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have you found 'the one' and if so when? how did you know?

mr.buffnstuff

mr.buffnstuff

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hellooo! so who here has found the one and if you have when did you find them?
i had 2 really bad relationships in 2011 whilst i was big on opiates and my head was screwed up big time! by xmas i was signed off from working indefinatly! i was 24 and my life was ending! then a girl i had met bout 18 months before started talking to me again! she asked me to go see her at work before she finished and i thought fuck it! so i did i went to see her after 18 months since i had met her for a few hours before! we got on well and went for a drink after with 2 of her friends, i made them all laugh and her friends said i was a good guy etc. we started spending more time together at mine as she still shared a flat with her ex! he slept on the sofa and she hated him and had called it off but he still wanted her and hated me! It was tough for me as iv been cheated on so many times! so i could never really relax! i used to av to drop her off round the corner etc. he found out bout me and told her he was gunna fuck me up etc, he asked a few people he knows bout me and when he found out i had fucked up a couple of his mates out one night and people had told him what i was like he moved out within the week! suddenly im staying at her flat all the time and things just got better and better! but i could never open up fully to her expecting ill get used abused and fucked over like every other relationship! we had a couple of fall outs where we was gonna call it off, but decided to battle on through. we just spent the last 2 days together taking drugs together, being all loved up and just enjoying our company. went for a big walk in the woods and all sorts! it was then it sunk in, this girl really is the one, shes the real deal! shes absolutly perfect! weve got so much in common and when i think bout how shes changed my life its incredible! we spent the last couple of days talking openly bout everything, good and bad, even talking bout ex's and stuff! but it doesnt feel weird or awkward because we both know each other as past their ex's and both know how we truly feel bout each other! now i look forward to every new day! i hope everyone who reads this can feel like i do one day! i thought i had loved before but realise now i had just settled for the best that was on offer at the time!

a very happy
Mr.Buffnstuff

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Dont worry im not as green as i am cabage looking :-) what we have is so special tho were so comfortable with each other its fantastic. Shes incredible and just what i need in my life :-)
 
I'm pretty sure that I've found the one. It's scary, though, and I wasn't sure what to do about it so I uh... broke up with her and started seeing other girls.

I know, it doesn't make sense, but that's what I did and I was sort of in limbo between wanting to settle down with "the one" and live it up as a swinging sort of bachelor.

I had to attend a class on firearm safety and whatever else before I could apply for my pistol permit, and my friend had recommended this guy who he went through and who would see me directly for a one-on-one session. I thought, "oh man, this will be boring..." and for the most part, yeah, it was boring; but then, in the middle of explaining to me all of the different calibers, this guy starts to tell me about his wife, how she had recently passed away, and how much he loved her.

I swear, his eyes had filled with tears, and he just sort of shook his head and said, "When you find that one, man, that peach, the one who just makes you so happy to be around and makes you smile, don't ever let her go. All of those bombshell, smoking hot girls you've been chasing, they just don't seem to matter anymore and it's only that one girl, that peach..." and then he continued on with the instruction.

I knew in that instant who my peach was, and I was thinking about what a big mistake I had made. We're back together now, though. It's been five years and counting, but it's just unbelievable how inspiration can come from out of no where at the most unexpected time and from the most unexpected place.
 
Yes, at a rave 7 years ago. Got married last september. To be honest I’m not sure how I knew, I just did.
 
I don't believe in "the one". I believe there are multiple "the ones" (yes, I know that's a contradiction).

That being said, I love my boyfriend very much and I'm very very happy with him. :) :)
 
llama112 said:
I don't believe in "the one". I believe there are multiple "the ones" (yes, I know that's a contradiction).

That being said, I love my boyfriend very much and I'm very very happy with him. :) :)
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I agree somewhat, i believe there are multiple "the ones" until you actually find "the one" :) :)

Unless of course polyamory is your thing :) :) :)
 
I have, and the way I know it is that we've stuck it out through bad times as well as good. Some of the bad times lasted a long time, and still I didn't want to be without her. Now we have a daughter and everything is strong and good. If she weren't the one, we would have never gotten to this point. I would have left like I did so many times before.
 
LuGoJ said:
I agree somewhat, i believe there are multiple "the ones" until you actually find "the one" :) :)

Unless of course polyamory is your thing :) :) :)
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I love my boyfriend a lot.
BUT ... if we didn't find each other. Would I still be happy? Would I still find someone else who would make me happy? I think so. And same for him. I'm sure that, if we didn't meet, he would be able to find someone else.
 
I don't usually hang out in this section of BL but I just wanted to say, yes there are people out there who will be 'the one'- that doesn't mean there's no one else in the world who could be Mr. Right but there are so few that we might as well call him the One when we meet him b/c it's unlikely we'll ever meet any others. If that makes any sense.

Anyway I have a 'one' and I've known him for 8 years. I knew from the moment I saw him before we ever spoke that he'd be my 'one'- I mean I was 14 years old and imagining him being my first- 5 years later that happened. I'm 22 now and we've been dating for 5 years. Proof of love at first sight. Also people like to say that the drug-like love feeling fades- yes the butterflies and the 'high' that you get when a crush texts you- those feelings fade. But think of the drug you love and crave the most - the drug you dream about having piles of- not the high you get when youre on it, but how you feel about thvdrug itself- THAT feeling grows after the high fades. Thats the kind of feeling I get about him and it's only been getting stronger over 8 years of knowing him. Believe in it.
 
I found "the one" back in 94, she was my everything as well as the one that permanently ripped my heart out in 98. I fully believe that she was my soulmate. Now that she is gone I know that I will never have anyone in my life again, it sucks but it is what is and over the years I have made my peace with it. The only thing that I look forward to now is death.
 
^ What if there's another soulmate you are about to meet but if you don't have your eyes and heart open you'll miss her?
 
There is no "the one"
If there was, of the 7 billion fucks roaming around on Earth you have a very small chance of finding them (1 in 7 billion to be precise)
 
I used to think I knew what love is........When you actually find it you quickly realize that you had no f'ing idea.

Many people never know real love, many others fall in love with someone who never loves them back, the few of us that are lucky enough to be truely loved in return can tell you that when it happens there will be no doubt in your mind.

I feel bad for those who have grown jaded over the years and scoff at the "fairy tale" love. There really are butterflies in my stomach when I think of her. Her little imperfections make me melt. She is the only person I have never gotten sick of being around after 24+ straight hours. The thought of another man touching her even innocently makes me sick to my stomach.

She is the one obsession that blows opioids out of the water.
 
my problem is i fall head over heels for certain people and i get so hurt when it doesn't turn out to be a fairy tale. there is always hope. although the world of the romantic can be painful and sometimes lonely feeling i think its worth keeping on hoping rather than giving into what you think is practical mediocrity. having said all this i guarantee i will somewhat change my tune sooner or later in the effort to not be alone forever
 
Snake_Eyes said:
I found "the one" back in 94, she was my everything as well as the one that permanently ripped my heart out in 98. I fully believe that she was my soulmate. Now that she is gone I know that I will never have anyone in my life again, it sucks but it is what is and over the years I have made my peace with it. The only thing that I look forward to now is death.
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i respect you for having the guts to say that but don't close yourself off to new opportunities. you never know. i never find what i want when im looking for it. it just comes into my life. peace
 
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