Hey guys, need some advice.
I am absolutely wracked with guilt over something that happened the other night. I have a very close friend who is in a strictly monogamous relationship and has been for 4 years and we ended up having sex. I am usually an extremely respectful person of relationships but the chemistry between us just swept that out of the way after trying to resist and calm her down.
She has a high sex drive and while she has sex on a regular basis and enjoys it with her partner, she doesnt get affection and is starved for that. It was a cold night and we are good enough friends to share a bed and we turned in for an early night for work in the morning. We cuddled and it ended up progressing. I held off as best I could but she worked me up and it ended up happening.
Now we are both feeling guilty as she has never done it before and said it never has happened before but the hugs made her realise how much she needed affection that her partner didn't give her. I know she is committed and loves her partner truly and deeply and we are both the same level of friends despite talking at length about this and the fact it happened.
I dont know what to think. She is one of my best friends and even though she remains that way I cant help feeling that im the bad guy here and I am a douchebag for not staying strong and resisting. She isnt the bad one either because I know how committed she is and the way we both meld personality wise just ended up sweeping it out of the way even though we both had the guilt in the back of our minds holding us both back a bit.
What do I do? Ive never been the asshole and now I feel I am.
I am absolutely wracked with guilt over something that happened the other night. I have a very close friend who is in a strictly monogamous relationship and has been for 4 years and we ended up having sex. I am usually an extremely respectful person of relationships but the chemistry between us just swept that out of the way after trying to resist and calm her down.
She has a high sex drive and while she has sex on a regular basis and enjoys it with her partner, she doesnt get affection and is starved for that. It was a cold night and we are good enough friends to share a bed and we turned in for an early night for work in the morning. We cuddled and it ended up progressing. I held off as best I could but she worked me up and it ended up happening.
Now we are both feeling guilty as she has never done it before and said it never has happened before but the hugs made her realise how much she needed affection that her partner didn't give her. I know she is committed and loves her partner truly and deeply and we are both the same level of friends despite talking at length about this and the fact it happened.
I dont know what to think. She is one of my best friends and even though she remains that way I cant help feeling that im the bad guy here and I am a douchebag for not staying strong and resisting. She isnt the bad one either because I know how committed she is and the way we both meld personality wise just ended up sweeping it out of the way even though we both had the guilt in the back of our minds holding us both back a bit.
What do I do? Ive never been the asshole and now I feel I am.