Interesting. Do you tend to grade movies on a different scale based on the genre? I was just thinking about this today after watching the Shape of Water. Don?t get me wrong, I thought it was a brilliant film. The production and the effects were gorgeous. It was pretty damn bold the way they handled the human/humanoid relationship. It was honestly a little uncomfortable for me at times, which I liked. They did all these things to portray the creature as animalistic, and at times their relationship seemed more like that of a woman and her dog, but then they would just drop in these sexual overtones which eventually led to actual intercourse. But I digress...
My point is, some of the points you bring up about Lady Bird I don?t consider to be as relevant because of the type of movie it was. I went in knowing it was a coming of age story about an eccentric girl (they even named the movie after her), so the fact that all the character development was centered around her didn?t strike me as lazy or egotistical. I knew Shape of Water was going to be a stylized, dark fairy tale...so I never found myself looking for plot holes or logical inconsistencies. But as I?m typing now I am almost angered by them. I could rant all night about it. Ultimately though, I won?t end up judging the film as a whole based on the plot because it let me know up front this is a fairy tale. It?s going to have a fairy tale ending.
I guess what I?m trying to say is, Shape of Water had to deliver on artistry...on production...on style...in order to be successful. I think it did. I loved it. If it had gotten bogged down with realism it would have defeated the whole purpose. Lady Bird had to deliver on emotion...on heart...on growth...and for me it did.
On the specific point of LB?s dad being a stereotype, yeah, a little. Philip Seymour Hoffman did it better in Synecdoche, New York. I didn?t think it was as egregious as you did though. Richard Jenkins character in Shape of Water was the typical aging-and-lonely gay man stereotype.
Right now, for me, I?m still pulling for Lady Bird. I?d probably put Call Me by Your Name second, and then Shape of Water after that. How can you even compare them though? They?re all so different. All that being said though, I guarantee you I will change my mind three times between now and Oscar night. Last year I thought Moonlight was miles ahead of everything else. This year it seems closer to me.