My gay lover and I have been together for more than 25 years and we have a very stable relationship, however, lately (over the past year), I find myself looking at black men in a more sexual nature than I ever have. Don't get me wrong, I love my partner very much and that will never change, but the one thing I never had the opportunity to do was have sex with a black man and lately I really have this urge to try it. The problem is my partner is not attracted to black men and I don't know how to bridge this conversation with him. We've had many threeways, fourways etc over the years, but never with this ethnicity. When we first met and got together, I was barely 19 years old so there are many things that I never really got to try when I was younger and thats never been a problem, but now the feeling of trying this one thing is getting stronger and stronger. How does one begin this sort of communication knowing that the other has no interest. I will not cheat on him, I would rather be honest and open about it, i'm just now sure how he might handle something like this. I also have this fantasy of playing this out but having him watch and getting so turned on that he joins in. I doubt that would happen but still I guess there's a chance right? The other part of that is trying it with two black guys and being in the middle. I think that would be the ultimate night. Any advise??