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Cuddling After Sex?

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Miss Incognito

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Is it strange that I don't want to cuddle/spoon after sex? My boyfriend always wants to cuddle or spoon afterwards, my reaction "Meh, no thanks." I usually go to sleep or go eat. He's always been a more romantic, touchy feely kinda of guy and I'm...the exact opposite, most of the time. He literally begs me to cuddle some nights, and sometimes I do feel bad when I say no. I've tried to explain to him why but he just doesn't get it. So I'd like to hear from others, how do you guys feel about cuddling? Do you secretly dislike it but do it for your S/O? Or are you like me and simply go on about your business?
 
I like cuddle before sex no afeter sex.....i think most people do not like cuddle after sex. usally go to sleep..ys
 
I do it every now and again since he likes it so much, well that and to save myself from an argument. He likes to just cuddle all the time and I just don't like cuddling as much as I used too.
 
I enjoy both cuddling and sleeping after sex. What better way to go to sleep than in your partners arms? <3 I am a cuddler, I love being held and touched. My boyfriend is as well. It's great as foreplay, in the afterglow, or pretty much anytime actually. Movies, restaurants... Etc.
 
I like to cuddle personally. It gives me that feeling that everything is alright and that she actually has feelings for me, if im looking for a relationship that is (as i am now :) ). If its a one night stand, no cuddling please, please get ready to leave in the morning as im a busy guy (have yourself a cup of coffee, milk, juice, water, or soda if youd like, but dont touch my fuggin cigs lol). Most of the time cuddling is enjoyed by me, her head on the left side of my chest as i prefer the right side of the bed, and my arm around her :)
 
I like to snuggle sometimes but most often I immediately swallow my pain killers because sex really does a number on my back and abdominal pain, after redosing, I'm on my way outside for a turkish royal, bongloads, etc. Then the munchies lol.
 
I like to cuddle before sex cause it is usually the gateway for the sex. I like to cuddle after sex cause it usually leads to more sex. But, everyone is different I guess.

It isn't strange at all. I just hope that your reasoning is understandable. My best friend refuses to cuddle after sex with her husband because she was molested as a teenager and forced to cuddle with the molester. So, therefore she relates cuddling to her repeated rape. I've tried to explain to her that by not facing her inner fears she is allowing this person to continue to have power over her. She needs counseling but won't do it.

Hopefully, your reason is just that you don't like it and not related to a past situation.
 
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Sex isn't just about sex to me, it's about intimacy as well. I need cuddling afterward to continue the intimacy that I feel with my boyfriend. If he would just jump out of bed after having sex then it would make me feel like nothing more than a "wet hole" and it sure as hell wouldn't make me think that he found me attractive. Talking and kissing and cuddling after is just part of the process for me. Sex is just as much an emotional experience as it is a physical one for me.

A relationship is about give and take, there is a lot of pleasure to be felt when you do something for your partner that makes them feel really good.
 
I do enjoy cuddling. A lot. My boyfriend enjoys cuddling more than me though. Sometimes I'm like, please can I move a little bit?? Lol. But most of the time, we are both REALLY into it. Especially after sex, we LOVE to cuddle up with each other!
Oh I understand that many people sleep after sex but what if it's in the morning that you have sex? Or during the day? Not sure about that one.

Anyway, you're NOT weird for not enjoying cuddling. Many people don't like it. That being said, if one person loves it and another hates it, you might have to compromise a bit. :p
 
Yeah, my boyfriend is more of a cuddler than me! I personally like to have a minute to myself to sort myself out, then jump back into bed.
 
I'm in a friends w benefits relatioship at the moment so no......when we finish I'll maybe say a quick 'hmmm you needed that' before getting drressed......if in a more affectionate meaningful relationship I'm sure I would like to cuddle more
 
LilbabiC said:
Hopefully, your reason is just that you don't like it and not related to a past situation.
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There's no past situation that has caused me to dislike cuddling, I just don't care for it I guess; but we all got to compromise for our loved ones.
 
tricomb said:
I like to snuggle sometimes but most often I immediately swallow my pain killers because sex really does a number on my back and abdominal pain, after redosing, I'm on my way outside for a turkish royal, bongloads, etc. Then the munchies lol.
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I love to cuddle after.

But -- if it's really hot and humid, stuffy, or sweaty, then it's a no go for either of us, and that's a mutual understanding.
 
i miss cuddling, i read somewhere that cuddling releases a hormone which is sometimes referred to as the 'bonding hormone' and therefore helps to create a bond between partners. When i cuddle it in a sense makes me feel secure and i guess needed...
 
Oxytocin can be released during cuddling (mostly for women) and during actual intercourse, thus a couple does "make love" in the sense the actions theyre doing make the "love" hormone.
 
I feel to warm and I'm to sweaty to cuddle afterwards. I often all windows, pull of the duvet, fall asleep, wake up some hours later freezing my ass off.
 
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