 rejections over the last 3 years since my ex and i broke up. I usually get really bitter, start letting the anger and depression get the best of me. Then some time goes by and I either get lonely or horny and try again. Rinse and repeat. Although lately, I'm starting to think maybe it just ain't worth it. I'm a sensitive guy as is, and I tell myself it doesn't bother me but it does. So I'm gonna lay low and take myself off the market.
 
Get2Think said:
Thanks for the encouragement guys. I think I come across as a boring nice guy. Perfect for a friend but not so much a fuck.
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I've never understood this. I don't really think that many girls want to fuck a dumb abrasive asshole. I've never found that acting like one helped me get laid. It usually does the opposite. Punch the fuck out of someone in front of girl you wanna mack on? Don't go home with her. Act like a douchebag in front of my fiance? No bang that night and usually no affection and instead a fight.

Girls that like that shit? You don't want them anyway...trust me. Every quality girl I've had, has liked the softer side of me, and not the nasty, head stomping, throat punching, badass combat veteran side of me.

Hell, I've even noticed that the girls who want to fuck roughly like an animal? They ain't really that good. They suck in bed, they're usually dumb as a fucking brick, and over all, make for poor company.
 
Its a numbers game...

but eventually like all things you'll grow tired of it with work and other things imposing on your life.

Add to that a few really f-ed up relationships and your perspective really changes.


Have to go out into the cold now and wash my clothes after spending 9.5 hrs at work and commuting 2-3 hrs.
 
im pitiful at approaching girls but i guess a part of it is rejection but the main reason is I am paralysed with fear at the thought of going "hi", they reply "hello" and after that I have nothing to say

are there any ways on overcoming that? I suppose its practice and working on depression?

cant deal with having to see how long i can extend the charade that I have something interesting to say

kudos on your efforts though, your much more courageous than me, keep it up!
 
OP I really respect and look up to your confidence of approaching girls like that. I've always been a bit shy and will convince myself to not bother making an approach or wait til they make a move. I'm making a conscious effort to go out more, meet more people and just generally put myself out there by getting out of my comfort zone.

Here's a recent story of being rejected. There was this girl that I was spending time with at her family house 3-5 nights a week. We would just hang out smoke weed and watch t.v. I began driving her to work in the mornings because I don't work days and like to wake up early, get out of the house, have coffee at the beach. So on Valentines day I picked her up and got her some flowers and chocolate. She was pretty flattered to see the effort but when she got out she gave me a hug and said 'I hope I'm not leading you on Eric B'. She asked if I would drop the flowers off at her house on the way back from the beach (we live pretty close together) & I straight up said no way - hell if I'm bringing in flowers in front of her family after being rejected! How embarrassing!

I really agree with what rangrz said above - girls that like dickhead guys probably aren't my type anyways. After all this happened I was confused and wondering whether I really am a 'nice guy' but the more I think about it I'm really glad I did that gesture because she's a good friend of mine and that's something I would be really nervous about doing. A good learning experience I think.
 
It cuts both ways. The woman has to be willing to entertain your advances and further the conversation especially if you made the initial effort to start a conversation.

A LOT of women don't know how to properly decline an advance so it leads to that much more of an akward situation.
 
I'm a pretty flirty guy so sometimes I send "mixed signals" in a sense and receive mixed signals. its a bitch. I flirt with my female friends as a joke and it gives the vibe to other women that I'm taken by the girl. for example, I have a female wingman/confidant/"pivot". I joke and flirt with her (she's a good friends gf) and sometimes he's not with her. I've had women say to her "oh you got a nice guy" and walk away before we can clarify we ain't like that. others think I'm just a player due to my playful and flirty nature. sometimes a chick just thinks I'm flirty and playful and doesn't catch that I'm actually interested... I need to stop being so flirty sometimes... but hell yeah! numbers game. I got a track record of about 3/7 in the past month or so. I usually hit on taken girls though just for fun. I enjoy the flirting and knowing things won't get complicated.
 
Well my friends I struck out w/ one but I ended up texting another girl I met recently and we totally hit it off!! She's been single 5 years and when we met we had great chemistry and we're both lonely souls looking to bone down haha. She's getting her hair done, and I'm doing pushups and we are soon going to meet up in town and spend a super fun day together wherever it may take us ;) I haven't had a good lay in years, words can't say how excited I am.

I know how hard it is not to get bitter and say "ah to hell with it." But guys, there are chicks out their who are looking to party. Don't give up till you score that poon-tang.
 
rangrz said:
Hell, I've even noticed that the girls who want to fuck roughly like an animal? They ain't really that good. They suck in bed, they're usually dumb as a fucking brick, and over all, make for poor company.
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Yeah dude this is so TRUE. So many times I think this girl I'm chasing is going to be amazing in bed because of how hot she is. And then she just lays there like a silent dead fish.
 
Hotness has no bearing on how good they are bed.

But I've noticed that passion correlates to how good someone is in bed, but that it is also proportional to how affectionate and loving they are, which usually tends to diverge from the basic concept of rough, unrefined, finesseless, animalistic sex. It does not diverge from vigorous, enthusiastic sex, but that tends to still include a lot of touching, kissing, holding, etc.

At the same time, the most affectionate and softest lovers I've had when it comes to vanilla sex, have been the best dominants when it comes to doing some BDSM or otherwise fetishy sex.

That group of lovers who where really affectionate and also awesome at fetish stuff? They have ALL been very intelligent, highly educated (without fail in the natural sciences or engineering or medicine for my sample population) and have been tomboys and had alternative/non-normative sexual and/or gender identities. This holds true from the first like serious GF I had up to and including my current S/O.

I'm going to hazard a guess that is because intelligence gives on the creativity and quick thinking on what to do in bed (just like it does in any other situation) makes you a fast learner(so, becoming acquainted with what does and does get your partner off) tends to make you question what is "normal" or "correct", and that the alternative nature of their sexuality has been a big factor for the fact that it must make one think about sexuality critically (therefore, examining what would be fun) and breaks down many taboos and otherwise opens one up to trying new/unusual/non-main stream activities.

All of which combine into awesomeness. They may be rare to find, and difficult to pick up. But damn it, they are SO worth it.
 
Boy did this not go the way I expected, drinking beer alone at a bar across the street. Bought her lunch, bought her a shoulder massage, then she tells me she has to leave at 3 when yesterday we were flirting hard and she told me she can spend all day with me and into the night. Ha! She sure played me for a fool. Here I am with condoms/lube in my pocket alone after treating her so nice and listening to her rant away. She was standoffish the entire date and it felt like a totally different person than who I had texted with the night before. I almost laughed when she walked m back to my bike smiling and said "see you later!"
 
Haha bipolar girls are a bitch Get2think :P I'm sure it won't be long until you're chatting up another girl though, easy come easy go eh!

I went out last weekend and at the bar/club we were at there was this blonde girl having a beer by herself. My mates are like 'someone should talk to her'. So off I went. Turns out she was from Brazil and was pretty drunk. She says 'I don't have money to get home'. I asked her where her money went and she said she spent on beer. She was there by herself. Then she says 'If you pay for my cab ride home you can come home with me'. I gave her a pat on the back, told her to take care and msg'd my friends to come back and save me haha. Hell if i'm going home with some crazy alcoholic chick. She might sodomize me!
 
Eric, g2t, and sero. the trolling trio. I need some buddies to hold this net so we can reel in tonights catch my friends! off I go to see what I can do tonight :D
 
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