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indecisive_dude
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Dear Bluelight,
I'm not really sure where to start... I'm a male in my early thirties and have been partial to butt play since being a teenager.
Sometimes I don't waste any thoughts on that subject for months, and then there are times when I'm obsessed with it for days (I use toys like butt plugs, dildos or vibrators – which sometimes makes me come just from anal stimulation, without touching myself) until the urge is satisfied for a while. Oddly enough, just when I climax, all desires regarding receiving anal disappear into thin air, from one second to another.
I have to say that I have only had sex with a couple of girls and haven't brought up the subject with any one of them (mostly because they were only brief flings). Thus, one of my biggest unfulfilled fantasies is having active anal sex with a girl and also receiving (by means of a strap on) anal; especially fantasizing about the latter drives me crazy.
However, as some of you may know, this is a difficult topic to bring up with women because many of them consider men who like receiving anal unmanly or maybe even homosexual. Driving away a nice, attractive woman would be the last thing I want...
A few weeks ago, I felt the urge again and just out of curiosity, posted an ad on a site comparable to Craigslist (as you may have noticed, I'm not a U.S. citizen, let alone native English speaker) looking for someone to gently pop my butt cherry. I added a disclaimer that I'm not interested in any other sexual practices whatsoever. I had posted ads looking for a woman doing me with a strap on before, but never received any answers. So I targeted everyone interested this time, even though I never considered receiving anal from another man before. Just to see if I receive an answer...
And what can I say, two men living nearby answered a couple of minutes later, one of them built similar to myself (rather slim, according to the photo they sent me) and almost exactly my age. He showed interest in doing me gently (using a condom, of course). The thing is that men don't physically attract me at all. I can acknowledge if a man has a toned body, but other than an attractive woman, a man's body doesn't get me excited at all. The only benefit to the male physique would be the dick...
So, I didn't answer the dude's message, but have been thinking about it ever since... what it would feel like sliding his claimed 7 inches, 5.5 around up my lubed butt.
As I mentioned, when masturbating with anal play, I get turned off the second I climax. I'm afraid if I really go for it and have a dude do me up the ass, I'll be like "wtf have I done" as soon as I'm finished, which would be super awkward. Also, I'm afraid of being grossed out for having had a dude stick his dick up my butt. As mentioned, the only thing I'd want afterwards would be a hot girl snuggling up.
What should I do now? Get a hooker/dominatrix to use a strap on on me in order to avoid the aforementioned dilemma? Take the risk of an emotional fuck-up and take a dick up the ass? Don't act on the fantasy at all and hope for it to go away? (I reckon doing nothing won't work, but I might be wrong...)
Maybe somebody else has been in a similar situation and can give some advice.
Thanks for reading and have a nice day.
I'm not really sure where to start... I'm a male in my early thirties and have been partial to butt play since being a teenager.
Sometimes I don't waste any thoughts on that subject for months, and then there are times when I'm obsessed with it for days (I use toys like butt plugs, dildos or vibrators – which sometimes makes me come just from anal stimulation, without touching myself) until the urge is satisfied for a while. Oddly enough, just when I climax, all desires regarding receiving anal disappear into thin air, from one second to another.
I have to say that I have only had sex with a couple of girls and haven't brought up the subject with any one of them (mostly because they were only brief flings). Thus, one of my biggest unfulfilled fantasies is having active anal sex with a girl and also receiving (by means of a strap on) anal; especially fantasizing about the latter drives me crazy.
However, as some of you may know, this is a difficult topic to bring up with women because many of them consider men who like receiving anal unmanly or maybe even homosexual. Driving away a nice, attractive woman would be the last thing I want...
A few weeks ago, I felt the urge again and just out of curiosity, posted an ad on a site comparable to Craigslist (as you may have noticed, I'm not a U.S. citizen, let alone native English speaker) looking for someone to gently pop my butt cherry. I added a disclaimer that I'm not interested in any other sexual practices whatsoever. I had posted ads looking for a woman doing me with a strap on before, but never received any answers. So I targeted everyone interested this time, even though I never considered receiving anal from another man before. Just to see if I receive an answer...
And what can I say, two men living nearby answered a couple of minutes later, one of them built similar to myself (rather slim, according to the photo they sent me) and almost exactly my age. He showed interest in doing me gently (using a condom, of course). The thing is that men don't physically attract me at all. I can acknowledge if a man has a toned body, but other than an attractive woman, a man's body doesn't get me excited at all. The only benefit to the male physique would be the dick...
So, I didn't answer the dude's message, but have been thinking about it ever since... what it would feel like sliding his claimed 7 inches, 5.5 around up my lubed butt.
As I mentioned, when masturbating with anal play, I get turned off the second I climax. I'm afraid if I really go for it and have a dude do me up the ass, I'll be like "wtf have I done" as soon as I'm finished, which would be super awkward. Also, I'm afraid of being grossed out for having had a dude stick his dick up my butt. As mentioned, the only thing I'd want afterwards would be a hot girl snuggling up.
What should I do now? Get a hooker/dominatrix to use a strap on on me in order to avoid the aforementioned dilemma? Take the risk of an emotional fuck-up and take a dick up the ass? Don't act on the fantasy at all and hope for it to go away? (I reckon doing nothing won't work, but I might be wrong...)
Maybe somebody else has been in a similar situation and can give some advice.
Thanks for reading and have a nice day.