I think that you might be surprised at how female dominated the swingers culture might be, sure it sounds like every mans wet dream if you are being stereotypical but when it comes to the actual people who are doing it and the social circles which it happens are by no means male dominated.
Makes sense. Psychologically I mean. It's the woman's way of accepting things. Let me explain...
Husband tells wife he wants to swing
Wife's initial reaction is to say no
Husband persists in asking and attempting to talk her in to it
Wife eventually gives in
Wife give in under the condition that she chooses when and where because this is how she justifies saying yes.
I'm going to generalize yet again here. I currently know six different couples who do, or have been swingers.
One of those couples have split up over intimacy issues due to the husband lusting for other women. It affected their relationship and ended.
Another one ended because because the extra man that was brought in to the relationship had at some point told the wife that if she were his, he would never share her...that he would love her enough to be with he and just her.
Another couple split up because the idea of the woman's boyfriend sleeping with another woman drove a wedge between them. Over a period of time, the reality got to be too much.
Another couple ended up split up because the wife started leaving her husband out of the bedroom activities with the other woman...in the end the husband was excluded completely and then asked to leave the home.
Another couple, which happened to be my girlfriend's parents, have been swinging for years. However, the woman is extremely unhappy and wishes she would have never agreed to it.
The last couple that I know who swing has just started swinging, so they have not been affected by it's subversive effects yet.
In every last one of these cases, the swinging idea was always brought up and then pressured by the man until the woman gave in.
Now don't get me wrong, I do understand that there are couples that believe that monogamy is for the birds....when two people get together who are already hard wired that way, THAT is when the swingers relationships work. My point is, if the woman has to be talked in to it, chances are, they are signing the death warrant to their relationship in the long run.
Now, yes...this is generalizing. However, it's the truth. I don't hide behind the political correct ideas of "Let's not generalize! It's bad!" I say what is on my mind and I say the truth...I couldn't care less if that is not politically correct.
