BRIEF BACKGROUND: I grew up in a small suburban town, by the age of 14 I was smoking pot and learning how to grow it efficiently indoors. At the exact same time my friends dad saw me wearing a tie-dyed Grateful Dead shirt and told us that he was going to teach us how to grow mushrooms so that we never had to buy them from drug dealers. This was my first experience with "producing drugs" or anything more than just taking drugs, it was really my exposure to the drug culture. I can think back to this experience, which turned out entirely beneficial, and say that it was at this time that I became enamored with the drug culture. By the time I was getting ready to graduate high school I had already tried every different drug category and had developed a small opiate addiction. It was a small addiction at the time but it was an everyday addiction nonetheless. That summer I went on Phish tour and began my career as a drug seller. I quickly began to make far more money than I could ever possibly spend, either on legal things or illegal ( at that time anyways). After about three years of abusing drugs, mostly opiates, but was never a big cocaine abuser, I decided to try injecting my cocaine. Oh yeah, I was already injecting heroine, and drinking heavily, but again a 300 dollar a day or so habit was actually one that I could afford at that time. Now when you add the cocaine into the mixture it didn't make it so that my habit was unaffordable, it was just unmaintainable. I could no longer function doing what I did ( selling drugs across a variety of states, and other stuff involved with the very nucleus of the drug culture), and I certainly couldn't go on the long travelling business trips that I used to go on regularly. Normally I would spend at least six weeks out of eight on the road. So I ended up going to detox, I had already done this whenever the state would "section me" (whenever you get arrested in Mass for a drug related crime you get a section 35, and sent to detox), and had already spent plenty of times in rehab. Most inpatient drug and alcohol rehabilitation centers are a joke. They run about a month to 3 months at the most, and you typically have all the freedoms you did prior after about a month. They are 99.9999% unsuccessful. You simply can not overcome addiction in that amount of time. Detoxes are usually 7 days, the first six you are on methadone, the last day you aren't but it is still in your system, then you leave and go get high before the methadone leaves your system. While you are in detoxes or rehabs, you are made to attend AA or NA meetings. Now, if NA has been successful for you in your recovery then the last thing I want to do is discourage anybody from doing what has worked for them. I simply want to share my experience and explain a little bit about why I would recommend a different route. Whenever I would be detoxing and attend an NA meeting the guest speaker would come in and share about how they attend two to three meetings a day no matter what, everyday, because they clearly depend on this, and then I would observe how they also chain smoke ciggarettes and drink coffee cup after cup, then upon talking to them usually later, discover that they are also on a handful of prescriptions almost always including benzo's of one sort of another. Now I remember how extremely discouraging this was for me. To think "this is really what I have to look forward to?!?!?!" This guy is totally hooked on just as many things as I am? He goes to his meetings every single day like a slave just like somebody who goes to the clinic each morning or goes to the dope spot, only he doesn't get high?!?! What is the point of that? I can remember losing all motivation I had ever mustered up towards getting clean after hearing one of these guys share their testimonies. Then, after 3 years of this, seeing the exact same people in every detox and rehab, who also had been going in and out of rehab, jail, and detoxes for however old they were minus 16 years, I went to my first ever "faith-based rehab". This was where my life was finally changed FOR GOOD. I met people, former addicts, who had an entirely different worldview then one that I had ever been exposed to. These people were not living like slaves, they had changed "people, places, and things" only they didn't stop there, and there reasons for doing so were far more ambitious than "getting clean". I went to a place called "His Mansion" in New Hampshire, the first thing I noticed about faith-based programs is that they typically take a year to graduate. Oh yeah, and you are not free to do as you please after a month, this was shocking and hard to grasp at first, but somewhere deep inside my subconscious I knew that this was what I needed, I knew that nothing shy of a year was going to do for me. Now after His Mansion I was not magically cured of any and all addictions for my whole life. I know some people have testimonies like this and I am not questioning the validity of someone who says they were saved and never touched a drug again, I'm just saying that was not my case. I struggled again after graduating, however, what was radically different was that as soon as I began to use again, I knew immediately what i needed to do and realized that I was powerless to change my own circumstances. After going into another faith-based rehabilitation program I stayed there for three and a half years. After graduating I stayed there in the program to help with running it. It has now been over ten years since I have used drugs or alcohol. I do not live in some sheltered environment in the mountaintops like a monk or something. After leaving the program and moving back to Mass, where I am from, I developed a seizure disorder and was then diagnosed also with narcolepsy as well as epilepsy, as well as hepatitis C, as well as most recently liver cancer. One year after I moved home I had gotten my license back to drive, bought a car, got a full-time job, was enrolled in college, started a savings, a checking acct. established credit, blah blah blah, the list goes on. I had reconciled broken relationships and was involved in day to day ministry with my father. About three months later my father died of a massive heart attack, two months after this was when I experienced my first seizure. After being diagnosed epileptic I lost my right to drive a car, for obvious enough reasons, after more diagnosis I was forced to go onto disability and quit my full-time job, I also had to drop out of college with no way to commute. I say all that to say this, plans for your recovery are great so long as your life goes exactly as you plan it to. The reality is though, that life does not go how we plan, things come up that we are not prepared for and have no idea how to handle. This is why "behavior modification" is simply not enough. If it wasn't for the fact that my heart has been changed, not simply my behaviors, I would have undoubtedly returned right back to some sort of self-medication after I hit those bumps in the road. Instead of saying "how can I stop using drugs" ask yourself "why did I ever use a drug to start with?" You will discover that it is because you're a sinner with no chance of saving yourself, and that the only solution is to turn to Jesus Christ and say "Lord, I beg you to grant to me the faith I need to believe in you. I'm helpless on my own, just a total trainwreck, as you obviously know."
I really hope that people will read this, particularly those who have already spent some amount of their life in attempts to recover from addictions, and not just write it off as some "Jesus freak" statement. I'm a real person just like you, I used to shoot oxies, hydromorphone, coke, used to cut open fenenyl patches, used to cook bottles of ketamin on a mirror right next to the fentenyl with a blow-drier. And guess what, I still go to Phish shows, I have tickets to go to MagnaBall this summer, there is no reason I can not enjoy the good things that God created for people to enjoy. Now, however, I can truly enjoy a Phish show, without having to deal with addictions. So please, don't set the bar so low that you aim to "get clean". If that's your goal just go to prison. Aim to change your life in a way that you can be used by God to change others lives.