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My wife wants to go out

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draven1321

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Well my wife told me she wanted to maybe go out and just have meaningless sex we had gastric and both are smaller and shes amazinly hot but im not that way im a 1 woman man she said she wont do it but she will just stay miserable what can i do
 
Was this something she said in the heat of an argument or is she serious? Are you guys having sex? Men and women: we need sex. If we can't get it, we'll stray.
 
man...if shes really loyal to you..she wont be too upset when you deny her request

and i give you a lot of credit for being able to deny it as well. It'll blow over, just after hearing that, watch out for her cheating on you...sadly
and possibly it was a test? never know man

good luck brother
 
[QUOman...if shes really loyal to you..she wont be too upset when you deny her request

and i give you a lot of credit for being able to deny it as well. It'll blow over, just after hearing that, watch out for her cheating on you...sadly
and possibly it was a test? never know man

good luck brotherTE][/QUOTE] thank you very much
 
Go do it with her? Both of you go to a lifestyle club and tap some ass, or meet another couple (go online)and you take the girl she can take the guy (I'm presuming none of you are bi, if you are, then adjust as needed).

Its a way to have the fun/fantasy/experience but without all of the jealousy and drama, since it will be something you two did together.
 
not in my nature if we cant satisfy each other then what the fuck are we doing i will not share her i rather divorce and take my kidsx and be with them solo then
 
draven1321 said:
not in my nature if we cant satisfy each other then what the fuck are we doing i will not share her i rather divorce and take my kidsx and be with them solo then
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Nice. Way to think about the kids. Cause ya know...did you ever think they want to be with both parents?
 
Nice. Way to criticise someone simply because they feel differently towards extramarital sex than you seem to. So because he cannot deal with his wife sleeping with another man, he is automatically not considering his children in all of this? What a silly thing to assume.

You need to speak to your wife draven, and figure out what's going on. You have children and a lot of history behind you, so do whatever you can to make it work. Perhaps even consider couple's counselling? There are obviously issues, so you need to communicate effectively in order to resolve them.
 
I know that if she truely loved me this question would never come up. she would know that it was unexceptable to me and that asking would be a waist of breath.

If I am not satisfying her to the point that she is asking permission to fuck other guys then it is time for us to part ways. even if she is never unfaithfull after saying it...the seed has been planted and I would never look at her the same again. constantly wondering if I could trust her.

I don't have kids and that is a huge burden to consider...My reaction to the situation is not advice just a reaction. I can't see myself trying to make it work anymore after that. I don't think any amount of couseling would change my mind.
 
Agreed. It would be unacceptable for it to be made brought up multiple times after I clearly express my disdain for even the idea of such an act, let alone carrying it out. If she wants to follow through than the relationship (even marriage of 14+ years) would be over. I don't tolerate cheating of any form.
 
nooneanymore said:
These power moves that people try to pull make me glad that I'm not in a relationship.

She's in a 14 year relationship and has four kids by this man and she wants to pull some "I want to get laid by other guys now that I've lost weight" move. This is the reason why some women get chris browned.


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Your endorsement of domestic violence sickens me.
 
Show her some hot chick on facebook and tell her this is who you're gonna hook up with for some meaningless yet VERY hot sex. See how her attitude changes.
 
matt2012 said:
I know that if she truely loved me this question would never come up. she would know that it was unexceptable to me and that asking would be a waist of breath.

If I am not satisfying her to the point that she is asking permission to fuck other guys then it is time for us to part ways. even if she is never unfaithfull after saying it...the seed has been planted and I would never look at her the same again. constantly wondering if I could trust her.

I don't have kids and that is a huge burden to consider...My reaction to the situation is not advice just a reaction. I can't see myself trying to make it work anymore after that. I don't think any amount of couseling would change my mind.
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Just because she thinks it might be interesting to have sex with other people doesn't mean she isn't faithful, doesn't love you or you don't satisfy her. Sometimes it can just be about trying something new. After 14 years of one dick (or pussy) I can imagine it might get a little monotonous.

Maybe try to meet her halfway, like a threesome, with another female. Or maybe once with a guy and once with a woman? I don't know. I do know that when the person you're in a relationship brings up some heavy shit (like wanting to experience other people sexually) there is usually a reason. Sometimes people have ulterior motives, sometimes they don't. If I were you I'd sit down and talk about exactly what is going on, how she feels, how you feel and why that is.

This situation could be one of immense growth for you and your wife if you both handle it with understanding and care for yourselves, your family and one another.

Let us know how it goes!
 
The OP already stated that he's not willing to "share her" so I don't see the threesome suggestion working out.
Maybe try couples therapy before considering divorce.
 
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