ZayKayWill
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So what I'm getting at is...
Imagine you and your SO wanted to go on vacation, but for some reason you weren't able to go (financial reasons, gotta work etc), but your SO was still able to go. Would you still let them go or would you ask them not to? If you weren't to go either they would be going alone or they would be going with their friend(s).
Not sure if you guys have heard of Quora but there was a guy who had a girlfriend that was gonna go on a 2 day vacation with another guy friend. The boyfriend asked the Quora users if he should be worried. The majority of them said yes he should be worried. In his specific situation I can understand why people took his side. It would seem kinda shady that the girl would intentionally try to go without him. I'm talking about a different situation though.
Say you and your SO had planned a trip together with other friends as well. If you couldn't go would you be uncomfortable with your SO still going without you? Would you let them go if they were alone? With friends of the same sex?
This is just me, but I think I would let my girlfriend go. I'm gonna be honest I posted this same question in another forum and most people said they wouldn't be okay with their partner going with a friend of the opposite sex, but if it was them alone or with someone of the same sex they would be okay with it. Which I honestly find weird. Don't you think if they wanted to they could still find another person of the opposite sex to cheat on them with? Don't get me wrong I can understand people getting uncomfortable about that kind of situation, especially since its a vacation setting and there would be alcohol involved. Even the most trustworthy of people get tempted to do stuff that they swear on their lives they wouldn't do. I've done this kind of thing before, though. A couple of times actually. Once was a concert in California with a 'girl' friend of mine. Her bf didn't care and nothing happened. I think we even shared a bed together (no other place to sleep). Still nothing happened. Also have another friend who I've vacationed with a number of times with drinking involved and we still didn't do anything crazy. Both are very attractive women too.
If my girlfriend wasn't comfortable with me doing that to her I wouldn't do it because like I said it's normal to get uncomfortable about these things (especially when its a girl since most guys wouldn't turn down an opportunity for sex if a girl were to come on to them). I would let her go, though. The temptation could and probably would be there, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they'll let those temptations control them. Idk call me naive but I feel if you truly respect your partner you wouldn't let your temptations drive you. And again I'm not saying they INTENTIONALLY wanna go without you. Just what would you tell them if they asked you how you felt about them still wanting to go?
Imagine you and your SO wanted to go on vacation, but for some reason you weren't able to go (financial reasons, gotta work etc), but your SO was still able to go. Would you still let them go or would you ask them not to? If you weren't to go either they would be going alone or they would be going with their friend(s).
Not sure if you guys have heard of Quora but there was a guy who had a girlfriend that was gonna go on a 2 day vacation with another guy friend. The boyfriend asked the Quora users if he should be worried. The majority of them said yes he should be worried. In his specific situation I can understand why people took his side. It would seem kinda shady that the girl would intentionally try to go without him. I'm talking about a different situation though.
Say you and your SO had planned a trip together with other friends as well. If you couldn't go would you be uncomfortable with your SO still going without you? Would you let them go if they were alone? With friends of the same sex?
This is just me, but I think I would let my girlfriend go. I'm gonna be honest I posted this same question in another forum and most people said they wouldn't be okay with their partner going with a friend of the opposite sex, but if it was them alone or with someone of the same sex they would be okay with it. Which I honestly find weird. Don't you think if they wanted to they could still find another person of the opposite sex to cheat on them with? Don't get me wrong I can understand people getting uncomfortable about that kind of situation, especially since its a vacation setting and there would be alcohol involved. Even the most trustworthy of people get tempted to do stuff that they swear on their lives they wouldn't do. I've done this kind of thing before, though. A couple of times actually. Once was a concert in California with a 'girl' friend of mine. Her bf didn't care and nothing happened. I think we even shared a bed together (no other place to sleep). Still nothing happened. Also have another friend who I've vacationed with a number of times with drinking involved and we still didn't do anything crazy. Both are very attractive women too.
If my girlfriend wasn't comfortable with me doing that to her I wouldn't do it because like I said it's normal to get uncomfortable about these things (especially when its a girl since most guys wouldn't turn down an opportunity for sex if a girl were to come on to them). I would let her go, though. The temptation could and probably would be there, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they'll let those temptations control them. Idk call me naive but I feel if you truly respect your partner you wouldn't let your temptations drive you. And again I'm not saying they INTENTIONALLY wanna go without you. Just what would you tell them if they asked you how you felt about them still wanting to go?
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