Today, its all about who you have met on the outside........well some of us dont meet others on the outside or dont have the oportuninty.....so does that mean it is right to exclude those that have not had that oportunity??
I must disagree.
I befriended *many* people on BL, was involved in many in depth discussions on a variety of subjects
way before I ever 'met them on the outside'.
we found a sense of belonging that you could not find in the 'Real' world.
Are you implying that the members of Bluelight, particularly the (*gasp*) 'elitist members of the evil cliques' are some sort of ghastly freaks that are not to be accepted in any forum outside of the internet?
Personally, and I think I speak for many of us here, Bluelight is a large
part of our life...it's not our entire life.
Beleive it or not we
do have family, coworkers, even...yes...
friends outside the realm of Bluelight Social.
It's a mere post script that we happened to meet and grow to love
other people (or...friends) on Bluelight...in any forum...be it Social, Otherdrugs, S&PP...
Sadly I feel we really are trapped in a vicious cycle now...
The same points are going to be repeated over and over, only worded differently.
The facts are still the facts though.
There are *very few restrictions* on what can and can't be posted in this forum.
When you come into social...what factors determine which thread(s) you will open?
I would venture to say there are really two major factors:
1) Topic
2) Who started the post.
It may not be in that order for everyone, but it's still true.
Is it wrong for me to open only posts that interest me?
Of course not.
I admit to scanning the forum, looking at who posted what, and going from there.
Yes, I tend to open posts my 'friends' have made first...
It's not so different from this 'real world' you keep referring to...which you seem to think I have little or no experience in...
Let's say I'm invited to a party...I show up...who do I migrate to?
The people I know and am most comfortable with.
I don't go to that party and choose to associate ONLY with those people.
I don't look down upon or assault those people I don't know, or am not associating with.
I, as are most other attendees of this party (and members of Bluelight Social), am more than willing to meet, greet and befriend 'strangers'.
Like they said...you want to be accepted? You want to make some friends? You want to be respected? You want to get noticed?
Then put forth some effort.
How are we supposed get to know someone who never speaks?
How are we supposed to grow close to someone who doesn't make themselves available?
It's not practical for those already in this so-called 'inner cirlce' to try and reach out to the
thousands of inactive members.
It's only feasible for those who are not getting any attention, or do not have friends,
but want to have that attention, or friends, to come forward and speak up.
I can think of MANY examples of people who have joined the board, put forth an effort, and made friends in a matter of weeks.
As with most everything in life, you're going to get out of social what you put in.