Destroyedbill
Greenlighter
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- Jan 23, 2016
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Firstly, hi. I appreciate you taking the time to mull my problems over.
my wife and I have been married since 2000. In 2004 I moved away for a few months with work. Our relationship had got stressful, and I had started taking meds to deal with it. They made me go a lot loopy, and I had a bad 18 months sleeping (protected) around. I confessed all about a year later. My wife worked me over, really stuck it into me as to what a sex mad bastard I was. A few months later she admitted that she had had a one night stand with my best friend. Obviously I forgave her, as she had forgiven me. In the mean time, we went on to have 3 children, and she would remind me when I got a bit perky how I was a useless sex mad jerk.
Anyway 8 years pass, and then she drops a bomb shell on me that her one night stand with my best friend had actually been a 5 year affair, overlapping the conception of our first child (he's mine). The troubles I had had in 2004 that drove me to medicate myself were not in my head as she kept telling me at the time, but rather, they were the manifestations of her sneaking around, and me subliminally knowing.
So as I said she has been faithful to me for 8 years, we have 3 children together, but this is starting to drive me a lot loopy, I'm running on about 3-4 hours sleep and have developed a twitch. I've piled weight on, and have huge suicidal thoughts. Sex is a chore for her, she is an unhappy house wife, and daydreams of better things all day.
I don't know that I'm asking for help, or not. Writing this down in itself may make me more able to cope, leaving is not an option. I will not allow her to bring up 3 dysfunctional children on her own, I'm the only sanity my boys seem to have. Barely an hour goes by when I don't want to kill my ex best friend. I won't obviously, but it's the thought that counts.
Anyway, I've said enough, I think you get the picture. You probably think I have brought this all on myself, maybe I have. Some people just deserve unmitigated unhappiness. Maybe I'm destined to be one of them
my wife and I have been married since 2000. In 2004 I moved away for a few months with work. Our relationship had got stressful, and I had started taking meds to deal with it. They made me go a lot loopy, and I had a bad 18 months sleeping (protected) around. I confessed all about a year later. My wife worked me over, really stuck it into me as to what a sex mad bastard I was. A few months later she admitted that she had had a one night stand with my best friend. Obviously I forgave her, as she had forgiven me. In the mean time, we went on to have 3 children, and she would remind me when I got a bit perky how I was a useless sex mad jerk.
Anyway 8 years pass, and then she drops a bomb shell on me that her one night stand with my best friend had actually been a 5 year affair, overlapping the conception of our first child (he's mine). The troubles I had had in 2004 that drove me to medicate myself were not in my head as she kept telling me at the time, but rather, they were the manifestations of her sneaking around, and me subliminally knowing.
So as I said she has been faithful to me for 8 years, we have 3 children together, but this is starting to drive me a lot loopy, I'm running on about 3-4 hours sleep and have developed a twitch. I've piled weight on, and have huge suicidal thoughts. Sex is a chore for her, she is an unhappy house wife, and daydreams of better things all day.
I don't know that I'm asking for help, or not. Writing this down in itself may make me more able to cope, leaving is not an option. I will not allow her to bring up 3 dysfunctional children on her own, I'm the only sanity my boys seem to have. Barely an hour goes by when I don't want to kill my ex best friend. I won't obviously, but it's the thought that counts.
Anyway, I've said enough, I think you get the picture. You probably think I have brought this all on myself, maybe I have. Some people just deserve unmitigated unhappiness. Maybe I'm destined to be one of them