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Viagra and girlfriend

Survival0200

Survival0200

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After some unsuccessfull attempts to have sex with my girlfriend - I decided to get Viagra. Now I can get a good erection, but I have to take the pill. Do we have to make a plan to have sex with my girlfriend before doing it? That's really unromantic. I don't want to take it without telling her, because she obviously knows about my problem and probably still thinks I'm unable to do it. How do others on Viagra and relationship deal with these issues?
 
If she knows about the problem, it shouldn't be too difficult to navigate @Survival0200 The viagra might take 30+ mins to kick in, but there's surely plenty of foreplay you can be up to while you're waiting for it to happen? Get creative and use it as an opportunity to try new things :)
 
arrall said:
I believe that many men instead use Cialis as it lasts far longer, I could be wrong on that though.
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By "lasts longer" it means Cialis as a medication stays in your system longer. With Viagra, you take it and xx minutes later you get a boner that won't go away for several hours. With Cialis, you take it in the morning and forget about it. When sexy time comes along, your boner will arrive right on time.

FYI I've never used either but this is loosely how it has been explained to me.
 
Survival0200 said:
After some unsuccessfull attempts to have sex with my girlfriend - I decided to get Viagra. Now I can get a good erection, but I have to take the pill. Do we have to make a plan to have sex with my girlfriend before doing it? That's really unromantic. I don't want to take it without telling her, because she obviously knows about my problem and probably still thinks I'm unable to do it. How do others on Viagra and relationship deal with these issues?
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I would be honest with my gf and communicate with her that hey, I've been unable to perform so I got this cool little pill. I would keep her in the loop. And there is nothing wrong with planning ahead for sex. It doesn't always have to be spontaneous like in the movies.
 
Survival0200 said:
After some unsuccessfull attempts to have sex with my girlfriend - I decided to get Viagra. Now I can get a good erection, but I have to take the pill. Do we have to make a plan to have sex with my girlfriend before doing it? That's really unromantic. I don't want to take it without telling her, because she obviously knows about my problem and probably still thinks I'm unable to do it. How do others on Viagra and relationship deal with these issues?
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Foreplay during the 20-30 minutes it takes to kick in. Heavy making out, oral sex, etc. learn to be a giver.
 
If you're taking viagra for sex, find somebody else. Intimacy fades in most relationships. If you can't get it up with a girl, it generally a sign it's not meant to be.
Granted there are millions of sexless marriages that continue and the partners couple.
It's equivocal to sex as a drug. And that's offish. There are plenty of good drugs to get off on.
Then I'm using drugs as sex basically. Or to suppress my boners. Which I still get, with no girl to bang.
Psychedelics enhance intimacy. We're up, we're in.
 
ions said:
If you're taking viagra for sex, find somebody else.
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Depends on the reason for needing the Viagra. If you really don't find your partner attractive then maybe it's not meant to be but OP hasn't said that's the case.
 
Viagra is for ED problems only. It has absolutely nothing to do with libido.

If you want to make sex more interesting you're going to have to increase your testosterone. Go work out and eat some meat.
 
Yeah man pop the pill, kissing, going down on her a while, then after she's hopefully orgasmed once or twice, it should be about right.

It seems like there's no way of hiding this really, unless Cialis works the way Jerry says, which definitely sounds looking into.

Your partner should hopefully be understanding of this if she's worth keeping. Women over 25 tend to know that dicks can malfunction anyway.

May I ask if you know the source of your wood problems?
 
ions said:
If you need viagra, find a new partner.
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Sorry, but that screams bollocks. There are numerous reasons for erectile dysfunction, some like SSRIs and beta blockers cause it and no degree of love or wanting sex will overcome (not to mention just plain getting older), as well as numerous psychological reasons. I loved my late wife wholehartedly and thought she was the sexiest woman I knew, but vascular problems, that lead to a heart attack and subsequent medication for them, caused problems keeping an erection (as well as being past my half century) and would have done, regardless of any desire I felt.
 
arrall said:
I believe that many men instead use Cialis as it lasts far longer, I could be wrong on that though.
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36-42 hours, as opposed to 4-5 hours. When my GP suggested Viagra, I asked for Cialis, as I could take it on a Fri night and be good to go until Sunday lunchtime. On seeing his slightly surprised look, I simply mentioned we had lots of time to make up for... 😁
 
I have a preference for vardenafil > tadalafil > sildenafil.

Sildenafil seems to have the most potent effect, especially over tadalafil, which I find pretty weak and inconsistent, even on a hefty dose (60-90mg) those times I've been too enthusiastic with the stims and can't get hard. However, sildenafil is all migraines and blue vision for me, and metabolises so fast I have to keep redosing.

Vardenafil, otoh, hits the sweet spot for me: good duration of action, stronger than tadalafil, and few other side-effects.
 
Sildenafil is best taken sublingually in my experience, requires a lower dose and kicks in within 10 minutes. I take it sometimes when I've had excessive stimulants (although sometimes I'll take it when I don't actually need it, just for a little extra oomph), but only consume it sublingually (using a chunk of a tablet, at low doses like 20-30mg). I have tadalafil but don't like the idea of that stuff lingering around in my system.

CFC said:
Vardenafil, otoh, hits the sweet spot for me: good duration of action, stronger than tadalafil, and few other side-effects.
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Interesting, I'll order some. Side-effects are less severe than sildenafil? The vasocongestion in the sinuses that sildenafil causes is no fun.
 
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