TheUltimateFixx
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So I'm gonna get hitched with the guy I've been with since the start of 2014.
At least that's the fucking PLAN.
...Only some very SLIGHT obstacles here.
1. He lives in Brazil where the sociopathic and wilfully incompetent government has completely fucked up their pandemic response so is currently on the red list for travelling.
2. I live in the UK with an equally sociopathic incompetent government making us red-listed to most other countries as well.
3. Before the UK left the EU, I had the right as an EU citizen to bring a 3rd country partner over to join me WITHOUT having to abide by the ridiculous rule newly introduced by the British Home Office, which stipulates that for some reason the UK - resident half of the relationship has to cover the living expenses for BOTH all by themselves.
This has already led to situations where for example, an Englishwoman who works as a part - time teacher can't any longer be with her Pakistani citizen husband who is a literal fucking BRAIN SURGEON easily earning several times the required amount per year ; purely because HE isn't also a British national. Ok I have a ton of problems that will reliably prevent me from EVER earning even CLOSE to the £18,000 + mark that's now required.
4. Likewise the Home Office have introduced an Australian-style 'points - based' system of merit for any aspiring 3rd country foreign resident. Basically grading human beings by their economic usefulness. This even excludes professions like nurses which this country right now is in dire need of, because apparently that's classed as an 'unskilled' job. They only want the very top level potential earners in this country now. My partner has worked in the building trade and the police so has more applicable 'skills' than myself ;but because he was taught on the job in both cases and entered without formal qualifications due to poverty, and also these jobs don't command ridiculous earnings even WITH formal qualification, those skills are deemed worthless.
5. He's had two shots of the vaccine but all he could get was Sinovac which is vastly inferior to other approved vaccines. He has COPD requiring a medicated inhaler on a regular basis ; is pre - diabetic and overweight. His survival chances should he catch it aren't great.
6. Right now basically I stopped letting myself dream of a better life together because it seems so far off the cards.
If I get to see him one more time before he dies that's all I still hold out hope for.
... And this whole damn situation is what got me suicidal the other day.
Like thanks to meeting him I could FINALLY look into the future with joy and anticipation instead of terror and despondency ; and now it seems like right on the threshold a pandemic plus fucking xenophobic politics will snatch away what hope of a life worth living I ever felt that I had.
At least that's the fucking PLAN.
...Only some very SLIGHT obstacles here.
1. He lives in Brazil where the sociopathic and wilfully incompetent government has completely fucked up their pandemic response so is currently on the red list for travelling.
2. I live in the UK with an equally sociopathic incompetent government making us red-listed to most other countries as well.
3. Before the UK left the EU, I had the right as an EU citizen to bring a 3rd country partner over to join me WITHOUT having to abide by the ridiculous rule newly introduced by the British Home Office, which stipulates that for some reason the UK - resident half of the relationship has to cover the living expenses for BOTH all by themselves.
This has already led to situations where for example, an Englishwoman who works as a part - time teacher can't any longer be with her Pakistani citizen husband who is a literal fucking BRAIN SURGEON easily earning several times the required amount per year ; purely because HE isn't also a British national. Ok I have a ton of problems that will reliably prevent me from EVER earning even CLOSE to the £18,000 + mark that's now required.
4. Likewise the Home Office have introduced an Australian-style 'points - based' system of merit for any aspiring 3rd country foreign resident. Basically grading human beings by their economic usefulness. This even excludes professions like nurses which this country right now is in dire need of, because apparently that's classed as an 'unskilled' job. They only want the very top level potential earners in this country now. My partner has worked in the building trade and the police so has more applicable 'skills' than myself ;but because he was taught on the job in both cases and entered without formal qualifications due to poverty, and also these jobs don't command ridiculous earnings even WITH formal qualification, those skills are deemed worthless.
5. He's had two shots of the vaccine but all he could get was Sinovac which is vastly inferior to other approved vaccines. He has COPD requiring a medicated inhaler on a regular basis ; is pre - diabetic and overweight. His survival chances should he catch it aren't great.
6. Right now basically I stopped letting myself dream of a better life together because it seems so far off the cards.
If I get to see him one more time before he dies that's all I still hold out hope for.
... And this whole damn situation is what got me suicidal the other day.
Like thanks to meeting him I could FINALLY look into the future with joy and anticipation instead of terror and despondency ; and now it seems like right on the threshold a pandemic plus fucking xenophobic politics will snatch away what hope of a life worth living I ever felt that I had.
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