tubgirl.jpg your line-by-line argumentation on the definition of sober, is a bit much. Sobriety is what we make of it. There are so many opinions on what sobriety is: dictionary, medical, recovery (AA, NA, etc.), religious (Christian, Buddhist, and on), socially, and so on. You say you aren't trying to pick a fight, but what you are saying indicates otherwise and feels passive aggressive with the smiley at the end. Because there are so many varied definitions and because of people who make the statement "Sober is completely clean, nothing in the system." I say "I have been active in recovery for nearly 10 years."
What does that statement of being active in recovery mean? It means that I'm an addict and I fucking know it. I know that if I start using opiates again, I will very likely end up killing myself or putting my life into a place where I never want to be. So, I go to AA meetings. I go to AA bc every NA meeting I was in had a lot less stability and people were a lot more militant about being "SOBER". If that's what you want, cool. I know that opiate maintenance saved my life. It was only in the last year that I have been able to no longer be reliant on it. It took me 9 years of self-work to get to that point. It isn't just working a program either. I meditate daily. I read, write, think, and talk about philosophy & theology with people. I have a sponsor who knows that I will occasionally have 1 beer with a friend. Also, I work with people who are also addicts. I talk to a therapist. My wife and I talk about it and because we talk about it our marriage is pretty good. Past that, I have done academic work in the past (grad school) on how people communicate regarding recovery, addiction, and sobriety. (A big thank you to Bluelight for being part of my data for that work.)
By my definition, as someone who can speak to it from a lived, practiced, and academic standpoint, sobriety is: "Refraining from the use of substances that I know will cause harm to my well-being." That's the short version. If anyone wants to have a serious conversation with me about it, I am happy to do so. I am not anonymous on Bluelight, if you want to Zoom or call to talk about it, I'm up for that. This notion that sobriety is a fixed definition, and that the fixed definition can work for everyone... That isn't something that works or is healthy for a lot of addicts I know, including myself.