Thanks alasdair, it is re-assuring to see that there are quite a few of Bluelight members who don't approve of or enable this sort of behaviour. It's an extremely delicate subject, paedophilia, so I expected the majority of people to disagree with me. Based on the responses in this thread, alone, I was - misguidedly - starting to question the moral fibre of this website. Having been personally affected by situations like this, I am the last person you'd expect to be sympathetic. Yet, I've discovered that this is often the case.
Whether people choose to dismiss a victim's ability to sympathize, and/or - albeit, less commonly - families and friends of the victim, as "Stockholm syndrome" isn't something I can argue against. Like labelling sexual offenders as "incurable monsters" or diagnosing people with vague and unscientifically documented mental illnesses, "Stockholm syndrome" is - more often than not - an ignorant wild-card used to shut down (potentially) serious debate. Putting myself in the shoes of an outsider, I understand the reaction.
The extraordinary stubbornness of those insisting that rapists and murderers are not people and that they don't deserve to be understood, is impossible to combat. I expect that, on some level, the objection is based on a fear of what they - being of the same species - might also be capable of given less fortunate circumstances. So, the solution is to create a separate species. The monster people.
Funny that people commonly accept the fact that those who are sexually abused during their childhood have a higher statistical probability of committing similar crimes, while at the same time drawing a distinct line between predator and prey. These monsters were, often, themselves victims. And, their victims may well become tomorrow's monsters. In order to prevent this from happening, it's important to (at least) allow for a cure. Writing sexual offenders off as inhuman and undeserving of sympathy may be convenient, but - in the end - it does nothing to break the cycle.
Being sexually attracted to "children" is a biologically inherent trait. Sexually active adult cats and dogs will fuck underdeveloped mates, as they enter puberty, given no viable alternative. We, as people, deny that these animalistic tendencies exist because history has taught us that acting on these urges causes serious problems. We repress the urge so heavily that we don't believe it is there. There are some of us, though, that haven't repressed it sufficiently. And we tell them that they're monsters. So they believe it, and act accordingly.
I can't imagine how much pain someone has to be in to do something like this; how lost they must be; how far from God. It makes me sad just thinking about it, let alone encountering the sort of widespread hate-mongering that these TV shows perpetuate. It has taken me a long time to be able to pity Hitler. But, now, it seems natural. History's greatest monster was a very broken man. To be able to kill members of your own species by the millions, you'd have to hate yourself so much. It's impossible to say for sure, but I suspect he was - due to unfortunate circumstances - also, one of history's most miserable and confused men.
It is easier to hate, than to love.
cinematography is a very UK way of filming/editing
I have no idea what this means.
i was discussing this with a friend recently and he mentioned an article he read - unfortunately he couldn't recall the source so you'll have to take this at face value - in which they raised the notion that tcap actually hinders the efforts of law enforcement in general because it encourages molesters to mask their activities and take steps to ensure they can't be traced.
if (big if, i know) this is true, then supporting the show is supporting the molestation of children. supporting this show is not putting the children first. spaceyourbass - how do you feel about the fact that you are supporting the molestation of kids?
again, that last paragraph is more to show how unhelpful that style of debate is rather than actually making the point.
Alasdair
